Well if this isn't the biggest kick in the ass...

[sidious618]

Boy, do I feel like an idiot. I've been talking to this girl in one of my college classes and we were really hitting it off. So one day I asked her out, she said she was single and would like to go out, and we exchanged numbers. I called the other day and she didn't call back.

So, I saw one of her friends and the conversation went something like this:

Me: "Hey, do you know what's up with [the girl]?"
Her: "What do you mean?"
Me: "She never called me back after I called."
Her: "Oh, she will. It's not like it's serious, though, right? I wouldn't worry about it."
Me: "What do you mean?"
Her: "Well her boyfriend will be back from college soon."
Me: "...what?!"
Her: "You didn't know?"
Me: "No."
Her: "Yeah, it's complicated and all. She's not really sure who she wants but she'll almost certianly get with this guy when he comes back."
Me: "Well, I appreciate being told."

It was at this point, after she left, that I internally screamed, "WHAT?!" Seriously, what type of person does that? I was clearly very interested in her so she knew it wasn't just a piss off thing.

Honestly, why would someone do something like this? Why?

 

[Gertch]

This is one of those life lessons you learn about people. Some will keep someone on the side in case the primary boyfriend is out of the picture. Been there. Move on and smile because you didn't get tangled up with her.

 

[sidious618]

This is one of those life lessons you learn about people. Some will keep someone on the side in case the primary boyfriend is out of the picture. Been there. Move on and smile because you didn't get tangled up with her.

Gertch, we've had our problems in the past, and probably will again in the future, but that's some solid advice.

 

[Alpha Romeo]

You're both in college...maybe she wants to play a little on the side. What's wrong with that? When I was in college I had three or four girlfriends at a time. Good times..

 

[JonathonWally]

Find a new chick. After hanging out with you, you're money bro, you're better than being "the guy on the side"

 

[sidious618]

Find a new chick. After hanging out with you, you're money bro, you're better than being "the guy on the side"

Thanks, Jono. I appreciate it.

 

[miraclefan]

 

[TheLonelySquire]

Boy, do I feel like an idiot. I've been talking to this girl in one of my college classes and we were really hitting it off. So one day I asked her out, she said she was single and would like to go out, and we exchanged numbers. I called the other day and she didn't call back.

So, I saw one of her friends and the conversation went something like this:

Me: "Hey, do you know what's up with [the girl]?"
Her: "What do you mean?"
Me: "She never called me back after I called."
Her: "Oh, she will. It's not like it's serious, though, right? I wouldn't worry about it."
Me: "What do you mean?"
Her: "Well her boyfriend will be back from college soon."
Me: "...what?!"
Her: "You didn't know?"
Me: "No."
Her: "Yeah, it's complicated and all. She's not really sure who she wants but she'll almost certianly get with this guy when he comes back."
Me: "Well, I appreciate being told."

It was at this point, after she left, that I internally screamed, "WHAT?!" Seriously, what type of person does that? I was clearly very interested in her so she knew it wasn't just a piss off thing.

Honestly, why would someone do something like this? Why?

Chicks man. Chicks.

 

[TheLonelySquire]

You're both in college...maybe she wants to play a little on the side. What's wrong with that? When I was in college I had three or four girlfriends at a time. Good times..

And there's nothing wrong with it if you are honest about it. Was she? Were you?

 

[sidious618]

Thanks.

 

[Gertch]

This is one of those life lessons you learn about people. Some will keep someone on the side in case the primary boyfriend is out of the picture. Been there. Move on and smile because you didn't get tangled up with her.

Gertch, we've had our problems in the past, and probably will again in the future, but that's some solid advice.

Trek is thicker than water.

 

[Lookingglassman]

Mama says, "Women are the devil!"

 

[sidious618]

Mama says, "Women are the devil!"

That's definately not true. However, I've had a bad run of getting with destructive women.

 

[Shatmandu]

Honestly, why would someone do something like this? Why?

Sounds like she was unsure about her relationship with the other guy.

Maybe he called her and smoothed things out.

It sucks. Remember it.

Joe, who sucks

 

[Tim]

Seriously, what type of person does that?

Sadly, more people than you'd think.

 

[K-Star]

Eh, if I ever had a boy I wouldn't be looking at other boys. Just finally having SOMEONE would be enough! Of course, this keeps my options narrowed when I end up with a crush on someone (I'll like that person and only that person, and won't pursue potential relationships with someone else... which could present a problem if the crush isn't interested in return.)

I'm STILL trying to get over my last crush so I can try hooking up with another guy... I was SO CLOSE last time!!! If I'd spoken up and told him how I felt before he decided he was gonna move we totally would've been a couple!!!

 

[Emher]

Seriously, what type of person does that?

Sadly, more people than you'd think.

Yeah I submit my ex and my latest crush to the evidence pile.

It's just one these odd things that people do sadly. I'm with K-Star on this one, where I in a relationship I would not be trying to get it on with other people, but for some reason a lot of people, especially young people, do not reason this way.

 

[SicOne]

You're both in college...maybe she wants to play a little on the side. What's wrong with that? When I was in college I had three or four girlfriends at a time. Good times..

And there's nothing wrong with it if you are honest about it. Was she? Were you?

Seriously, what type of person does that?

Sadly, more people than you'd think.

They are correct, man. It is completely normal for someone, both men and women, actually, to have a "sure thing" on the sidelines, flipping that burger every once in a while to prevent burning, while focusing most of their efforts on their main person.

As long as you understand that and don't take it personally (which is not as easy as it sounds).

Gotta go for now, but will be back to check in later tonight. On glorious vacation for the next two weeks, so anyone wanting to discuss in greater detail and discretion, feel free to PM me. Dr. SicOne is in.

 

[Emher]

Excuse me but how the fuck are you not supossed to take that personal?

 

[sidious618]

Excuse me but how the fuck are you not supossed to take that personal?

It's tough but I see what he means. I think it's a shitty thing to do but it also means that I wasn't discarded as a loser and that she did/does like me so that's nice. I guess.

Ah, well, onwards and upwards.