I can't speak for everyone, and I know that there are probably different types of men out there that are into such things, but as a man, there is no greater turn off than a dominatrix type woman.
It might be more of a Hollywood thing to depict guys getting all excited over a cruel, hot, domineering woman. Hollywood has been known to create stereotypes before...that just can't be found in regular society.
It might be more of a Hollywood thing to depict guys getting all excited over a cruel, hot, domineering woman. Hollywood has been known to create stereotypes before...that just can't be found in regular society.

She was 40 at the time Voyager started, so it wouldn't have occurred to any of these execs to perceive her as a sexual being. Just looking at all the other Trek women (thinking of regulars only: Uhura, Troi, Crusher, Yar, Kira, Dax, Torres, Kes, Seven, Hoshi, T'Pol), I do think the decision-makers found sex appeal essential for them in a way it just wasn't for the men -- if not a singular main concern, at least co-equal to whatever else they saw as the most important qualities of the role. Writing this out, I'm suddenly struck we never had a quirky female alien regular, in the mold of Quark, Neelix, or Phlox.
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