This is why I don't even bother asking women out anymore!
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Wow, that's some armchair psychology right there. You realize that you're just judging a person's character based on only one sentence and a very rough description of the context?
That's bizarre. I kind of expected better from you.
Whilst I'm not disageeing with what you are saying, I can see the OP point. If all you ever get is rejections and you aren't restricting yourself to a particular type (before someone says try a different type). Some people have an easier time with dates and maybe get rejected 9 times out of 10, for others is 99 times out of a hundred. Or another way they get 9 date ouf 100, whilst the other gets 1 out a 100. Mathmatically it might not seem like a big difference. But when it actually comes to matters of the heart it can be a lot easier to take 9 rejections rather than 99.
Verily, there is much wisdom in this post.
As for those things the women said to you...... literally the first time I've heard of such responses.
Heh, Compared to some of the shit I used to hear, Kommander's experiences are realitivley benign.
On two separate occasions I asked a woman out and was told to my face, "Do you really think I'd go out with a retarded crippled freak like you?". And the second woman flat out told me that because I was in a wheelchair, I wasn't worthy of being alive, and I should just go kill myself and stop being a drain on resources that could go to people who deserved them more than I ever would.
You should start recording your conversations. You could destroy people with those kind of statements.Verily, there is much wisdom in this post.
As for those things the women said to you...
Heh, Compared to some of the shit I used to hear, Kommander's experiences are realitivley benign.
On two separate occasions I asked a woman out and was told to my face, "Do you really think I'd go out with a retarded crippled freak like you?". And the second woman flat out told me that because I was in a wheelchair, I wasn't worthy of being alive, and I should just go kill myself and stop being a drain on resources that could go to people who deserved them more than I ever would.
Before I had a girlfriend, the stuff I described was a recurring theme, of which those two examples were the most extreme.
I guess that means most women were insane.
Maybe this is just my ambulatory privilege talking, but is that really the normal experience? Because that's just horrible.
I really can't imagine it is. I mean, I can see that probably lots of women don't want to date a guy in a wheelchair, that makes sense. I could even see some of them being blunt and saying that's the reason why when shooting ya down. But, "are you kidding you fucking cripple, go roll yourself off a cliff and save some taxpayer dollars?" I'm not surprised people would think that, because people are probably the worst thing to ever evolve on planet earth, but to actually SAY it? Yikes!
Well, to be fair, that only happened to me that one time.
What can I say? Some people are just fucked up.
As for it being the normal experience, No. That didn't always happen. Most of the time my "shoot-downs" cinsisted of "Sorry, I have a boyfriend, or husband, or both, but thanks fr asking".
It was just those two that stand out in my memory, for obvious reasons.
Randy, that is some seriously bad shit. I'm actually shocked because I've never met any woman who are the types to say those kinds of things to somebody.
The asshole trait is usually reserved for men, but in this case it seems some women out there are quite frankly, assholes themselves. I've known some women who've been less than honest about their reasons for not wanting to date or have a relationship with some men. This usually boils down to not wanting to hurt the persons feelings. Then again, I've often questioned myself whether some women do this in order to preserve the perception that they are a nice person and not shallow (when they really want to date a guy based on his looks).
All in all though, most people are decent. I live in the UK and whilst our current culture is filled with more people that I don't get on with than people who I do get on with, It's still pretty bareable.
I have difficulties with women, I don't mind explaining that. But my lack of success, although it's occasionly upsetting for me doesn't really impact on a day to day basis.
The asshole trait is usually reserved for men, but in this case it seems some women out there are quite frankly, assholes themselves. I've known some women who've been less than honest about their reasons for not wanting to date or have a relationship with some men. This usually boils down to not wanting to hurt the persons feelings. Then again, I've often questioned myself whether some women do this in order to preserve the perception that they are a nice person and not shallow (when they really want to date a guy based on his looks).
All in all though, most people are decent. I live in the UK and whilst our current culture is filled with more people that I don't get on with than people who I do get on with, It's still pretty bareable.
I have difficulties with women, I don't mind explaining that. But my lack of success, although it's occasionly upsetting for me doesn't really impact on a day to day basis.
Well, you're still relatively new.
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I am astonished that for so wise a post you have not been granted your own starship command and promoted to Kaptain.
Heretofore I shall only refer to you as Kaptain because, seriously, this post wins this thread.
Who?
Depends on the person. I've only tried it once.
Well, my rule was no sex until certain so I was up-front with both women that I wasn't sure how far I wanted to take things. Ultimately neither was for me, but we never did anything beyond kissing so there might have been a little disappointment, but no hurt feelings which was the goal.
In my more recent dating experience I tried to keep it on a serial basis, but it was only a few months before I met a woman who I really like and who really likes me.
On the whole dating sucks and people who do it for years have my sympathies. I cannot imagine what that would be like as I've never been single for more than a few months at a time since high school.
I don't think anyone is that desperate.
