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Ever notice that lots of females in the 16-25 year age frame seem to be really turned off if they find out a guy interested in them is a virgin?
The stigma of being a virgin loner (must end)
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No, I've never noticed this.
Fair point.
Oh I have. I would imagine many women don't want that "responsibility." Beyond that, sex with virgin guys tends to be pretty disappointing for the girl.
I wouldn't know. What's it like?
It is a good thing you don't plan on adding sex to your romantic relationships if you view it as a crutch.
OH I know it's possible to give it. Sometimes the people with the least life experience spend the most time in the advice threads 
"A relationship is about truly valuing each other and trust is the bedrock.. blah blah".
"A relationship is about truly valuing each other and trust is the bedrock.. blah blah".
They are a starting point, yes. But people can be very complex as can their relationships and the cliches don't offer them anything useful because they already bought that greeting card.
I just made a little Pope joke. I sincerely hope no one has the impression that I give a rat turd whether other people choose to have sex or not. Because I don’t.
^I figured as much, but it was something I could work with, so.... I took it the ball and ran with it.
By The Way, does anyone else think Sex Crutch sounds like a name for a really cool Classic Rock Band?
as for the rest, Cliches are Cliches for a reason, but beyond that, Respect, Faith, Trust, Communication are all foundations for a relationship that wont go soft(pun intended)
I guess its my fault for using that term, but you misunderstand my usage of it, Ive seen it happen time and time again that Sex can be used to mask, or soften problems in a relationship temporarily. So Yes, Sex can be, and Often is used as a Crutch.
It is a good thing you don't plan on adding sex to your romantic relationships if you view it as a crutch.
By The Way, does anyone else think Sex Crutch sounds like a name for a really cool Classic Rock Band?
as for the rest, Cliches are Cliches for a reason, but beyond that, Respect, Faith, Trust, Communication are all foundations for a relationship that wont go soft(pun intended)
First of all, you're talking to the wrong people if you're hearing things like that from them. If you are a happy, well-adjusted and content person, then it seems odd that anyone would feel the need to criticize you (unless you're still in high school or something and you have no choice over who you interact with). I can definitely say that my life has been shaped by having many relationships, and a solid mix of having been single and together, in long-distance and short-distance, and well. I've always required regular intimacy and the excitement and fulfillment of being in relationship with someone you really care for.
I don't think people in these situations are voluntarily abstaining from sexual activity... they just have social issues or other problems that make it difficult to engage the opposite sex. Sometimes there's depression there.
I think this is true for most people, but I have heard of some people (in rare circumstances) being solitary and largely asexual (having little to no care/desire for sex or intimacy). I personally find such a thing kind of sad.
Well... even someone who is asexual and not interested in sex need only read literature, history and poetry-- engage in personal friendships and watch T.V. to know that sex and intimacy are essential parts of the human condition. The fact that they aren't for you is all fine in good, but I think it's fair to say most people crave those things at an instinctual level.
To be honest, your post comes off as a bit defensive. You seem more upset with cultural norms than any specific criticisms of your lifestyle choice (which, I can assure you, most people could care less).
I think I'd be offended to if someone implied that my decision meant I wasn't experiencing the human condition properly, or whatever. Yes there are certain things that are inherent in most people but not everyone needs everything. To me it's like having kids. That's an urge that might be there for many people, even most, but lacking that desire doesn't necessarily mean you're lacking or sad.
It's not a crutch, it's a tool. Sex is intimate and the intimate problems of a serious relationship can often be worked through in the intimate affections of the bedroom. Sure it can soften problems, it puts them in perspective sometimes. Do you love this person? Sex is a great reminder of that, and a reconnecting of your closeness.
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As someone who sees sex and sexuality in everything, I understand how sex can bolster or destroy a relationship. It is extremely powerful. It is the height of physical intimacy between human beings. Still, for me, the most important aspect of a relationship is trust. If there is love and trust, the physical manifestations will fall into order. I just don't consider the sexual aspect of a relationship as important as everything else.
I wasn't annoyed by the Pope joke. I admit that I don't have sex for religious reasons (I'm a Christian, but not the Catholic kind), along with the fact that I don't want to deal with having children, or the risk of STDs, etc.
I am respectful if you are an atheist, or are of another religion, and have a different view on sex. I'm not telling you to be abstinent, so why should people tell me that I need to get laid?
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I think people should be happy with who they are. Screw everyone else.
Okay, maybe "screw" isn't the best word I could have used given the subject, but you get the point...
Okay, maybe "screw" isn't the best word I could have used given the subject, but you get the point...
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