They got the Kobayashi Maru test totally wrong in the movie, in my opinion.
If you watch Wrath of Khan and read the novel, you get that it is nothing more but a test of character. Cadets are confronted with a no-win-scenario, and what they DO is the important thing. Will they sacrifice the ship? Will they order the crew to the escape pods? Will they go on a collision course? Will they panic? Will they flee? Or are they never actually entering the Neutral Zone because it's too risky? Will they take that 'stupid' test once, twice or three times?
It NEVER was supposed to confront cadets with "fear of certain death". How would it, it's just a simulation. But it is supposed to be a test to simply see how the person reacts in a very critical. Is he a fighter or a lover, stupid or bright, conventional or creative?
At no point in Wrath of Khan is it ever mentioned that Kirk got in trouble for "cheating". In fact, the only one who calls it "cheating" is David, who has a grudge against Kirk and who didn't know the test. Saavik herself didn't get what the test was about, and Kirk constantly made 'fun' of that.
When he teased her with "how we deal with death is just as important as how we deal with life, wouldn't you think", he wasn't talking about the purpose of the test, he was trying to give her "something new to think about".
The novel of Wrath of Khan has a nice additional scene, it's the briefing after Saavik did the test, which makes it clear to me that it's about evaluating the character of the cadets. Kirk confronts her with another situation: a ship on the high sea sinks, and she and another person have escaped in a small boat that can only carry one of them, the water is full of sharks. And Kirk asks her: would she sacrifice the illiterate criminal without a family, or herself, a highly trained Starfleet officer with a great future ahead? Then Saavik gets pretty angry about that kind of scenario. And in the end, Kirk smiles and compliments her for turning the argument upside down in an effective manner.
So you simply pass the test by doing it. There is no right and no wrong, it's just a test to see what kind of person the cadet is. But you get an evaluation based on your reactions. And Kirk passed the test even better than anyone else by getting the idea of reprogramming the simulation. That is why he got a commendation for original thinking.
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What bother's me the most is that the scene has absolutely no purpose for the story of the new movie. While the Kobayashi Maru, the no-win-scenario, the line "how we deal with death..." was a central theme to Wrath of Khan and major part of the character development, the test in the new movie could be cut out completely and it wouldn't make ANY difference.
And then it reminded me of Galaxy Quest. I'm sorry, but this is true. Jason Nesmith, totally drunk, sitting on the bridge thinking he's doing a fanfilm in a basement, ordering to fire everything they have and then just walking away.