One question (and I think it's a legitimate one, given what you've said): Is foregrounding a heterosexual relationship also a case of shoving a perceived agenda down your throat? And if not, why not?*
Can you give a specific example? It's a good question, and I can try to answer with a generalization, but I don't know if it would work.
If you're trying to say that it's the same thing, I don't think it is.
I don't think there is any agenda or tokenism with heterosexual relationships on TV. You don't see episodes of people declaring their straightness. There are no political connotations to them. You don't see groups dedicated to heterosexual relationships rating shows on their straight representation.
So I don't think it's the same even though I think I understand what you are trying to ask. I think in 2020, enough battles have been fought and won that you don't need tokenism.
Let me counter with some other thoughts. I'm sorry for getting a little off topic, but it's not a terrible conversation and I'm trying hard not to make it confrontational but rather intellectual. I hope others can too.
CW seems to care more about checking the box to make sure they can say they are inclusive. But that's not inclusiveness. It's tokenism. On Supergirl for example, Alex's orientation has become her whole character. They did a whole arc it, and often, they had completely separate storylines just based on her problems and relationships to the point where at least for me, it detracted from the show as a whole. I don't have an issue with a show like that, but I don't think that's what a superhero show is about--especially in a long, drawn out arc on a character that didn't exist in any form before this show existed. I want to watch Supergirl do super things, not listen to Alex whine about her relationship.
But I guess thinking about it, I would have had the same issue if Alex were straight--at least on that front.
Alex's love life has absolutely zero relevance.
But sometimes these shows, and CW is guilty across the board, just tend to branch into tokenism and in your face agendas so that when people do object, they get to get on their soapbox and be outraged.
My issue with these shows is not just the depictions of gays as tokenism so they can pat themselves on the back. There are gay characters on Flash--but none of that bothers me at all.
I find sometimes it bothers me, sometimes it doesn't. Maybe it IS the tokenism--the fact that the depictions of some of these gay relationships wreak of political agendas. You just don't see that with heterosexual relationships on these shows.
Not every single gay relationship depicted on TV and movies are the in your face tokenism I am talking about. But a lot are.