But I also understand Jenna's perspective, because there are some certain things he's never going to be able to fulfill, and if these are important to her (as they really are for most women), I don't blame her for feeling things won't work out with him. Just imagine realizing nothing you could do would ever excite him, you know? You know how sometimes you can give a man a certain look, and you can tell how excited you've made him ... well you can never do that with Data, he just won't have emotional responses like that. You can't do something special for him to make his heart melt, it just won't ever happen, and so on and so on, I think you get the idea? Well Jenna realizes this, and she feels that's not something that's going to work for her. Maybe for some people it would be enough, but she's fully within her rights to know she wants more from her relationship, and I don't believe she made a mistake. I feel it's a really healthy sign how she knows what she really wants and needs, and I think that's going to help her greatly with her future relationships.
I get how you feel, but here's the point. That he isn't going to be able to fulfill her needs in the way she might require, (Which is a perfectly understandable reason to end it) it isn't because HE misled her. It's because she misled herself about him. So it's kind of tough for me to fully sympathize with her in this, because this is her doing something to herself, Which she does take one moment to admit a tiny amount of responsibility for, (To her credit)
Jenna said:
I didn't see it until today. I got out of a relationship with an unemotional man. And went right back into another with a man who is absolutely incapable of emotion.
But at the end of things we're left with the impression that Data doesn't measure up, which makes it seem like it's his fault, when clearly she had to have known about him & what his story is, to know enough that this was exactly what she was in for, but she went in anyway (Albeit, still emotionally compromised & on the rebound) The only fault he has in this, imho, is that a couple of his friends
did warn him about that, that she might not be approaching this in the right state, but I can forgive that, because he's pretty naïve to have caught on to it with her.
More than anything though, she is just
wrong about her reason for ending it.
Jenna said:
Because as close as we are, I don't really matter to you. Not really. Nothing I could do or say will ever make you happy, or hurt you, or touch you in any way.
That is proven in Data's other relationships to be categorically untrue. Just because she (Arguably) couldn't touch or hurt him in any emotional way, doesn't mean she doesn't matter to him. That is HER idea of what mattering to someone is. Would we say the same about Tasha, or Geordi? No. Geordi matters to Data. (& Geordi knows it) So too could she, given the right dynamic, I think. That is her failure to not see that in him imho, & potentially allow herself to grow a little, to maybe be a kind of person who could see past her own stuff, & see the man that is
actually before her, instead of expecting him to be a man that she is deliberately seeking
I don't fault her for ending it (To each their own. Ships pass in the night, etc...) I fault her for being wrong about him, & I believe another person in her place
could be open-minded enough to find that piece of him that does value her, & be comforted by it, the way she speaks of it.
Something in this episode I feel always bothered me is how casually Data just deletes his subroutines, like as if she never really mattered to him at all, and you can sort of see that look on Jenna's face when he says that to her. I've always wondered why he was written to do that, wouldn't he want to keep that to build on in case he ever wanted to try another relationship?
You're assuming he is deleting all of everything in this that's happened. I only assume he is correcting his basis for continued relations with her. The poor sap still thought they'd be having dinner together afterward. Clearly some adjustment needed to be made.
He is specifically deleting only the stuff that says "I am in a relationship with Jenna". You get the difference, right? He made a program just for
her & a relationship with
her. Any other person who he had a relationship with, that program would be of no use... because they are not HER. How's that for mattering to someone? She had a
deliberate place in his consciousness, & while he has to alter that, the experience mattered no less
I actually envy that ability to compartmentalize it, because most of us drag some of that baggage right into the next relationship (Oh... kind of like she just did) IMHO, that she's a little deflated or heartbroken over this, is on
her in this situation. The whole episode is about "What should Data do?" or "Should Data do this?" but really? An equal amount of this situation is "Should Jenna be doing this?" If you switch the focus to her, this isn't a bright move on her part
Her dejected look, at the end, kind of reminded me of Fajo's last look, or Dr. Kyla Marr's (Silicon Avatar) THEY have an expectation as to what should be. That is their issue, & not to be placed on him imho