Should I join a dating service?

[SicOne]

I hate to give good solid advice based upon pop culture, but some of decent advice comes from the character of Mike Damone, from "Fast Times At Ridgemont High", as he explains the ins and outs of women to his friend Mark Ratner...

Mike:You just have to have The Attitude.

Mark:The Attitude?

Mike:Yeah. The Attitude dictates you don't care whether she cums, stays, lays or prays; whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Once you got that, you got everything. The Attitude, Rat.

Put more simply, Emher, if you just relax about everything and accept that it will either happen or not, she will see that you're relaxed about it and she will relax as well. Just be cool. If it clicks, good, and if it doesn't, that's fine also. At the VERY least, if you are cool about everything then it is much more likely that you will be friends...and never, NEVER understimate the importance of female friends who would like to see you hook up with THEIR friends. Once I accepted that some women were happy being "just friends", then those connections increased exponentially and I received more action than I probably would have drummed up on my own.

All that being said, I dunno about the business card idea. If she wants your number, she will ask for it.

Good luck!

 

[AstroSmurf]

I am confused. What is wrong with giving out a card? I give out cards all the time to potential dates and I find it works very well.

Oh and Ehmer...

Good luck!

 

[trampledamage]

I am confused. What is wrong with giving out a card? I give out cards all the time to potential dates and I find it works very well.

It just seems weird to me - but I don't have much experience with people using cards. To me business cards are just that, and so it seems odd to hand them out in social situations. But then I haven't dated for... *counts* ... 20 years so I'm a little out of date

 

[AstroSmurf]

^ Well I guess I should explain things a little further. I only give them a card after I have chatted them up and asked them out. I don't just give them a card without a reason. (I am not a character from American Psycho. ) It has my name (which everyone screws up) and my contact info, making things easier on them. It also has a funny monkey on it so they remember me easily!

 

[Pingfah]

A good collection of cards is advisable for young men on the pull. Take one that says "Stuntman", one that says "Investment Banker", perhaps even one that says "Record Company Executive".

You should find that will cover most bases.

 

[trampledamage]

^ Well I guess I should explain things a little further. I only give them a card after I have chatted them up and asked them out. I don't just give them a card without a reason. (I am not a character from American Psycho. ) It has my name (which everyone screws up) and my contact info, making things easier on them. It also has a funny monkey on it so they remember me easily!

Yeah, that would work - "here, this has my name written down, everyone gets it wrong. And look, funny monkey "

 

[RJDiogenes]

I always keep a bunch of my cards taped all over my shirt-- that way people who are interested can just pull one off as I walk by.

And mine also has a picture of a funny monkey on it-- namely, a cartoon of myself.

 

[Emher]

Well she wasn't at the store today so next time I'll see her then. I'm gonna focus on trying to play it cool, and not overtry. Right now the hardest bit is trying to concinve myself that if it doesn't go well, that's cool as well. I'll probably be okay in that anyway, pretty used to rejection in the past when I had less confidence

 

[Mr Awe]

Emher, I think asking her out is more than half the battle. Regardless of her response, you'll have asked a girl out! That means, you can do it again and it'll be easier. So, even if she turns you down, you'll find another girl to ask out and it won't be so scary.

Good luck!

Mr Awe

 

[TheBrew]

Well she wasn't at the store today so next time I'll see her then. I'm gonna focus on trying to play it cool, and not overtry. Right now the hardest bit is trying to concinve myself that if it doesn't go well, that's cool as well. I'll probably be okay in that anyway, pretty used to rejection in the past when I had less confidence

Dating is a 'see-what-sticks' game. Even going on a first date is no guarantee that it will work out or even lead to a second date. You just got to keep on putting yourself out there until you find a good thing to keep on going.

 

[SicOne]

A good collection of cards is advisable for young men on the pull. Take one that says "Stuntman", one that says "Investment Banker", perhaps even one that says "Record Company Executive".

You should find that will cover most bases.

"Gynecologist"

 

[scout]

Spelling that one properly would also aid your case as well

 

[darkshadow0001]

Just go out into the real world and ask the next hot girl (or hot guy) you see out for a coffee. It works.

If you can blind date unknown strangers that you only know from photos from the interblag, why don't you just ask unknown strangers that stand right in front of you?

Not for everyone... I've done that and unfortunetly I get turned down alot. So I gave up But it's okay, I like being able to do what I want!

To the original poster, give them a try. Just be careful, there are alot of scammers on these sites but also legit people. One thing to remember: never give anyone money who asks for it... they are the scammers!

 

[Emher]

I did it! Was shopping tonight with bro and cousin and when we came to checkout she was running around and fixing some stuff, but she looked up when I came close to the register and said "Hi!" (returned, of course). After we had payed she was going back towards the register and I just said to cousin to take the bag and meet me at the car, and I walked up to her.

Me: "Look, I think it would be fun to get to know you, so if you want to have like a coffe or something anytime, give me a call" *Hands over card*
She: "Oh, yeah!"
Me: "You know, if you want to" (mental headbash against wall)
She: "Sure, that would be fun!"
Me "Okay!"

I Wave, she waves a bit back, I turn around and walk out. When I catch up to bro and cousin I jump in the air and give a little whoop (well out of sight of the inside of the shop). Cousin asks what's with me, and I say that I've just asked a girl out

 

[Mr Awe]

Awesome!!

Definitely keep us updated! Now is the waiting game. Hopefully, it won't be long.

Mr Awe

 

[TheBrew]

Word.

Remember to not drink too much coffee at the shop so you are flying off the wall.

 

[Emher]

Thanks guys! She really seemed positive so hopefully not long until she calls. Now I'm gonna have my cell phone near 24/7 though

 

[trampledamage]

Hey, even if she doesn't call - you asked a girl out! So you can do it again

 

[RJDiogenes]

Emher, I am inexpressably happy for you. You have done good and I hope everything goes well for you.

 

[scout]

Thats fantastic news Emher!

*dances happily*