I agree with the examples you cited. The sex aspects in Her and Ex Machina didn't seem to be presented to get a rise out of the audience. However, in my opinion a lot of the sex components in "adult" cable series skirt this plausible-deniable line. They've kind of turned that into an art-form where they wave their hands and say "but it's 'serious'" and yet everyone knows that keeping a certain quotient of full-frontal and sex scenes streaming through the TV is what maintains a big part of their audience.
Well, sure. It's a given that sex sells. That's obviously always going to be a factor. But you can do it in a gratuitous and objectifying way -- by tossing in random underwear shots or voyeuristic moments in a story that otherwise has nothing to do with anything sexual -- or you can do it in a way that's meaningful to the story, by including characters' sex lives and relationships as part of the narrative. It's the same as with any other element in fiction -- you can tack it on gratuitously or incorporate it so that it serves a purpose. Like when I put continuity references in my
Star Trek fiction. I try to avoid tossing in Easter eggs or episode references just to wink at the audience and say "Hey, look how much I know about
Star Trek," because I think that's gratuitous. But I will incorporate all sorts of obscure continuity references if I can get something useful and meaningful to the story out of it.
You could draw the same distinction with any other element. Is a fight scene just there to meet an arbitrary quota for violence, or does it advance the story because there's emotional weight in what the characters are fighting for? Is a pop song in the soundtrack just gratuitously and distractingly tacked onto a scene to sell soundtrack albums, or is it there because it means something to the characters and has lyrics that resonate with the ideas and emotions of the scene?
It's like the difference between Hustler and Maxim (or the new nudity-free Playboy). You can't completely eliminate the need to conduct commerce.
That's merely a difference of explicitness, and it's not the same kind of distinction I'm talking about. This was discussed in one of the articles I linked to the other day, the one on ComicsAlliance, I think it was. There's nothing wrong with deliberately creating a work of erotica. If that's the clear intent from the start, then people know going in what they're getting. It makes perfect sense to use sexual imagery in a work that is intentionally and primarily about creating sexual arousal. But if you're telling a story that isn't sexually themed, e.g. an action movie, and you randomly toss in a shot that sexually objectifies a female character in a way that contributes nothing to the narrative, then that's more gratuitous. It's more like the difference between
Hustler and, say, the bikini models in an automotive magazine. Using sexy women to sell a magazine about sex makes perfect sense, but using them to sell a magazine about cars is... well, that's more the sort of thing you seem to be talking about.
And I think this differentiation between 14-year old perceptions and adult perceptions are not as stark as you think it is.
You don't understand how I think. I don't assume any such distinction is binary and absolute, because I know the world is more nuanced than that. But it's a useful simplification when attempting to distinguish between two approaches.
If the draw of watching something is in any way wrapped up in the hopes of catching this or that beautiful person in some state of undress doing this or that act, whether or not it's framed in some awesome story with all this meaning or not, it's the same thing as the 14-year old. The redeeming features are merely added value but it doesn't change the fact that you're watching something to get a rise out of yourself.
Again, yes, of course, the arousal is part of both, and there's no reason it shouldn't be. Sexual desire is not evil or wrong. But it can be handled in an immature way -- which is selfish and only about one's own gratification with no regard for the feelings or viewpoint of the other party -- or it can be handled in an adult way -- which is about engaging with the other party as a person and being attuned to their desires and needs as well as one's own. That's the distinction I'm drawing between a movie that just strips down its female characters for men to ogle and a movie that allows its female characters to have sexual agency and
choose to be sexual for their own satisfaction as well as that of their partners. In the former, only one person is gratified at the other's expense. In the latter, both participants (as well as the audience) get gratification. And that's why it's a more mature and healthy approach -- because it's not selfish, because it entails the empathy and cooperation that are part of adult relationships.
And because it's more involved, of course. Just looking at someone else's body is the most elementary step of a sexual interaction. That's where people start out when they first begin to get interested in sexuality, and for our metaphorical 14-year-old boy, just getting to see a bit of skin is a Big Deal. But for an adult, presumably, they've moved beyond that superficial stage to having actual relationships and actual sex. That's why I'm using the teen/adult distinction as an analogy for the difference between movies that just tack a bit of skin onto a non-sexual story and movies that actually incorporate sexuality and relationships into the story.
So I have never, at any point, tried to cast this in terms of using sex vs. not using sex. Rather, I'm talking about the distinction between using sexuality well and using it poorly.