I guess I don't see it that way. I see it as an intelligent debate. Like the best debates, it probes into things that are normally tough to talk about. Certainly there is more to Trek than whether or not time travel will ruin the new film, or constantly trying to figure out who the best captain was. By that logic, there's more to life than what's considered "safe."
Tuln, I don't mean any disrespect here. Really. To you, it's an intelligent debate. To me, it's same-old, same-old. I've been through dozens of online conversations almost exactly like this one (only I will say this one has been, on the whole, more articulate than most of the others), and the same things are said over and over again.
It's not that I don't think these are ideas that shouldn't be debated, and it's not even uncomfortable for me. It's just, you know, "Oh, dear, he's saying
that again. Guess I'll just have to say
this again, unless somebody else says it first." And then, "Ah, I saw this coming, he's going to talk about
Tweedledee, so one of us on the other side is going to have to say
Tweedledum." And then, "Man, she brought up
this again - it's been addressed at least three times. Why can't people at least skim the thread before responding to it?" You go through a few more of these and you'll start to recognize the arguments too. Maybe you'll maintain your enthusiasm, but maybe you'll get tired of writing the same things time and time again as I have.
People have been debating this exact same thing (sans the Trek references, of course) for centuries. I won't say that it's impossible to come up with something new, but it is extraordinarily unlikely.
There is one thing that is uncomfortable for me. Actually "uncomfortable" isn't the right word. What it is is infuriating, and both sides do it. What I'm talking about is the assumption, sometimes unspoken but usually actually overtly stated, that if X disagrees with me about this, it's because X (1) hasn't thought about it enough; (2) is merely parroting what he was taught; (3) isn't nearly as bright as I am; (4) is behind the times whereas I am at the forefront of modern thought; (5) hasn't read the right books/heard the right speakers/studied the proper things; (6) just isn't as adult as I am - he can't accept reality; (7) hasn't evolved enough to understand this thing that is so clear to me; and so on. Whatever words are used, the implication is the same, and it is that X's thoughts are just inferior for this reason or that one.
That makes me angry. And it happens every single time in these conversations. It's happened in this thread, too - I won't point the finger at anybody because it's been done by more than one person, and I don't want to single just one offender out, and anyway it really doesn't matter.
Just because X has come to a different decision than Y, that doesn't mean X hasn't put just as much thought and effort and care into making his decision as Y did in making his. That's the basis on which all of these discussions need to proceed, and they
never do. Not in my experience, which is pretty extensive. Certainly it hasn't happened this time.
That is what ought to be meant by "respecting the opinions of others." It isn't just letting them talk while you (I'm using the generic "you" here - I don't mean you in particular) come up with counter arguments. It's respecting the person who holds those opinions - and that means giving him the courtesy of assuming that he has not only a right to hold a different opinion, but that he has taken the same care and diligence and put the same amount of thought and effort into developing that opinion that you did.
That's hard to do. It's so easy - so easy - to think, "I'm right, and the reason I'm right is because I think so much more clearly than the people arguing with me." That is patronizing, and there are few things more annoying in this world.
So you enjoy. I'll wander in from time to time - you never know, I might see something new.