The past few months with my relationships between online people have not been particularly kind to me. I've had to walk away from a 3 year long friendship due the lies the person spewed about me. It all stemmed from me not being interested in another friend of his and he, in his self righteous arrogant attitude took it upon himself to keep it going instead of letting it be.
We had worked it out multiple times, although I really had to look past a lot of the things he said (otherwise I would have left him on the spot there and then) but out of my respect towards him, I apologized to him, when I felt there was no real need to apologize for something I didn't even do - it was him that made it out to be the issue, it was how he reacted.
Had he not been so aggressive, that would have been squashed there and then the moment of which I said it, but he waited several days until he dropped the large text wall on me, demanding me to apologize along with a list of whole other things about 'respect' and all that. He later admitted he said he didn't intend to be cruel in saying that, and I forgave him for it.
It was then later on, we had a few more arguments (in my mind he was already on thin ice anyways), and that was the straw the broke the camel's back for me, because he continued to do the exact same things every time, blaming me for starting arguments when he was the one who brought things up, and spinning my words to make it seem like I was egging him on when I was not. Not only that, but it was clear he would manipulate people and spread lies about me behind my back with other people, and have the gall to blame me for his problems when he was the one who started all of it.
That was the largest situation of the others.
The next situation involved me leaving a Discord server I was involved in for around a year and a half, on and off here and there. I've had times where I've stepped back, times where I was super-involved with everything. It wildly changed now and then and the dynamics there were always generally the same. I was among 5 people in the staff rank and was regularly active. One of the users there constantly had this online persona where he would act like a drunk and constantly insult for no reason and call it a joke.
I ended up leaving after far too many of those 'jokes'. Those people I've came to see as rather unkept, not only that but a lot of the people there believed asinine things and pushed it on others, and often came into silly little arguments with others. That was a month ago, to the day, and I rarely think about it. Turns out the owner of the server was a racist too, so I was utterly disgusted by that. So case closed on that.
Another situation involved me joining up with another Discord server a few weeks after I departed the other one. Mainly was based around storytelling and writing, along with other things. I won't get into the details but I ended up being driven out because of toxic circle jerking between the members there and they basically persecuted me for my beliefs. I wasn't the only one, they did that to many other people and it resulted in the entire server basically being made into an echo chamber, unbeknownst to me.
A friend I met there invited me to another server, it was not anything particularly interesting but the people there took things way too seriously and personally annoyed me on multiple occasions. I gave them many chances until I up and left, a few hours ago at the time of this message.
These situations have resulted in a large degree of mental stress and anxiety. Now I am completely free. Am curious what people think.