Pushy parent or encouraging Mother?

[Trilliam]

Oh, Lord - Manga! DD17 want's to put purple foils through her hair after she finishes her last HSC exam, appropriately Art.

He might have to think about putting a temporary "normal colour" rinse through to tone it down. Unless he was going for a job at the local Goth clothing shop, he might luck out.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

HE GOT THE JOB!
He's there until about 10 tonight on training and starts tomorrow!
Very glad I nudged him ~ I think he is too!

Oh, Lord - Manga! DD17 want's to put purple foils through her hair after she finishes her last HSC exam, appropriately Art.

He might have to think about putting a temporary "normal colour" rinse through to tone it down. Unless he was going for a job at the local Goth clothing shop, he might luck out.

Yes, they have said the would prefer a 'natural' hair colour.
Oh my bathroom's going to be redecorated!

 

[trampledamage]

Awesome!

So when does he get a staff discount, and when are you treating us to sushi?

 

[Brent]

IMO, all kids at least 16 need to get a job, they need to learn responsibility. I have a 16 year old sister and she hasn't had a job yet, but boy she needs one, she's spoiled!

 

[propita]

Gee, I didn't have many jobs:

Babysat from age 12 to 20, from 1975 through 1983 (I began at 50 cents/hr and ended at $2/hr)

Afterschool daycare at a small private Jewish school (1983-1984 school year) and Sunday daycare at an evangelical Christian church (1980-1984, I think)

Hughes Aircraft/GM Hughes/Raytheon Systems Company, 1984-2000. Same job, same lab, same desk--different company names on the paychecks.

Legal research during 2008.

Unpaid court intern during 2009 and early 2010.

I'm told that's not many different jobs. Oh--and MOM insisted I miss the last day of afterschool care so I could help at a symposium, which got me the 16yr job.

Mothers are [almost] always right. Must suck to be a Dad. During my years of babysitting, I noticed that the Dads rarely knew where they were going that night. It's like they lost half their thinking ability with the first kid, then half of what was left with each additional kid.

 

[Trilliam]

, I noticed that the Dads rarely knew where they were going that night. It's like they lost half their thinking ability with the first kid, then half of what was left with each additional kid.

I don't get such disengagement from the kids. DH certainly knew/knows what our lot are up to (work, school, uni, friends, gym, sport, Cadets and dancing when they were younger, etc).

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Awesome!

So when does he get a staff discount, and when are you treating us to sushi?

Son got home tonight at 10pm after a nearly 12 hour 'training' day and was as grumpy as hell ~ I don't think it helped when I said 'Welcome to life'
They put food on for the trainees, but as the sushi was under clingfilm so he didn't touch it. He was very upset to see that everyone else was tucking in ~ too polite!

He's still going back tomorrow ~ I am very proud of him

 

[B.J.]

Congrats on him getting the job, K'Eh!

Personally, I never had a job until I was in college, and that was on-campus jobs until I got a co-op position.

Mothers are [almost] always right. Must suck to be a Dad. During my years of babysitting, I noticed that the Dads rarely knew where they were going that night. It's like they lost half their thinking ability with the first kid, then half of what was left with each additional kid.

No, that's what we *want* you to think! Why should I stress about stuff when I have someone else there to worry about it!

 

[An Officer]

Congrats on your son getting a job!

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Thank you BJ and An Officer

His official title is 'food porter'. The restaurant is on 3 floors so he has to carry the tray of 'delicacies' up 2 flights of stairs and then hand it to the waiter ~ so in actual fact he is a human 'dumb waiter'

But... in 8 months time (when he turns 18) he'll be on more money an hour than I am

 

[trampledamage]

But... in 8 months time (when he turns 18) he'll be on more money an hour than I am

Time for him to start paying the bills and tucking you in at night

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Thanks trample But I prefer Man to tuck me at night

I do think it's asking a lot thou for training days for a 17 year old, for a part time job, to run to 12 hours yesterday and 8 today.
He's only going to be a 'dumb waiter' afterall, but I s'pose they're investing in him. He rang tonight when he'd finished and said it went much better ~ I'm translating that as he got to eat more sushi

 

[Trilliam]

Make sure he starts paying board!!

 

[DeafPoet]

You weren't being pushy K'Ehyler

As much as this story embarasses me, my Mom interfered in a much more egregious manner than you did in my first job.

I was 16 and hadn't worked ever and I wanted a job but the whole thing was very daunting. "First job jitters" to paraphrase you. Anyway, I made up my own resume but I wasn't being too proactive getting it out there.

And then my mom made what I thought was a total bitch move at the time: she faxed my resume off to a new sporting goods store opening up in the area without telling me.

I felt betrayed, yet got a little confidence boost when they called me the next day for an interview.

Long story short, I loved that job and worked there for 8 years. I was practically running the place when I left. I'm a different person than the shy douchebag who was too afraid to apply for jobs way back when.

Mom threw me out of the nest. And it wouldn't be the last time. And I couldn't be more thankful for it.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

You weren't being pushy K'Ehyler

As much as this story embarasses me, my Mom interfered in a much more egregious manner than you did in my first job.

I was 16 and hadn't worked ever and I wanted a job but the whole thing was very daunting. "First job jitters" to paraphrase you. Anyway, I made up my own resume but I wasn't being too proactive getting it out there.

And then my mom made what I thought was a total bitch move at the time: she faxed my resume off to a new sporting goods store opening up in the area without telling me.

I felt betrayed, yet got a little confidence boost when they called me the next day for an interview.

Long story short, I loved that job and worked there for 8 years. I was practically running the place when I left. I'm a different person than the shy douchebag who was too afraid to apply for jobs way back when.

Mom threw me out of the nest. And it wouldn't be the last time. And I couldn't be more thankful for it.

Thank you DeafPoet. I do think people of all ages need a push occasionally.
After Son's 2 days of training and yesterday from 8 O'clock till 10pm, having been told there was nothing else to do, they all sat down and drunk beer! I'm assuming it was a 'bonding session'

 

[Cornholio]

Pushy parent or encouraging Mother?

umm, I vote 'encouraging Mother'.

K'Ehleyr, from what I've read of your posts, you seem like a great Mother. your son and husband should be both grateful and proud.

seems like you got the results you wanted in this situation, so I say you should just continue to follow your instincts.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Pushy parent or encouraging Mother?

umm, I vote 'encouraging Mother'.

K'Ehleyr, from what I've read of your posts, you seem like a great Mother. your son and husband should be both grateful and proud.

seems like you got the results you wanted in this situation, so I say you should just continue to follow your instincts.

Thank you very much Cornholio, I appreciate that a lot

Man is not Son's father. Father buggered off when Son was 3 and has recently just left his wife and young family for a 20yr old he works with ~ which is why I never married him.

After I'd served full brunch this morning for Son and Man ~ sausage, bacon, scrambled eggs, mushroom, tomatoes, toast, marmite etc... Son told me I was 'A pain in the arse' because I asked him when his exams were ~ I said he could get down from the table and "GO TO HIS ROOM!"

He's 17 ~ and needs to learn respect

I did cry in private afterwards ~ but that's just the pills and the glass of wine

 

[Colonel Green]

I'd avoid trying to push him towards a given job. Better idea: tell him you'll be charging him rent as of july 1st and let him work out the details for himself.

 

[NCC1701]

Congrats on him getting the job, K'Eh!

Personally, I never had a job until I was in college, and that was on-campus jobs until I got a co-op position.

Mothers are [almost] always right. Must suck to be a Dad. During my years of babysitting, I noticed that the Dads rarely knew where they were going that night. It's like they lost half their thinking ability with the first kid, then half of what was left with each additional kid.

No, that's what we *want* you to think! Why should I stress about stuff when I have someone else there to worry about it!

Especially when we know the mrs won't be doing anything but worrying about it, anyway, so we're leaving them in their element, really .

Congrats on getting your son the job, K'Ehleyr, my mum got me my first job as well, as it so happens, we all need a little push from time to time!

 

[K'Ehleyr]

I'd avoid trying to push him towards a given job. Better idea: tell him you'll be charging him rent as of july 1st and let him work out the details for himself.

'tis done now

Congrats on him getting the job, K'Eh!

Personally, I never had a job until I was in college, and that was on-campus jobs until I got a co-op position.

Mothers are [almost] always right. Must suck to be a Dad. During my years of babysitting, I noticed that the Dads rarely knew where they were going that night. It's like they lost half their thinking ability with the first kid, then half of what was left with each additional kid.

No, that's what we *want* you to think! Why should I stress about stuff when I have someone else there to worry about it!

Especially when we know the mrs won't be doing anything but worrying about it, anyway, so we're leaving them in their element, really .

Congrats on getting your son the job, K'Ehleyr, my mum got me my first job as well, as it so happens, we all need a little push from time to time!

Thanks NC. I know he loves it really ~ I caught him studying the menu today and saw all his notes. And we get invited to go in for free food for them to practice on