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[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

Personality infuses looks. Sure there is classically hot or beautiful looks, but for most people an average person can look incredible because of their personality and someone with all their features in the right place can lose their attractiveness if they are a jerk.

 

[KJbushway]

Yeah I was telling myself today when I had the idea for this thread that not matter how I change my body, my face will be the same, Kenny will always be Kenny, God help the person who ends up with me right?

Surgery? Why does everyone always pretend surgery does not exist?

Anyway, you forgot the third option for your poll: how rich is this S.O.B.?

Thank you for that.

 

[Alex1939]

I voted "Looks" but I should have read the OP first. I figured this was solely about romances and if I'm not physically attracted then there is no chance.

Then again... typically even when you look at a stranger you'll make a few minor quick judgements based on looks. Are they well groomed or unkempt? Inviting smile or angry face?

So, I guess Looks lol.

 

[The Boy Who Cried Worf]

Looks. Especially online.

You'd be surprised how much the avatar picture affects your judgment of the poster's character.

Yeah that's what I am always striving for.

 

[matutina12]

Looks idsone important factor,,once a person is ugly I'm sure you will not like him/her..

 

[creek_chub]

Anyway, you forgot the third option for your poll: how rich is this S.O.B.?

My answer is looks, but as many others have said, looks are the "hook" and personality is what keeps me around, whether this is a romantically inclined meeting, or just meeting a new colleague. And honestly, humans are hardwired to make instant judgements based on looks, it's a safety issue, really. And who am I to disagree with millions of years of evolution?

That being said, I married my husband for his personality. Sometimes wish I'd held out for the looks, though. (J/K! )

 

[lurok]

Looks. Especially online.

You'd be surprised how much the avatar picture affects your judgment of the poster's character.

I hope so I'm that superficial...

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

Looks. Especially online.

You'd be surprised how much the avatar picture affects your judgment of the poster's character.

Is that why you don't have an avatar picture?

 

[Goji]

Mine generally has the intended effect.

 

[RandyS]

Looks. Especially online.

You'd be surprised how much the avatar picture affects your judgment of the poster's character.

Is that why you removed yours?

As to the question, you basically have to judge on looks first, since that's what you see first. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you're gonna see somebody "across a crowded room, and just know immediately that it was meant to be", because THAT is nothing but romantic nonsense with absolutely NO basis in reality whatsoever.

It's only after you talk to the person you're attracted to and you get a sense of who they are and what they're all about that you can make a decision as to weither you want to be with them or not.

 

[RandyS]

Your an eleven? I didn't know it went that high.

It does, son. I'm a 100 myself.

 

[RegFan]

The answer should be: "Personality and how that person fits you."

However, the Reality in today's world is: "Looks"

In today's world? Actually, people have always first judged others based on their looks.

I'd be lying if I said I don't judge people by their appearance. However, it's not completely superficial to do so because one's behaviour is part of one's appearance.

 

[Naira]

Of course we sometimes judge people by their looks. However, who you find good looking can be very subjective and also influenced by how much you like this person's character.

 

[Myasishchev]

Your an eleven? I didn't know it went that high.

It does, son. I'm a 100 myself.

I'm an aleph one and you sir a mere aleph null.

I guess that would still be pretty hot.

In today's world? Actually, people have always first judged others based on their looks.

Seriously. E.g., the myth of Helen and Tyndareus--3200 years old.

Although this goes back to "how rich," since the hottest woman on Earth also comes with a free kingship of Sparta in every box.

 

[Emher]

While looks factor in the least for me, they are the first thing I notice. Sometimes I can see someone who looks beautiful, and my first thoughts are that I hope she's sweet and funny. Looks do play a role, I would be lying if I said they didn't, but someone's personality changes my perception of their physical appearance.

The old adage is true that beauty is skin deep and ugly goes straight to the bone, it's just that it doesn't quite work the same way others may use it. I become attracted to people who are very human, and in the process, I often bypass what they look like on the outside. So suppose someone who looked like, say, Salma Hayek, were to ask me out on a date. I'd be VERY interested, but if she had terrible personality traits, I would find her to be quite ugly.

Now that I think about it, I'm pretty certain there was a movie based on this idea.

Think it was called "Shallow Hal", starred Jack Black.

 

[KJbushway]

^ yep.

 

[CaseNumber825]

When I meet someone for the first time I judge them based on their looks of course. I've only just met the person, how could I judge them based on anything else.

What happens after that depends on what I'm looking for in the person.

I am quite shallow that I'd attempt to get to know a person more if I find them attractive (this is if I want more than just a friends-only relationship with them), but I'd never stay with someone for looks alone. That would be ridiculous and quite boring XD

 

[FalsePriest]

Personality and fit. If you love the person, you tend to find their unique physical traits appealing anyway, even if they don't scream ATTRACTIVE. At least that's how it is with me. Mannerisms and a person's way of carrying themselves also does a lot more for attractiveness than shapes of different body parts.

That said, it's definitely easier to fall for someone who's more attractive. They grab your attention more immediately.

 

[KJbushway]

Yeah, but there is also sayings about beautiful people, they are not the best to date as they usually care more about their looks then the person they're with.

 

[Captain_Nick]

Judge them based on their looks

Subconscious processes that occur almost instantly and basically 'set up' how you 'feel' - or more to the point, the way you behave towards - the person you are meeting.

Everything from body language, tone of voice, eye contact, facial symmetry, body shape and so forth is processed by parts of your brain that you don't have access to.

Only experience teaches us to override these judgements. Kids and young people are generally unaware that they are occuring.

So I guess your question is m00t