I see the conversation has gotten heated. That wasn't my intention.
Let me explain better what I meant to avoid misunderstandings.
Data, in the context of the episode, is incapable of romantic feelings. We can agree that it doesn't respect the character's history, but in the plot it is an established fact. Data himself repeats it. The writer of the episode also confirms it.
This is an axiom of the episode and nothing in the episode contradicts it.
Jenna knows it, and she still wants a satisfying romantic relationship with Data. Which, given the premise of the episode, is impossible. She knows it, Data knows it, Data's friends know it.
Now, with all due respect, it is not healthy to expect to get something that is impossible to have. It is not healthy to squeeze an orange and expect coconut water to come out. This is not my personal interpretation. It is repeated in the context of the episode, it is said by Moore himself who wrote the episode.
Now, Jenna wants something that does not exist. At best, it can be a bad impression. Very bad. Everyone knows it, but everyone acts like it's completely natural. They give Data advice as if it were a normal relationship, but nothing is normal about what's going on.
- A woman wants a romantic relationship with an android. It's never happened. Of course, this is Star Trek and everyone respects everything, etc., but it is by definition an exceptional event. Literally. And an exceptional event should not be handled like a normal event.
- Everyone gives Data advice as if he were romantically gifted. He isn't. It's repeated ad nauseam. It would be like advising a eunuch on the best sexual positions. It would be ridiculous and embarrassing.
- This is uncharted territory. What does Deanna do? She gives very generic advice and doesn't have a chat with Jenna. Somebody said, "But that's their business." But they are crew members and Deanna is responsible for their emotional and mental well-being. And we've seen in other episodes that Deanna can request to speak to a crew member, she doesn't always have to wait for them to come to her.
My comments are not disrespectful to Data. But in the episode he is portrayed as totally aromantic. Aromanticism exists among humans, and if a totally aromantic acquaintance of mine asked me for advice on how to start a romantic relationship (with a person they have no romantic interest in) I wouldn't give generic advice, I'd say "Are you sure about what you're doing???".