I think that she was actually far too polite and soft on him. She kept trying to be nice and he kept making it worse.
When you don’t know the person, you should be erring on the side of caution until you do. Unless you’re immediately headed off to a situation that could get everyone killed. It was pretty clear right from the first question that Larkin had issues.
I stand by my thoughts that Captain Battle Angel was in over her head, and not a very good CO. I also wonder where the second-in-command was in all this? Luckily this was entertaining, or else it would be very easy to slice it to bits.