Well, this would be a good story to tell, say, after you have been together for some time and you are already engaged. By which time she will know you well enough that she will be truly touched by the depth of your feelings, and won't have run shrieking into the night, which she will if you come at her with all of this. I could regale you with a precautionary tale from my own early naive dating experience, and it ended in disaster. You have some lady BBSers giving you the "don't" advice, which should carry much more weight than us males, and the males overwhelmingly have said "don't" as well. But I do encourage you to keep the letter, to read after more life experiences have made you wiser, both in your own self-knowledge as well as knowledgable in the ways of the fairer sex. And there are other ways to discover whether or not she is really involved in a relationship with another guy. You have a good heart and good intentions, but if you don't get the reaction you are desiring out of this (and I don't believe you will), you'll end up hurting yourself in the process.
Well, this would be a good story to tell, say, after you have been together for some time and you are already engaged. By which time she will know you well enough that she will be truly touched by the depth of your feelings, and won't have run shrieking into the night, which she will if you come at her with all of this. I could regale you with a precautionary tale from my own early naive dating experience, and it ended in disaster. You have some lady BBSers giving you the "don't" advice, which should carry much more weight than us males, and the males overwhelmingly have said "don't" as well. But I do encourage you to keep the letter, to read after more life experiences have made you wiser, both in your own self-knowledge as well as knowledgable in the ways of the fairer sex. And there are other ways to discover whether or not she is really involved in a relationship with another guy. You have a good heart and good intentions, but if you don't get the reaction you are desiring out of this (and I don't believe you will), you'll end up hurting yourself in the process.
Dude, never, Never, NEVER give a love letter to a girl you do not know. They don't consider it flattering, they consider it creepy. Trust me I speak from experience. I wrote that same letter 25 years ago. It was a disaster! Trust everyone who has answered you! Burn it quickly.
Because it's a creepy thing to do. If you like someone tell them, don't put it in a lame ass letter. Only makes you look foolish.
I have to concur with all of the above, except for lookingglassman, who's been known to stop at car accidents, not just drive slowly by.(I kid, I kid).
As someone who's embarrassed himself too often to mention with the opposite sex when in my teens, and a couple of times after that, this is a Bad Idea.
Just for the curious, how old are you?
*/thinks: maybe I'm cynical... but it's been 2 months since we last heard from... MadBaggins.../*
As someone who's embarrassed himself too often to mention with the opposite sex when in my teens, and a couple of times after that, this is a Bad Idea.
Just for the curious, how old are you?
*/thinks: maybe I'm cynical... but it's been 2 months since we last heard from... MadBaggins.../*
Popcorn? I cracked open the bubbly.
Hmmm... interesting. But why wouldn't he be posting under his own name? I don't believe he's been banned.
I did tell her. After writing that moronic letter, I approached her in person. She took one look at my wheelchair, called me a retarded crippled freak and told me to go away.
Popcorn? I cracked open the bubbly.
Good man. I have a couple of snifter-fulls of brandy available as well.
uh yeah, letters=creepy
I once got a love letter from a chain wearing bus driver about 20 years older than me...I ended up having to avoid riding that particular route number bus for a while. I was sooo creeped out.
Never leave a paper trail.
That women was, and probably still is, pure evil.
Well the letter doesnt seem bad at all to me. It isnt like he is saying "I want to possess you and will do whatever it takes to have you forever." The guy is just telling her how he feels and in the end he even states he wishes her well if she is attached to someone else.
Every person is different. This chick might be real sweet and think the letter is sweet and you never know. Nobody knows when fate throws them a bone and this may be fate throwing him one.
I still would take a chance. If it dont work out then dont go back there and leave her alone.
Every person is different. This chick might be real sweet and think the letter is sweet and you never know. Nobody knows when fate throws them a bone and this may be fate throwing him one.
I still would take a chance. If it dont work out then dont go back there and leave her alone.
Considering the baggage now attached to the MB name, I thought it a possibility.
The man speaks truth!
How about you just tell the chick you are interested in her, but you dont want to infringe on any relationship she might be in. That should be good enough.
It dont make sense to pass up a chance with a hot chick. I did that once to this chick I was interested in in college back in 1986. I was too scared to tell her how I felt and lost her to one of my enemies. I was able to track her down through our alumni directory and emailed her last summer and discovered I blew my chance back then because I chickened out. She could have been mine and instead she ended up with a loser who treated her like crap and she ended up dumping.
It dont make sense to pass up a chance with a hot chick. I did that once to this chick I was interested in in college back in 1986. I was too scared to tell her how I felt and lost her to one of my enemies. I was able to track her down through our alumni directory and emailed her last summer and discovered I blew my chance back then because I chickened out. She could have been mine and instead she ended up with a loser who treated her like crap and she ended up dumping.
I'm going to have to go with burn it, or if you must keep it, keep it safely hidden away.
If you feel you absolutely must write her a letter, you're going to have to do a lot of editing. I'd go with a nonchalant note rather than a pouring-out-your-heart letter. If she has any interest in you, you can later tell her how amazing you think she is.
Because yeah, there'd be no way in hell I'd go for a guy who wrote that letter to me. Way too creepy.
If you feel you absolutely must write her a letter, you're going to have to do a lot of editing. I'd go with a nonchalant note rather than a pouring-out-your-heart letter. If she has any interest in you, you can later tell her how amazing you think she is.
Because yeah, there'd be no way in hell I'd go for a guy who wrote that letter to me. Way too creepy.
Holy christ, get rid of the letter pronto. Delete the file, format the drive, then beat it with a hammer. And here's why:
-If she's getting a love letter from a random guy she doesn't really know, but has seen at work a couple times, it's already creepy. That you used the word "Stalker" right at the beginning, even as a joke, is going to make it worse.
-Biggest sign she's not into you? You've seen her a bunch of times, keep getting served by her, etc, and even after talking to you several times, is still introducing herself to you. You're not making THAT big an impression on her. Sure, she remembers seeing you, so will say hi or chat for a moment, but I'm betting she does the same with the 80 year old guy that comes in for lunch 2x a week. Here's the thing: Waitresses, like bartenders, strippers, etc, make most of their money in tips. Being nice for a few seconds, especially to the regulars, makes them more money. Twice as true if the waitress in question is attractive. Just how the game works.
-There's the obvious engagement ring bit, which means that train has sailed. Engagement isn't usually spur of the moment, so she's got a guy with some history there, and you're a random dude she brings a soda to occasionally. Then again, you DO have a creepy and stalker-ish letter, which talks about how you've been watching her, so maybe...
-Even if she wasn't that into her fiance', this isn't getting it done. If you're trying to break up an engagement, you're going to have to at least find enough confidence to talk to her in person, rather than writing a letter to her from your home at 3am. Not exactly the confident, sweep her off her feet kinda scenario there, but leads back towards the "run, he's stalking you" vibe that you, for some reason, spelled out to her in plain English at the top of the letter
-If she's getting a love letter from a random guy she doesn't really know, but has seen at work a couple times, it's already creepy. That you used the word "Stalker" right at the beginning, even as a joke, is going to make it worse.
-Biggest sign she's not into you? You've seen her a bunch of times, keep getting served by her, etc, and even after talking to you several times, is still introducing herself to you. You're not making THAT big an impression on her. Sure, she remembers seeing you, so will say hi or chat for a moment, but I'm betting she does the same with the 80 year old guy that comes in for lunch 2x a week. Here's the thing: Waitresses, like bartenders, strippers, etc, make most of their money in tips. Being nice for a few seconds, especially to the regulars, makes them more money. Twice as true if the waitress in question is attractive. Just how the game works.
-There's the obvious engagement ring bit, which means that train has sailed. Engagement isn't usually spur of the moment, so she's got a guy with some history there, and you're a random dude she brings a soda to occasionally. Then again, you DO have a creepy and stalker-ish letter, which talks about how you've been watching her, so maybe...
-Even if she wasn't that into her fiance', this isn't getting it done. If you're trying to break up an engagement, you're going to have to at least find enough confidence to talk to her in person, rather than writing a letter to her from your home at 3am. Not exactly the confident, sweep her off her feet kinda scenario there, but leads back towards the "run, he's stalking you" vibe that you, for some reason, spelled out to her in plain English at the top of the letter
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