My mother passed away this weekend
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Thanks Gary
Good luck to you this Friday and on looking for a job, Buck. I'm glad to hear that you got your car fixed and some of the paperwork for your mom straightened out.
My own mom passed away suddenly of a heart attack since the last time I posted in this thread (she died on June 6th at age 57), so I certainly understand the feelings and difficulties you've been going through all the more clearly now.
I wish you the best, and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a PM any time.
sorry to hear of the passing of your mother locutus. 57 is way to young.
take care of your self.
buck..
keep on going.. and good that you are not letting that cousin undermine your attempts to survive this rough period.
Sorry for your loss, condolences to you and yours. 
Well I've starting the task of downsizing the house by loading up a container that I've rented for a yard sale in two weeks,then once I've finished the yard sale depending if I do a flea-market as well at the Bengies drive in movie theater will further reduce the amount of items that I'll be taking with me once I find a place to call home.
My mom had a peice of advice for me during one of my unemployed periods "first get the Job then find yourself a place to live",and another one was when I threatened to leave home as a kid " would you like me to pack sandwiches to take with you".
All along my parents have been preparing me to live on my own,and I was too blind to see it.
When I first moved out after I got married I thought I was launched,but that marriage failed,and my father didn't want me to return,but my mother convinced him to take me back.
Then on his birthday 1/15/1988 he passed away,and I vowed to my mother that I wouldn't leave her till I was ready both financially,and emotionally.
Now I'm 50 years old,and yes I have allot of friends,but they're also not wealthy,and I'm not expecting them to help me with money that's my task to find work keep the job,make money for my living expenses.
I'm getting tired,and I'm going to bed
Talk to you all later
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Buck Rogers
My mom had a peice of advice for me during one of my unemployed periods "first get the Job then find yourself a place to live",and another one was when I threatened to leave home as a kid " would you like me to pack sandwiches to take with you".
All along my parents have been preparing me to live on my own,and I was too blind to see it.
When I first moved out after I got married I thought I was launched,but that marriage failed,and my father didn't want me to return,but my mother convinced him to take me back.
Then on his birthday 1/15/1988 he passed away,and I vowed to my mother that I wouldn't leave her till I was ready both financially,and emotionally.
Now I'm 50 years old,and yes I have allot of friends,but they're also not wealthy,and I'm not expecting them to help me with money that's my task to find work keep the job,make money for my living expenses.
I'm getting tired,and I'm going to bed
Talk to you all later
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Buck Rogers
Good luck with the yard sale. If you can afford it, it really helps to put an ad in your newspaper's classifieds. It helped when my parents had a sale.
Good luck with the job hunt. The idea for a classified ad for the yard sale is a good one too. Also, list the yardsale on Craigslist or something similar.
Gary,and Captain Ice,
I'll be putting a ad on Craigslist once I've finished collecting the items to sell,and know what I've got that can be priced,but I've got clear out the three chestand drawers of personal stuff of my fathers before I let those go to the yard sale,and flea market.
But I've got to get another repair done on the car,and have the car in my name.
Thanks for the advice
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Buck Rogers
I'll be putting a ad on Craigslist once I've finished collecting the items to sell,and know what I've got that can be priced,but I've got clear out the three chestand drawers of personal stuff of my fathers before I let those go to the yard sale,and flea market.
But I've got to get another repair done on the car,and have the car in my name.
Thanks for the advice
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Buck Rogers
Well this weekend was hard on me Friday I started the evening prior to the launch of Smallville with a crying jag today I went to Columbia ,MD for a Job Fair by Suncoast video,and was told my resume was sent to the upper management for consideration for a manager position.
Then I went to lunch at Panera Bread,and the manager Debi remembered not only me but mom as well.
I got the first Foreclosure letter from the owner of the second mortgage Suntrust make payments or leave the property.
I still haven't found a job yet,but it looks like I could find a place before I start a job that scares the hell out me since my bank account is low in money,and all apts require a down payment,and first month in some areas a fee I could find myself kicked out if I don't find a job soon.
That's all for now October could be the month I move or maybe I could try to get the loan cancelled since I'm not on the Loan and since my mother passed away without instructions on what to do,my dutch uncle Phil is the Personal Representative according to the will,and has refused to pay the back mortgages,property taxes etc.
I feel so alone sometimes without a compass to guide me any thoughts?
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Buck Rogers
Then I went to lunch at Panera Bread,and the manager Debi remembered not only me but mom as well.
I got the first Foreclosure letter from the owner of the second mortgage Suntrust make payments or leave the property.
I still haven't found a job yet,but it looks like I could find a place before I start a job that scares the hell out me since my bank account is low in money,and all apts require a down payment,and first month in some areas a fee I could find myself kicked out if I don't find a job soon.
That's all for now October could be the month I move or maybe I could try to get the loan cancelled since I'm not on the Loan and since my mother passed away without instructions on what to do,my dutch uncle Phil is the Personal Representative according to the will,and has refused to pay the back mortgages,property taxes etc.
I feel so alone sometimes without a compass to guide me any thoughts?
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Buck Rogers
I think your idiotic uncle needs to either pay the mortgages/taxes or put the house up for sale. Of course, the second mortgage could be bluffing. How much is owed on the first mortgage? How much on the second? If the company with the second take3s the house, they have to pay off the first.
Captain Ice
I can't be specific on the Amount but let us say for discussion $200K for the 1st mortgage,and under $50K for the second mortgage,but bring it up to current on both I need $11K to forestall foreclosure.
Yes he's being an idiot,but if it weren't for him I wouldn't have two insurance payments,and soon to have a refund on a third insurance policy a small one.
The details I can't give out for legal reasons.
Also I think that both companies are waiting for the Real Estate market in Baltimore to rebound,and that could take until the first of the year,then they'll strike.
Hopefully I'll be settled in a place of my own weather its renting a Apt, a house that is converted to a Retail space,and I live above it.
But a job an a place come first before my dream of owning a business comes true.
That's all for now
Again thanks for your input.
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Buck Rogers
I can't be specific on the Amount but let us say for discussion $200K for the 1st mortgage,and under $50K for the second mortgage,but bring it up to current on both I need $11K to forestall foreclosure.
Yes he's being an idiot,but if it weren't for him I wouldn't have two insurance payments,and soon to have a refund on a third insurance policy a small one.
The details I can't give out for legal reasons.
Also I think that both companies are waiting for the Real Estate market in Baltimore to rebound,and that could take until the first of the year,then they'll strike.
Hopefully I'll be settled in a place of my own weather its renting a Apt, a house that is converted to a Retail space,and I live above it.
But a job an a place come first before my dream of owning a business comes true.
That's all for now
Again thanks for your input.
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Buck Rogers
Sorry to hear this. My mother was just diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer. She was also just admitted to the hospital for a ruptured appendix last night - so I truly - deeply feel for you. I will think of her in my prayers tonight and I wish you and your family peace.
Update its been four months since I've posted in this thread.
My bank account is around $500 or so still no work ,but I keep trying its at the eighth month exactly when mom passed away to the weekend it was a Friday morning she died,and tomorrow will be the day I viewed her,and Sunday was the day we buried her back in March yesterday my friends Diane K.Hain and Lisa Ianzzui treated me to a scrumptious festive meal for Thanksgiving I helped by making tea for everyone.
I'll cancel the POD from Pack Rat tomorrow ,and hopefully recover some money from them.
As to cable TV I'm switching to Verizon briefly to cut costs next week some people think I should cut off my entertainment,internet,phone needs completely and live like a homeless person in a shelter.
I know some of you are in the same boat financially,but if somebody wants to help me I won't turn it down or even advice on what do next.
Good night all
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Buck Rogers
My bank account is around $500 or so still no work ,but I keep trying its at the eighth month exactly when mom passed away to the weekend it was a Friday morning she died,and tomorrow will be the day I viewed her,and Sunday was the day we buried her back in March yesterday my friends Diane K.Hain and Lisa Ianzzui treated me to a scrumptious festive meal for Thanksgiving I helped by making tea for everyone.
I'll cancel the POD from Pack Rat tomorrow ,and hopefully recover some money from them.
As to cable TV I'm switching to Verizon briefly to cut costs next week some people think I should cut off my entertainment,internet,phone needs completely and live like a homeless person in a shelter.
I know some of you are in the same boat financially,but if somebody wants to help me I won't turn it down or even advice on what do next.
Good night all
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Buck Rogers
I work every day with people who actually live in homeless shelters, and if you think that cutting off your fucking cable and internet is in any way equivalent to how they live, you have clearly lived a very very sheltered (forgive the pun) life. Get some fucking perspective, man.
I am so very sorry on your loss. I’m sorry you’ve joined the club of those who have lost a parent. It sucks to be a member.
My father passed away over 3 years ago. I miss him so much still. While speaking to my Mom yesterday, she said this was the fourth Thanksgiving without Dad.
My father passed away over 3 years ago. I miss him so much still. While speaking to my Mom yesterday, she said this was the fourth Thanksgiving without Dad.
Col.Green,
You're right I've been sheltered all of my life by my parents,but I'm beginning to see a way for me cut expenses until I do connect with a job,and hopefully soon I did purchase a digital converter box so depending when comcast cable does cut it off for no payment all I have to do is hook up the converter box so I'll be fine.
I'm getting assistance from Jewish Community Service for two bills BG&E bill,and my car insurance bill in exchange for Job hunt help and some life help as well as grief group help too.
My heat is off again due to running out of oil so tomorrow I'm going to try to see if I can get energy assistance grant to pay for my heating needs.
I'll be also renting my bedroom out to the Jewish community for a reasonable rent to make expenses.
I'm not defending my parents choice to shelter me,but I've got a turn of events that has me looking at solutions not problems to my plight.
Myself getting a Job is most preferable right now.
Thanks for your input it was most helpful LOL
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Buck Rogers
You're right I've been sheltered all of my life by my parents,but I'm beginning to see a way for me cut expenses until I do connect with a job,and hopefully soon I did purchase a digital converter box so depending when comcast cable does cut it off for no payment all I have to do is hook up the converter box so I'll be fine.
I'm getting assistance from Jewish Community Service for two bills BG&E bill,and my car insurance bill in exchange for Job hunt help and some life help as well as grief group help too.
My heat is off again due to running out of oil so tomorrow I'm going to try to see if I can get energy assistance grant to pay for my heating needs.
I'll be also renting my bedroom out to the Jewish community for a reasonable rent to make expenses.
I'm not defending my parents choice to shelter me,but I've got a turn of events that has me looking at solutions not problems to my plight.
Myself getting a Job is most preferable right now.
Thanks for your input it was most helpful LOL
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Buck Rogers
@propita,
I lost my dad 22 years ago some of my friends say that I've finally accepted his loss,but that's not true with this loss of my mom, it opened that wound too a little bit too.
Also this January it will be 23 years ago,and if he was alive he would have been 95 years old.
They it gets better as the years go by,but I took out his guitar one evening to play and had a complete shutdown after I played it I cried like a little boy,and afterwards I felt two hands on my shoulders one small one large I grasped where the wrists were and closed my eyes it was my parents that came for a visit I went to bed and woke up around 4AM couldn't sleep made some tea watched TV until 5:30 AM went to bed and didn't wake up until 12:30PM I'm still grieving and in four months from now will be 1 year of mom's death,and I don't know where life will take me,but I'm positive I'll get over the small hump of not having a job and maybe getting one soon before this year ends.
Well I hope you'll be my friend in this thread and feel free to PM me OK.
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Buck Rogers
I lost my dad 22 years ago some of my friends say that I've finally accepted his loss,but that's not true with this loss of my mom, it opened that wound too a little bit too.
Also this January it will be 23 years ago,and if he was alive he would have been 95 years old.
They it gets better as the years go by,but I took out his guitar one evening to play and had a complete shutdown after I played it I cried like a little boy,and afterwards I felt two hands on my shoulders one small one large I grasped where the wrists were and closed my eyes it was my parents that came for a visit I went to bed and woke up around 4AM couldn't sleep made some tea watched TV until 5:30 AM went to bed and didn't wake up until 12:30PM I'm still grieving and in four months from now will be 1 year of mom's death,and I don't know where life will take me,but I'm positive I'll get over the small hump of not having a job and maybe getting one soon before this year ends.
Well I hope you'll be my friend in this thread and feel free to PM me OK.
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Buck Rogers
Use all the assistance you can, keep up the job search, but at this stage, you really need to get any job you can physically/mentally do.. if flipping burgers is all that's left..flip burgers...make/deliver pizzas..night shift at 7-11...one must do anything possible to make it in today's world... I say this from personal experience ANY job you can land..not just those in your chosen career path...
My condolences for your loss Buck.
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