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My mother passed away this weekend

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Good luck to you this Friday and on looking for a job, Buck. I'm glad to hear that you got your car fixed and some of the paperwork for your mom straightened out.

My own mom passed away suddenly of a heart attack since the last time I posted in this thread (she died on June 6th at age 57), so I certainly understand the feelings and difficulties you've been going through all the more clearly now.

I wish you the best, and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a PM any time. :)
 
Locutus of Bored said:
Good luck to you this Friday and on looking for a job, Buck. I'm glad to hear that you got your car fixed and some of the paperwork for your mom straightened out.

My own mom passed away suddenly of a heart attack since the last time I posted in this thread (she died on June 6th at age 57), so I certainly understand the feelings and difficulties you've been going through all the more clearly now.

I wish you the best, and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a PM any time. :)
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Oh no. You have my sincerest condolences, Locutus. :(
 
I am so very sorry for your loss.

Take care of yourself, even when you think everything's okay. The stress of losing a parent can have effects you're not aware of.

My best to you and your family.
 
I already commisserated with the OP upthread, but you have my condolences as well Locutus. Stay strong.
 
Locutus did you lose your mom so sorry to hear that my condolences to you,and your family as you've probably read I had lost my mom to Colon Cancer. Saturday will be three months since the death,and now have family troubles with my cousin,who has taken upon himself to diss me in every way possible from today telling me that I live in dream world to giving a book review on Amazon.com stating that I'm rambling idiot,and that I didn't work for a living oh another thing he stated today in a reply was I'm self-proclamed interlect,and I had worked in horsesh*t jobs in college I'm very angry with him on the a three month anniversary of my mother' death that in my opinion is unkind,and very mean of him.
I need some advice on how to deal with him without possibly killing him or wishing him harm?
Good night all
Signed
Buck Rogers
 
Buck Rogers said:
Hello to all,

My mother Sylvia Schildt passed away from Stomach,Liver,Colon Cancer on Friday,26TH,2010 @6:40AM.
She was 75 years of age,we viewed her on Saturday March 27TH,and Buried her on Sunday March,28TH,2010.
If anybody wishes to get the link to the funeral home's website please PM me and I'll provide it.
Thank you
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Buck Rogers:wah:
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My mother died of throat cancer a few years ago and I still miss her greatly.
 
Buck Rogers said:
Saturday will be three months since the death,and now have family troubles with my cousin,who has taken upon himself to diss me in every way possible from today telling me that I live in dream world to giving a book review on Amazon.com stating that I'm rambling idiot,and that I didn't work for a living oh another thing he stated today in a reply was I'm self-proclamed interlect,and I had worked in horsesh*t jobs in college I'm very angry with him on the a three month anniversary of my mother' death that in my opinion is unkind,and very mean of him.
I need some advice on how to deal with him without possibly killing him or wishing him harm?
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I'm sorry to hear that your cousin is giving you such a hard time while you're down. I don't really know what to say about how to deal with him other than telling you that letting him provoke you into violence will only make your problems worse. I'm sure that's not what your mother would have wanted you to do, and it gives him control over your life and your feelings in a way.

So, while I know it's hard, try and ignore your cousin and not let him get you down, and hopefully he'll stop harassing you. If not, perhaps you could speak to other family members to find out what his problem is and maybe get them to help convince him to stop.
 
Locutus of Bored said:
Buck Rogers said:
Saturday will be three months since the death,and now have family troubles with my cousin,who has taken upon himself to diss me in every way possible from today telling me that I live in dream world to giving a book review on Amazon.com stating that I'm rambling idiot,and that I didn't work for a living oh another thing he stated today in a reply was I'm self-proclamed interlect,and I had worked in horsesh*t jobs in college I'm very angry with him on the a three month anniversary of my mother' death that in my opinion is unkind,and very mean of him.
I need some advice on how to deal with him without possibly killing him or wishing him harm?
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I'm sorry to hear that your cousin is giving you such a hard time while you're down. I don't really know what to say about how to deal with him other than telling you that letting him provoke you into violence will only make your problems worse. I'm sure that's not what your mother would have wanted you to do, and it gives him control over your life and your feelings in a way.

So, while I know it's hard, try and ignore your cousin and not let him get you down, and hopefully he'll stop harassing you. If not, perhaps you could speak to other family members to find out what his problem is and maybe get them to help convince him to stop.
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I've decided to ignore him for now I got a busy weekend tomorrow I have a Hotel meeting,then a Con committee meeting to attend briefly then show time I'm doing my author event tomorrow from 4PM-6Pm following that I'm attending a concert performed by Arlo G.,and on Sunday the last meeting in June for my club.
in two weeks its the convention,and I'll be busy.
Still haven't found work,but have some prospects.
My book is now available at a discount of 28% on www.barnesandnobel.com just type A sketchbook of the Inventive Mind that should get you the page,and you can also go to your local Barnesand Nobel to pre-order the book. for $20 the same price or lower on Amazon.com
Stay well,and if you need a friend let me know OK.
Signed
Buck Rogers
 
Well this past week has been very hard on me emotionally my book sold one copy at Greetings and Readings,and that the concert was a free concert not the one by Arlo G. However my online distribution has increased to www.borders.com/bordersmarketplace

As well as www.booksamillion.com I think its a start in the right direction,but it takes time to build a readership also I'm on the BarnesandNobel Nook e-reader for download.
Mid week had a crying jag,and it gave me a headache so I went to bed.
Today was getting organized for the convention day like doing flyers,price lists for selling not only my book but a robot dog,some magazines ,andTV Guides SE issues.

While doing all of this I picked up a group shot with my parents,and myself in the shot,and started to overcome with grief just by looking at it I'm crying right now because I'm reliving the moment of not only losing her,but my father as well.
I know their spirits are with me,and two weeks ago I had an encounter,where a small hand was on my left shoulder,and a much larger hand was on my right I cried that night too right after that feeling of being touched by my parents. afterwards I OBE'd to the bridge during the night they came and caressed me on my side of the bridge I stayed for a brief few minutes then I had to return to my body.

Well I gotta go now and gets some rest

Good night

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Buck Rogers
 
So sorry, Locutus.

Dad's been gone three years, and just this morning, I woke up from a dream that he and I were in the car, driving someplace and having one of our usual talks. The only good thing is that this time I woke up smiling. It was like Dad was still with me. Making me cry now.
 
propita said:
So sorry, Locutus.

Dad's been gone three years, and just this morning, I woke up from a dream that he and I were in the car, driving someplace and having one of our usual talks. The only good thing is that this time I woke up smiling. It was like Dad was still with me. Making me cry now.
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Sorry to hear that propita three years ago my mother had her fall in the shower breaking both her arms,and it took that long to get her to walk again,but aparently internally she did not heal properly,and became house bound except for the last two years I managed to keep an eye her ,when we went to the convention together.
Our parents are always with us no matter what the distance in time will heal those wounds too.
Keep in touch OK.
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Buck Rogers
 
propita said:
So sorry, Locutus.

Dad's been gone three years, and just this morning, I woke up from a dream that he and I were in the car, driving someplace and having one of our usual talks. The only good thing is that this time I woke up smiling. It was like Dad was still with me. Making me cry now.
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Thank you. :)

I had a similar dream the other day about asking my Mom for advice.
 
Well I went to the con,and survived the weekend I didn't breakdown and make a fool out of myself by crying.
However I did pass the spot where she held court several times during the con.
I want to thank TerriO for being there for me,and giving me the hug that I needed on Saturday.
Last night I started to remember how I got into fandom 33 years ago,and realized that if mom hadn't picked up that flyer I wouldn't have the friends that I have now,because of her action that she took most of the actors that I've met over the years,have become friends with me.
In two weeks will be the four month mark of her death,and still have not found work yet.
I'm thinking of returning to school,and study Small business administration,e-commerce at CCBC-Catonsville,MD as well as possibly getting a job as a Adj.Professor if that happens I could have a new career starting in the Fall.
Wish me luck.
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Buck Rogers
 
Buck Rogers said:
Locutus did you lose your mom so sorry to hear that my condolences to you,and your family as you've probably read I had lost my mom to Colon Cancer. Saturday will be three months since the death,and now have family troubles with my cousin,who has taken upon himself to diss me in every way possible from today telling me that I live in dream world to giving a book review on Amazon.com stating that I'm rambling idiot,and that I didn't work for a living oh another thing he stated today in a reply was I'm self-proclamed interlect,and I had worked in horsesh*t jobs in college I'm very angry with him on the a three month anniversary of my mother' death that in my opinion is unkind,and very mean of him.
I need some advice on how to deal with him without possibly killing him or wishing him harm?
Good night all
Signed
Buck Rogers
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My dad and my brother abused me in a similar manner for many years. After my mom's death seven years ago, I cut off all contact with both of them. In addition, my brother's violent outbursts due to his heavy drinking led me to fear for my safety.

I'm sorry to hear about your cousin. The only thing I can suggest is to do what I did. Stop seeing him.
 
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