I'm talking about something between the two extremes, and this isn't gripe I have, it's just an observation, or a preference. I don't remember watching Apollo 13 or Gravity at the cinema thinking 'this looks boring'
You do have to admit that both those films were demonstrably different than any Trek film, both in setting and in content.
Absolutely, but they both completely nailed what I imagine outer space to be like. I'd just like a slight sprinkling of that in Trek that's all, I just found the space scenes in STID to be too colourful and comic book like, and I don't level that criticism at ST09. Like I said earlier this is a long way away from being a deal breaker.
The difference in those movies was that the nothingness of space was where all the drama was. It was a character as much as Hanks or Bullock. You were "in" space.
Not so much in Star Trek. You're in the Enterprise. We've conquered space.