My friend's odd rant over this woman's comment.

[Supreme Admiral]

Original thread title: "You're the whitest black guy"

I'm getting really fuck'n impatient with this. Last night I was out and I was introduced to this cute girl who I struck up a decent convo with. We talked about school Movies sports etc. It was actually going pretty well, a lot of notches in the plus column then BAM. She busts out "You're like, the whitest black guy I've ever met." To which i respond, " Oh ha ha, how so?" all the while trying to subdue the rage boiling up from within. She answers with "You speak really well and wear polos." I mean fair enough even if you want to throw up your hands and say "you know what she meant". Anyway later in the night she's tell'n me about how she's never dated a black guy but has always been "Fascinated" with them. To me this is a flag. It seems more fetishism, that's not the kind of bond I'd want with another person. Even on friendly terms I refuse to be black guy you want to pander to the caricature you have of me in your mind.

I don't understand my beloved friend at all. He's so uptight over his female friend's comment that he's the whitest black guy that she ever known. That bothered me a lot, he shouldn't be mad. I'm not laughing, but some of my black friends have stop hanging out with white females for no reason whatsoever.

What do you think of his odd rant?

 

[Tiberius Jim]

Original thread title: "You're the whitest black guy"

I'm getting really fuck'n impatient with this. Last night I was out and I was introduced to this cute girl who I struck up a decent convo with. We talked about school Movies sports etc. It was actually going pretty well, a lot of notches in the plus column then BAM. She busts out "You're like, the whitest black guy I've ever met." To which i respond, " Oh ha ha, how so?" all the while trying to subdue the rage boiling up from within. She answers with "You speak really well and wear polos." I mean fair enough even if you want to throw up your hands and say "you know what she meant". Anyway later in the night she's tell'n me about how she's never dated a black guy but has always been "Fascinated" with them. To me this is a flag. It seems more fetishism, that's not the kind of bond I'd want with another person. Even on friendly terms I refuse to be black guy you want to pander to the caricature you have of me in your mind.

I don't understand my beloved friend at all. He's so uptight over his female friend's comment that he's the whitest black guy that she ever known. That bothered me a lot, he shouldn't be mad. I'm not laughing, but some of my black friends have stop hanging out with white females for no reason whatsoever.

What do you think of his odd rant?

That girl sounds like kind of a twat.

 

[Supreme Admiral]

How so?

 

[Misfit Toy]

Anyway later in the night she's tell'n me about how she's never dated a black guy but has always been "Fascinated" with them. To me this is a flag. It seems more fetishism, that's not the kind of bond I'd want with another person. Even on friendly terms I refuse to be black guy you want to pander to the caricature you have of me in your mind.

Smart man. He's right.

 

[Tiberius Jim]

How so?

She expects all black guys to adhere to the current stereotype, thus she is surprised that he's "different" and doesn't have the mental capacity or class to realize it'd be offensive to point that out.

In other words, she's a twat.

 

[wamdue]

How so?

She expects all black guys to adhere to the current stereotype, thus she is surprised that he's "different" and doesn't have the mental capacity or class to realize it'd be offensive to point that out.

In other words, she's a twat.

yes I was going to say similar.

 

[Dorian Thompson]

She obviously equates being white with being intelligent and being black with.....not being intelligent or speaking properly. It pissed the guy off. It's not so difficult to understand.

 

[Amaris]

Anyway later in the night she's tell'n me about how she's never dated a black guy but has always been "Fascinated" with them. To me this is a flag. It seems more fetishism, that's not the kind of bond I'd want with another person. Even on friendly terms I refuse to be black guy you want to pander to the caricature you have of me in your mind.

Smart man. He's right.

On the money.


J.

 

[Kestra]

Yeah, it's not difficult to see where he's coming from. There's a good chance that she's ignorant about how insulting and harmful an attitude like that can be, though.

 

[auntiehill]

I think that when someone makes a comment like that, it pretty much exposes them as being a racist, ignorant twit.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

Original thread title: "You're the whitest black guy"

I'm getting really fuck'n impatient with this. Last night I was out and I was introduced to this cute girl who I struck up a decent convo with. We talked about school Movies sports etc. It was actually going pretty well, a lot of notches in the plus column then BAM. She busts out "You're like, the whitest black guy I've ever met." To which i respond, " Oh ha ha, how so?" all the while trying to subdue the rage boiling up from within. She answers with "You speak really well and wear polos." I mean fair enough even if you want to throw up your hands and say "you know what she meant". Anyway later in the night she's tell'n me about how she's never dated a black guy but has always been "Fascinated" with them. To me this is a flag. It seems more fetishism, that's not the kind of bond I'd want with another person. Even on friendly terms I refuse to be black guy you want to pander to the caricature you have of me in your mind.

I don't understand my beloved friend at all. He's so uptight over his female friend's comment that he's the whitest black guy that she ever known. That bothered me a lot, he shouldn't be mad. I'm not laughing, but some of my black friends have stop hanging out with white females for no reason whatsoever.

What do you think of his odd rant?

I don't think it's odd at all. Your friend is absolutely right, and I wouldn't have pursued another date with this girl either had I been in his shoes. She's ignorant and offensive.

Saying "you speak so well" to a black guy as if that's some kind of shocking achievement for a person of any color with a decent education is one of the most condescending backhanded compliments possible.

Saying "you're the whitest black guy" again implies that there's some preset standard of blackness he has to live up to in her severely limited worldview. How insulting. You're not black enough to be easily pigeon-holed into a (probably negative) category by me.

Then, she treats the act of dating a black guy as some kind of friggin' sociological experiment or just another notch on her bedpost instead of treating him like a human being.

She's an asshole, and good on your friend for not putting up with it just to get laid or something. You should support him, not dismiss his decision as something so petty as a black guy dumping white women for "no reason whatsoever."

 

[jamestyler]

If I were in his position - I wouldn't have been polite and laughed it off.

 

[Nardpuncher]

I just had one of my coworkers who adheres to about 90% of the things onthe "Stuff White People Like" blog say that she wanted to go somewhere 'not too white' in front of me (I'm white) and our other coworker, who's black. We both rolled our eyes at that.
It's funny too because we're in Taiwan.

 

[T'Baio]

Saying "you're the whitest black guy I've ever met" is funny if she means he comes off like a dork. It's somewhat satirical. But when she explains that she meant it's because he speaks well and dresses nice? Total racist moron.

 

[Australis]

I was going to say it sounds like she was two steps away from saying "you people". I was wrong. Sounds more like one.

In other words, SA, she's implying all black guys wear their hats backwards and fling gang signs about and graffiti everything. Or something like that. Oh, and his car's probably pimped out and does that bouncing up and down thing. That's all her worldview allows for.

No, he's better off a long way from that one.

 

[CaptainStoner]

It's basically the same question as to why blacks were offended by Bill O'Reilly's surprise to find a black restaurant was "clean".
Racism doesn't have to be a conscious thing to manifest. Nor do other "issues".

 

[SiorX]

What do you think of his odd rant?

Frankly, I admire your friend's self-restraint. The woman was so far out of line, she was queuing for something else entirely.

 

[Bisz]

Frankly, I admire your friend's self-restraint. The woman was so far out of line, she was queuing for something else entirely.

But maybe she was hot and looked like the kind that wouldn't mind being the meat in a pumpernickel sandwitch, if you know what I mind.

 

[RoJoHen]

Saying "you're the whitest black guy I've ever met" is funny if she means he comes off like a dork. It's somewhat satirical. But when she explains that she meant it's because he speaks well and dresses nice? Total racist moron.

Yeah, it had the potential to be slightly amusing, but she definitely didn't have the right intention behind it.

 

[sidious618]

Sounds like she's a moron.