My father died today

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Candlelight, Jan 23, 2013.

  1. Kestra

    Kestra Admiral Premium Member

    Jul 6, 2005
    I'm sorry for your loss, Candlelight. We're here for you if you need us.
  2. flandry84

    flandry84 Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

    Jun 24, 2007
    Sunshine cottage,Lollipop lane,Latveria
    Deepest sympathies Candlelight.

    It's been over five years since my own dad passed away and let me tell you,that saying that time is a healer is wrong.All time does is throw the distractions of life in your way.
    Before all of this I was your typical stoic tough-guy,or so I thought.When my dad died I cried like a child and now whenever I hear a sad(or indeed an uplifting)news story,I'm off,waterworks at the drop of a hat.
    And perhaps that's no bad thing.
  3. JRS

    JRS Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

    Jun 25, 2003
    I am very sorry for your loss:borg:
    My deepest condolences to you and to your family.
  4. Roshi

    Roshi Admiral Admiral

    Nov 22, 2004
    Sorry to read that, C. Take care.
  5. RJDiogenes

    RJDiogenes Idealistic Cynic and Canon Champion Premium Member

    Jun 11, 2003
    RJDiogenes of Boston
    My condolences, Candlelight. My father also died of lung-related problems, about six months ago.
  6. Unicron

    Unicron Continuity Spackle Moderator

    May 8, 2003
    The Red Church of Niah
    And mine as well. :(
  7. KimMH

    KimMH Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Jan 14, 2009
    The poster formerly known as ORSE
    I'm very sorry for your loss. It seems especially cruel to lose a close family member close to the holidays. You really don't get over it; you just have to get through it.
  8. Mr. Laser Beam

    Mr. Laser Beam Fleet Admiral Admiral

    May 10, 2005
    The visitor's bullpen
    Oh man I am so sorry....
  9. Wereghost

    Wereghost Part-time poltergeist Rear Admiral

    Oct 21, 2009
    I don't presume to know what you're going through, Candlelight, but I'm sorry for your loss.
  10. propita

    propita Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Mar 9, 2001
    fresno, ca, us
    So very, very sorry for your loss. It's coming up on...gosh, six(!) years since Dad died. I miss him terribly.

    Best wishes to you.
  11. Anji

    Anji Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Jan 7, 2003
    Assisting in the birth of baby Horta on Janus VI
    I am so sorry to hear about your dad, Candlelight. I lost my mom 10 years ago and I can tell you the pain gets less but it never goes away.

    The best advice I can give you is if you need to cry, please cry. Let it all out. It's no good keeping it inside. Feel what you need to feel.

    And watch for a sign from your dad. He will let you know that he has made it to Heaven and he is alright.
  12. JiNX-01

    JiNX-01 Admiral Admiral

    Dec 29, 2002
    Prayers for and condolences to you and your family, Candlelight.
  13. Captain Ice

    Captain Ice Cookie Constructor Admiral

    Dec 30, 2002
    Getting Captain Ice on to the naughty list
    Seconded. When we buried my grandfather who was a train nut, just as the casket was being lowered into the ground, a train came by on adjacent track and blew it's whistle.

    You have my condolences, Candlelight. My Dad passed away just over a year ago after a bout of pneumonia. If you want to talk, just send me a PM.
  14. Emher

    Emher Admiral Admiral

    Jan 1, 2003
    My deepest and sincerest condolences, Candlelight.
  15. Candlelight

    Candlelight Admiral Admiral

    Apr 12, 2000
    New Zealand
    Thank you everyone. It's been easier today.
  16. Gryffindorian

    Gryffindorian Vice Admiral Admiral

    Jan 9, 2002
    Condolences and prayers to you and your family.
  17. Gary7

    Gary7 Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    My sincere condolences, Candlelight. :( Glad you are doing better today.
  18. Sector 7

    Sector 7 Vice Admiral Admiral

    Mar 27, 2008
    Rural North Carolina
    So sorry for your loss, Candlelight. My own Dad died February 18 of last year. Dad, who was a retired NASCAR race driver, died on the first day of race season last year. I think my most difficult time will be watching that first race and thinking of Dad. Race day was always our special time to visit. He always had some insight about racing that suddenly made the race come alive to me.

    You will find your own special trigger, too. It will come when you least expect it... a small thing. A car will pass like the one your dad owned, etc. Instead of being sad, use those triggers to recall pleasant memories and special times spent together.

    My prayers and best wishes to all who have lost loved ones.
  19. Captain Ice

    Captain Ice Cookie Constructor Admiral

    Dec 30, 2002
    Getting Captain Ice on to the naughty list
    Agreed. For me, it seems to be the start of baseball season. Dad was a huge baseball fan and we spent a lot of time watching the games together. Last year (Dad passed in Dec 2011), I wound up watching very few games because of this. i am hoping that I will be able to watch at least half the games this year (both Diamondbacks fans).
  20. Sparky

    Sparky Commodore Commodore

    Nov 10, 2001
    Calgary, Alberta. Canuckistan
    Sorry for your loss.

    It's been a year and 3 days since my dad died on January 23rd 2012.

    It gets better. But not right away. He is the reason that I love things like Star Trek, Star Wars and Doctor Who. I've had my avatar for a year now, and I told myself that I would take it down after a's still up....But somehow it does get better.