My father died today

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Candlelight, Jan 23, 2013.

  1. Candlelight

    Candlelight Admiral Admiral

    Apr 12, 2000
    New Zealand
    He had Parkinson's and had suffered pneumonia over new years, and was just slowly fading away. He died peacefully with my mum at his side.

    Bye Dad, enjoy those football matches up there.
  2. Melakon

    Melakon Admiral Admiral

    Nov 22, 2012
    Melakon's grave
    Sincere condolences. My Dad died when I was 19, over 40 years ago. I still dream about him.
  3. Fruitcake

    Fruitcake Fleet Admiral Admiral

    Jan 20, 2007
    inside teacake
    I'm very sorry to hear that Candlelight :( Take care of yourself and your mum.
  4. Amaris

    Amaris Abiding Eos Premium Member

    Dec 25, 2002
    My condolences, Candlelight, and my blessings to you and your family. :(
  5. rhubarbodendron

    rhubarbodendron Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    May 1, 2011
    milky way, outer spiral arm, Sol 3
    I'm very sorry, Candlelight :(
    While it is always terrible to lose someone near and dear to yourself, at least you were grated the opportunity to say goodbye. That doesn't sound like much of a comfort, but those of us who unexpectedly lost a friend or family member will propably agree that being unable to say goodbye is a rather traumatic experience, leading to years of what-if, if-only-I and why-didn't-I.

    I'm not really good at expressing feelings in this language, I'm afraid. But if you need someone to talk to (or just someone to listen), please don't hesitate to contact me.
  6. Candlelight

    Candlelight Admiral Admiral

    Apr 12, 2000
    New Zealand
    I managed to get up to see him at new years when everyone thought the pneumonia might take him, so I got to say a proper goodbye then (which was good as he effectively became non-responsive not long after that). It's funny how fate works; I live too far away for a simple drive up and so if he hadn't had the pneumonia scare I wouldn't have been able to take the emergency flight and say goodbye... though on the flipside it was that which began his sudden decline to begin with...
  7. stoneroses

    stoneroses Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Apr 5, 2001
    Herford, Germany
    Very sad. My dad died of cancer 4 years ago and I can imagine the pain you feel. It's not easy but you will get through it but he will alway be with you.
  8. The First Joël

    The First Joël Proto-Admiral Premium Member

    Jan 18, 2002
    My condolences, my Kiwi friend. Sending my blessings to you and your family.
  9. Australis

    Australis Writer Admiral

    Mar 12, 2005
    Sorry to hear that, mate. Take care of yourself and the rest of your family.
  10. Naira

    Naira Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Sep 23, 2002
    My condolences Candlelight.
  11. Scout101

    Scout101 Admiral Admiral

    Aug 21, 2003
    Rhode Island, USA
    Sorry to hear that.
  12. Gil T.Azell

    Gil T.Azell Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Mar 11, 2005
    Gil T.Azell
    Sorry for you loss. condolences to you and your family.

    It's coming up on 20 years for me since my dad passed and there are still time I wish we could talk.
  13. Mary Ann

    Mary Ann Knitting is honourable Premium Member

    Apr 16, 2010
    A Canuck in southwest England
    Sorry for your loss, Candlelight.
  14. Deranged Nasat

    Deranged Nasat Vice Admiral Admiral

    My sympathies, Candlelight. May he rest in peace.
  15. Tora Ziyal

    Tora Ziyal Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Feb 27, 2010
    My condolences to you and your family.
  16. Kirby

    Kirby Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Mar 16, 2003
    Alt: 5280
    I'm sorry for your loss Candlelight.
  17. Maurice Navidad

    Maurice Navidad Vice Admiral Admiral

    Oct 17, 2005
    Walking distance from Starfleet HQ
    My father had Parkinson's as well. He was in a care facility for about 4 months located a 6 hour drive away. I was lucky that I happened to make a trip and visited him when I did, because he passed 3 days later. That 12.5 years ago. So I have inkling of what you're going through.
  18. Shanndee

    Shanndee Commodore Commodore

    Sep 6, 2010
    I'm so sorry Candlelight. Remember to take care of yourself at this time. It is really easy to let yourself go as you concentrate on those around you.

    Warm Wishes to you and your family.
  19. auntiehill

    auntiehill The Blueness Premium Member

    Feb 7, 2006
    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, Candlelight. We're here for you if you need to vent or talk about it.
  20. bbailey861

    bbailey861 Admiral Premium Member

    Oct 14, 2009
    Kingston, ON Canada
    Sincere condolences to you and the rest of your family, Candlelight.