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I don't if this apply for your homestate JD but Vocational Rehab is good place to look into if you ever want to learn how to drive a car? It's called Driver Rehabilitation. That's how I learned to drive in my homestate when I was looking for a job many years ago!
Never heard of that, might have to look into it.
Never thought of that, but I think most of the colleges are probably farther away than we want to go. My mom doesn't want to drive super far for what's probably going to be around minimum wage, and I would like to make sure it's close enough I can ride my bike if something comes up and she can't drive me.
This was a quite busy past weekend for me, even if I feel a bit guilty about how I got around to it. I was visiting my parents for my father's birthday, and I blurted out my anxiety about reaching out to a clinical psychologist for my gender dysphoria diagnosis, which led to my mom egging me on until I googled one of the names suggested to me by a local online trans group two months ago (in retrospect, I can't help but feel I was quite manipulative). I looked them up, and it turns out they had an e-mail all along, so needless to say my months-long agonizing about having to make a phone call immediately felt foolish. It took me almost an hour to muster the courage to actually write an e-mail though, because I still have this mindset instilled in me that writing e-mails is a copout just so that you won't have to actually talk to someone.
Surprisingly, the psychologist replied, two full paragraphs at 7PM on Friday for some reason; they seemed helpful and understanding as well as familiar with trans issues, but they wouldn't be able to meet me this year; they're also wary about making a professional opinion based on listening to a total stranger talk for two hours, so they'd prefer if I had 12-15 therapy sessions before they write me anything, framing it as helping me leave any emotional baggage behind before I start medically transitioning in earnest. After the fiasco of paying $130 to have Rohrschach-, Szondi- and MMPI tests taken of me that were then cherry-picked into a 7-page document saying I'm a straight cis man with mommy issues who envies girls because they are allowed to cry, this actually sounds reasonable.
I've also managed to convince myself to go jogging today despite the cold and the fact that I don't have anyone to exercise together with anymore. Let's hope I'll also manage to have an actual proper sleep.
Surprisingly, the psychologist replied, two full paragraphs at 7PM on Friday for some reason; they seemed helpful and understanding as well as familiar with trans issues, but they wouldn't be able to meet me this year; they're also wary about making a professional opinion based on listening to a total stranger talk for two hours, so they'd prefer if I had 12-15 therapy sessions before they write me anything, framing it as helping me leave any emotional baggage behind before I start medically transitioning in earnest. After the fiasco of paying $130 to have Rohrschach-, Szondi- and MMPI tests taken of me that were then cherry-picked into a 7-page document saying I'm a straight cis man with mommy issues who envies girls because they are allowed to cry, this actually sounds reasonable.
I've also managed to convince myself to go jogging today despite the cold and the fact that I don't have anyone to exercise together with anymore. Let's hope I'll also manage to have an actual proper sleep.
Go you!
I'm not sure, the IT positions are all that came up on the city job pages last couple times I looked.
I hope so!
Also, glad to hear you made contact. So, you learned something very important that you are ready for now! Congratulations!
Not really, I think it was mainly just that I didn't have as much experience as in retail, although if you want to count helping take care of the dogs I have over 30 years of animal care experience, versus 12 of retail.
I met with him again last Friday and I brought up animal jobs again, and he did take the idea a bit more seriously.
I'm kind of annoyed, because the Medieval Times out here is looking for a stable hand, and I fit all the qualifications, but it's all the way over on the other side of town and I doubt it pays enough to justify the travel time.
I met with him again last Friday and I brought up animal jobs again, and he did take the idea a bit more seriously.
I'm kind of annoyed, because the Medieval Times out here is looking for a stable hand, and I fit all the qualifications, but it's all the way over on the other side of town and I doubt it pays enough to justify the travel time.
One of my younger selves is wide awake and having a conversation with me. It seems I can tell which of my younger selves is awake when something happens to awaken a particular memory or trauma. This younger me is amazed that we have friends...
Congratulations! I hope you have a good day
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday! May it blessed and peaceful.
Happy birthday, wayoung!
Belated birthday wishes.
Have some music that heals:
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Have some music that heals:
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Feeling really shitty.
Went to my girlfriends family Christmas. I don't speak French. They do. A couple speak English to varying degrees, rest don't
I wore a Christmas shirt and boxers.
Was playing with the kids, they were having lots of fun. Waistband of boxers were seen by the kids parents. Apparently they then started making fun of me in a language I don't know for wearing Christmas clothes on Christmas while I played with their children.
And the gift we got them (which I paid for because my girlfriend doesn't have much money) was terrible and selfish somehow because it was family entrance to a location that was, gasp, an hour drive for them. They got us nothing. Which would be fine except, ya know, complaining about what we got them.
My girlfriend told me about it all as I drove the hour and a half back home. She was telling me what they said and I was like:
"That sounds like they were insulting and making fun of me, beside me, without me knowing about it because they were doing it in a language I don't speak, and then bitch about a present we got them, when they got us nothing, because the drive for them is 1/3 less than the one in doing right now for their family Christmas?"
She says
"No they were just making jokes about your Christmas clothes and being picky."
"How is that not what I just said?"
Makes me wonder why I even fucking try. I picked out and paid for a family gift, I dressed up for Christmas, I drove three hours round trip instead of seeing my own family. I put myself in a place for a day where I am decidedly the outsider. I played with their kids for hours, and what do I get? Being complained about and insulted.
I'm supposed to go to friends tomorrow to watch Letterkenny. I just want to stay in fucking bed the rest of the holidays.
Went to my girlfriends family Christmas. I don't speak French. They do. A couple speak English to varying degrees, rest don't
I wore a Christmas shirt and boxers.
Was playing with the kids, they were having lots of fun. Waistband of boxers were seen by the kids parents. Apparently they then started making fun of me in a language I don't know for wearing Christmas clothes on Christmas while I played with their children.
And the gift we got them (which I paid for because my girlfriend doesn't have much money) was terrible and selfish somehow because it was family entrance to a location that was, gasp, an hour drive for them. They got us nothing. Which would be fine except, ya know, complaining about what we got them.
My girlfriend told me about it all as I drove the hour and a half back home. She was telling me what they said and I was like:
"That sounds like they were insulting and making fun of me, beside me, without me knowing about it because they were doing it in a language I don't speak, and then bitch about a present we got them, when they got us nothing, because the drive for them is 1/3 less than the one in doing right now for their family Christmas?"
She says
"No they were just making jokes about your Christmas clothes and being picky."
"How is that not what I just said?"
Makes me wonder why I even fucking try. I picked out and paid for a family gift, I dressed up for Christmas, I drove three hours round trip instead of seeing my own family. I put myself in a place for a day where I am decidedly the outsider. I played with their kids for hours, and what do I get? Being complained about and insulted.
I'm supposed to go to friends tomorrow to watch Letterkenny. I just want to stay in fucking bed the rest of the holidays.
@wayoung
In these situations;
People will tell you what to do
People will tell you how to feel
People will tell you what you should say
Holidays can Blow
Families can Blow
Significant Others can Really Blow
I look for the places and feelings that help me Not Blow
They are hard to find
But they are there
*empathy and not-blow strength *
In these situations;
People will tell you what to do
People will tell you how to feel
People will tell you what you should say
Holidays can Blow
Families can Blow
Significant Others can Really Blow
I look for the places and feelings that help me Not Blow
They are hard to find
But they are there
*empathy and not-blow strength *
That is not a nice way to be treated, your girlfriend could also be more supportive. She should have talked her family about their behaviour
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