Mental Wellness Support Group

[fireproof78]

Sorry to hear that. I sometimes miss retail but I had a supervisor who was hard ass in terms of getting jobs done, but a good mentor in terms of managing the stresses. He was the one who taught me to let shit roll of my back when it came to customers. Customers don't see a person when they are interacting with an employee. So, I do my best to practice reflective listening (useful in my current field), identifying a quick solution to a problem, and knowing my limits.

If retail is the option then I would encourage you to be building a relationship with your direct supervisor. Makes a difference.

 

[JD]

I had actually had a couple of department managers who were I got along with pretty well at Wal-Mart, but then they went hill after them, and got the point where the last one I had was the reason I barely lasted two weeks (not counting the time I was out for COVID) when I went back. There were a few people who work there who me and/or my mom have seen since I quit, and when they find out who I got as my department manager when I went back, they very quickly understand why I lasted such a short time.

 

[fireproof78]

I had actually had a couple of department managers who were I got along with pretty well at Wal-Mart, but then they went hill after them, and got the point where the last one I had was the reason I barely lasted two weeks (not counting the time I was out for COVID) when I went back. There were a few people who work there who me and/or my mom have seen since I quit, and when they find out who I got as my department manager when I went back, they very quickly understand why I lasted such a short time.

I've had those too.

You're older now, wiser and more experienced. Your past retail woes will be past. Not indicative of future experiences.

 

[bdub76]

My anxiety wouldn't let me work in retail.

Retail is actually fun. I worked the registers at Toys R Us in the 90s during Christmas time. It was so much fun watching the parents panic and run around the store finding stuff only to complain about it when they got to my register.

The best were the clueless parents. I remember one that only bought the bad guys for Star Wars because they looked cool. They hadn’t seen the movies.

Gotta make it fun. People are nuts.

 

[JD]

It was never more than tolerable for me.
Right now I'm thinking tomorrow I'll try to take a step forward in my job hunt. I've been spending some time with horses on almost all of my bikes for the few days, so that's making me want to give the stables one more try.

 

[bdub76]

It was never more than tolerable for me.
Right now I'm thinking tomorrow I'll try to take a step forward in my job hunt. I've been spending some time with horses on almost all of my bikes for the few days, so that's making me want to give the stables one more try.

Go for it.

 

[fireproof78]

It was never more than tolerable for me.
Right now I'm thinking tomorrow I'll try to take a step forward in my job hunt. I've been spending some time with horses on almost all of my bikes for the few days, so that's making me want to give the stables one more try.

Don't know unless you ask. You got this.

Retail was never more than tolerable for me either. It was always temporary.

 

[JD]

I ended up stopping for a while on my bike ride this morning, with one of the ladies with her horse actually, and by the time I got home, I didn't feel like making the phone call, so I'll give it another try on Monday or Tuesday. I don't call on Friday or weekends, because the place is always super busy then.

 

[Admiral Lowell]

This is my 1st post here Uschi suggested I come. I have many Health issues that has added to my serve Depression and I just had my 4th heart surgery 2 weeks ago. I also suffer from Type 2 Diabetic

I suffered for years the loss of friends both passing away and going away abuse on jobs and unable to quit due to needing the money. Finally by 2018 I had a small job with Brother friend and I became ill and was taken to Hospital where they determined My heart was bad and still is. it take 4 Surgeries and many meds to keep me going.

I hurt over many things yet as I told them in the hospital as long as I had one person to talk to I was safe. yet i still suffer over what I lost

 

[fireproof78]

This is my 1st post here Uschi suggested I come. I have many Health issues that has added to my serve Depression and I just had my 4th heart surgery 2 weeks ago. I also suffer from Type 2 Diabetic

I suffered for years the loss of friends both passing away and going away abuse on jobs and unable to quit due to needing the money. Finally by 2018 I had a small job with Brother friend and I became ill and was taken to Hospital where they determined My heart was bad and still is. it take 4 Surgeries and many meds to keep me going.

I hurt over many things yet as I told them in the hospital as long as I had one person to talk to I was safe. yet i still suffer over what I lost

Welcome to the thread. Losses always are hard, and it sounds like you had one thing after another land on you. Do you have that one safe person to talk to?

 

[Admiral Lowell]

Welcome to the thread. Losses always are hard, and it sounds like you had one thing after another land on you. Do you have that one safe person to talk to?

well one died , another got mad and abandoned me and those are hard to replace and even counselors I do not trust after I fired one as he gave me bad advice. I take what I have now and do the best yet I miss how they use to help. FYI I protested to a depression group the woman worked for and they felt bad and asked her to apologize and it didnt happen and they told me to go elsewhere. That didnt help. she should been fired

 

[fireproof78]

well one died , another got mad and abandoned me and those are hard to replace and even counselors I do not trust after I fired one as he gave me bad advice. I take what I have now and do the best yet I miss how they use to help. FYI I protested to a depression group the woman worked for and they felt bad and asked her to apologize and it didnt happen and they told me to go elsewhere. That didnt help. she should been fired

Sorry to hear that. Yeah, bad experiences with counselors can really erode that trust. Though, I would encourage you to try and seek another one because there is benefit to counseling. Or, possibly a peer support person, or group who deal with such things.

Counseling is such a double edge sword. On the one hand, counselors are not to "give advice" in the friend sense, but identifiy potential strategies that could aid in managing depression (or other mental health symptoms) in the short and long term. On the other hand, a lot of counselors end up giving out advice which may not work for everyone because well they end up in that role. It's a frustrating balance to strike.

I don't know the situation, but you can always file a complaint with your state licensing board.

 

[Admiral Lowell]

Sorry to hear that. Yeah, bad experiences with counselors can really erode that trust. Though, I would encourage you to try and seek another one because there is benefit to counseling. Or, possibly a peer support person, or group who deal with such things.

Counseling is such a double edge sword. On the one hand, counselors are not to "give advice" in the friend sense, but identifiy potential strategies that could aid in managing depression (or other mental health symptoms) in the short and long term. On the other hand, a lot of counselors end up giving out advice which may not work for everyone because well they end up in that role. It's a frustrating balance to strike.

I don't know the situation, but you can always file a complaint with your state licensing board.

Bad advice put me in the situation. One guy apologized and I rejected it. I give my life if the woman was fired yet she had too many friends in high places. I still bitter and angry and sick at told to move on. Its hard to forgive abandonment .

 

[fireproof78]

Bad advice put me in the situation. One guy apologized and I rejected it. I give my life if the woman was fired yet she had too many friends in high places. I still bitter and angry and sick at told to move on. Its hard to forgive abandonment .

A board reprimand becomes public information and will stick with her license for the rest of her practice. Depending on the license, she would be expected to abide by a code of ethics as well as any laws that govern the practice. So, a complaint to the board is a reasonable step.

 

[Bynar0110]

Bad panic attack while driving. Feel like my chest was squeezing me and almost passed out

 

[Admiral Lowell]

Bad panic attack while driving. Feel like my chest was squeezing me and almost passed out

That is why I can not drive though when mom passed away she left me a nice car. and I told my sister if anything happens to me her youngest son can have it

 

[JD]

I managed to get myself to call the stables I've been wanting to work at, and left a voice mail this time. I'm gonna wait two or three days to hear back, and if I don't I'll try somewhere else. We've ended up with a whole bunch of extra expenses over the last few weeks, so we've reached the point where I have to do something.

 

[Commander Troi]

Good for you!

 

[fireproof78]

Such a rough day and I can't even right now. It's not even 10:30.

 

[Commander Troi]

Such a rough day and I can't even right now. It's not even 10:30.

*hugs*