Mental Wellness Support Group

[RassDavadCaras]

Do what ever you want, after all this I I know this place is not worth it. I followed the rules, I was given needless advice when I broke no rules, you simply refuse to admit you are wrong. So go ahead and close my dammn account I do not care anymore. I came here looking or hope and friends, it is no better here, and I am not weak enough to be made to think I did something wrong, I over think my actions so I am always sure of what I did and did not do. But since you are a mod, you are right nad I am wrong, I that no matter that I just wanted my side seen, no one gave a damn, you talked down to me as if I was brekaing the rules, I broke no rule, I was then given advice and I corrected them on their misunderstanding, then everyone kept on like the misunderstanding was true, like I had done something wrong. Frankly if mods here are like you, please erase my account.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

Also you clearly stalked me, when i was saying nothing harmful, people were being comforting and you could not stand that my side was being heard, you had to make sure I was seen as some autistic problem maker who is too broken to understand. I broke no rules, you have, and you have shown you have no compassion. I do not care if you erase and ban me forever, you do not have respect for others, I did, I just wanted my side understood, everyone tried to make sure their side was the correct one, I just wanted mine to be valid as they bot where if it was a misunderstanding, but you just wanted to use your power.

 

[T'Bonz]

RassDavadCaras, I've sent you a message and hope that you read it. I run this BBS and I would like to talk to you about a few things, in hopes of finding a way for you to be comfortable here as well as following our rules, which I will be happy to explain to you so that you know what to do in future.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

Damned time difference! That discussion spiralled well out of control.

@Locutus of Bored
my appologies. It was I who inadvertendly started the TNZ discussion here by mentioning that there was a prob (which was only meant as an explanation to my fellow posters why RDC was considering to leave). As I never frequent TNZ I had not been aware of that rule. Consider your point taken, please. I shall definitely not do it again.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

I followed the rules until I was accused of breaking rules I had not broken, I overreacted to that, but that no one saw or sees an issue with accusing someone of something they have not done, of assuming that I am guilty of something nad basing your help on that, it shows that you were not out to help, as you did not take the time to understand anything about me to help me. IT was all assumed, no one read my posts, no one saw my video, no one saw what I was doing. I posted where I did because I was trying to be aware of some content not being appropriate in places. I would love to stay, but still, no one even acts like I was wrong outside of kind users. Mods treat me like I broke the rules and need to be set straight. My only crime was an overreaction, the same the mods committed when they tried to help without trying to understand.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

off the current topic but since this thread is about all sorts of mental problems:
I noticed that whenever I forget to take one of my diabetes pills (Metformin) I tend to get slightly depressive and am far more likely to experience an anxiety fit. I know that diabetes triggers both but could it really work that quickly?
I'm not sure whether it's just my imagination or an actual effect. Do I get these symptoms because they really are there or because I expect them to be there?
Does anyone have experience with that phenomenon? What could I do against it (other than not forgetting to take my meds, that is )

 

[Gryffindorian]

I've read somewhere that diabetes makes one moody. I'm like that sometimes, but I used to think it was just my personality.

I have been taking glipizide for a week now, so my blood sugar has been within the optimal range. The trouble is, I get hypoglycemic quickly, especially when I'm working out. Then I'll eat something really sweet to bring it back up. It can be a hard balancing act.

 

[RassDavadCaras]

There is nothing wrong with me, if you are only going to give advice thinking I brought this on myself, then you are dismissed. I was not being moody, I was bullied, stood up for myself and that is frowned upon here I guess, this place is a disgrace to Trek and Gene. Go ahead and ban me. This is not the place I thought it would be and have no need to be in a place with such cruel people.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

There is nothing wrong with me, if you are only going to give advice thinking I brought this on myself, then you are dismissed. I was not being moody, I was bullied, stood up for myself and that is frowned upon here I guess, this place is a disgrace to Trek and Gene. Go ahead and ban me. This is not the place I thought it would be and have no need to be in a place with such cruel people.

Okay, enough. I have been more than patient with you and you will not listen to anyone and continue to cause problems. Gryffindorian wasn't even talking to you or about you. I told you to stop. T'Bonz told you to stop in her PMs and profile posts and public posts to you. Your autism can only be used as an excuse to a limit, and it doesn't give you a free pass to cause problems indefinitely when no one is even talking to you any more.

You keep talking about how much this place sucks and how you don't need to be here, but you remain here anyway. You don't need to wait for someone to ban you. Nobody persecuted you, they went out of their way to help you and give you chance after chance and you did nothing but attack them in return.

You get a infraction for ignoring mod and admin instructions again, and I am reply banning you from this thread, which means you will no longer be able to post in it. It wouldn't be fair to the rest of the people who use this thread for support and a cathartic experience to have it shut down because of your continued misbehavior. It's unfortunate since you seemed to be getting along here at first, but you've left me no choice after your recent behavior.

You will still be able to post elsewhere after you get back from your one day temp ban for getting a second warning, but if you continue causing problems you are going to continue racking up infractions. I know it's hard given your condition, but you're either going to have to learn to deal with people here without overreacting or you need to leave. I wish that wasn't the case, and really tried to avoid it, but we can't have you continuing to refuse instructions and be a disruptive influence. The rules apply to everyone, even you.

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[rhubarbodendron]

I've read somewhere that diabetes makes one moody. I'm like that sometimes, but I used to think it was just my personality.

I have been taking glipizide for a week now, so my blood sugar has been within the optimal range. The trouble is, I get hypoglycemic quickly, especially when I'm working out. Then I'll eat something really sweet to bring it back up. It can be a hard balancing act.

urgh! That's really tricky. My dad takes glipizide, too, and keeps falling from hypo- to hyperclycemia since he eats way too much ciabatta instead of wholemeal products. Prob with him is that he's not consciousely aware of which carb works fast and which takes longer.

And yes, diabetics can seem a bit moody. As my doc explained it to me the sugar forms plaques in the narrower blood vessels, gradually blocking them, and this way particularly the very sensitive nerve tissue suffers from malnutrition. Including the brain, unfortunately.
That's why I am not certain if I only imagine the effect or if it's actually happening. How do you measure temperature with a faulty thermometer?

 

[RunningValkyrie]

A random thought: I recently started seeing a new therapist, which I like a lot this far. I have seen two therapists before this one. One of my previous therapists had similar issues as me and tried to make me do things that had helped her. Unfortunately it didn’t help me and she didn’t listen when I told her so. I have a hypothesis that it is possible that some therapists might go into the field to understand themselves and when they get a client that have similar issues they start projecting their own issues on them. Does anyone have similar experience?

 

[Sibyl]

A random thought: I recently started seeing a new therapist, which I like a lot this far. I have seen two therapists before this one. One of my previous therapists had similar issues as me and tried to make me do things that had helped her. Unfortunately it didn’t help me and she didn’t listen when I told her so. I have a hypothesis that it is possible that some therapists might go into the field to understand themselves and when they get a client that have similar issues they start projecting their own issues on them. Does anyone have similar experience?

I'm pretty certain that this is an all-too-common occurrence.

 

[RunningValkyrie]

^ I suspected as much. It’s understandable human behaviour but unfortunate.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

I know only one therapist but she's of the helpful sort that makes suggestions and if you find they don't work for you she'll suggest something else.
I hope you'll find someone that good

 

[1001001]

A random thought: I recently started seeing a new therapist, which I like a lot this far. I have seen two therapists before this one. One of my previous therapists had similar issues as me and tried to make me do things that had helped her. Unfortunately it didn’t help me and she didn’t listen when I told her so. I have a hypothesis that it is possible that some therapists might go into the field to understand themselves and when they get a client that have similar issues they start projecting their own issues on them. Does anyone have similar experience?

This is very common in substance abuse treatment, since so many counselors are themselves in recovery. They get locked into "how they did it", and if the client doesn't do the same thing, then either "they aren't ready for treatment" or "they're in denial".

More broadly, some counselors have a "philosophy" that is not based in science (often, but not always, 12-step based). It's a constant battle to implement and sustain evidence-based practices. Medication-assisted treatment is a prime example.

 

[RunningValkyrie]

^It’s like that saying “the blind leading the blind”.

I’ve seen my current one for three sessions and she seems adaptive if I tell her something doesn’t work for me. I have years of therapy behind me which helps in knowing what I want out of my counselling. I actually feel pretty good nowadays, it’s mostly behaviour patterns I deal with now. Things in the past that makes me react strongly to some situations.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

I think recommending remedies that helped oneself is in human nature. We rely a lot on personal experience and often erroneousely conclude that others are exactly like ourselves.
It's part of why I enjoy international boards so much: you learn about alternatives, about how things are being done elsewhere and about what worked with others. Not just with medical problems but with all sorts of difficulties life has to offer.

 

[1001001]

I think recommending remedies that helped oneself is in human nature. We rely a lot on personal experience and often erroneousely conclude that others are exactly like ourselves.
It's part of why I enjoy international boards so much: you learn about alternatives, about how things are being done elsewhere and about what worked with others. Not just with medical problems but with all sorts of difficulties life has to offer.

That’s fine for a peer.

Not for a professional health care provider.

We are trained, extensively, to keep our own stuff out of it.

 

[RunningValkyrie]

^ It’s almost free of charge to see a councelor through the public healthcare system in Sweden but it’s hard to get help if you’re not nearly suicidal, have a diagnosis you need to talk about or have a mental disorder. There are too many that need help.

Fortunately for me I’m privileged enough to be able to pay for private practitioners. I’m guessing that the private practitioners might be more prone to bring their own stuff into counselling since they might be less audited. At least I imagine that those working for the national healthcare system would have more rules to follow.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

I've read somewhere that diabetes makes one moody. I'm like that sometimes, but I used to think it was just my personality.

...You guys just helped me further understand my mother. Her mood could shift and she had what I'd say was a nasty temper. Of course, my Aspbergers status didn't help our interactions...