Mental Wellness Support Group

[Sibyl]

...You guys just helped me further understand my mother. Her mood could shift and she had what I'd say was a nasty temper. Of course, my Aspbergers status didn't help our interactions...

I blew my aunt away last year at my dad's final birthday party (he had a blast!) when I mentioned that I sometimes get a really bad temper when my glucose levels are out of whack. She connected the dots with her ex-husband, who also had diabetes and a frightening temper (mixed with evangelical beliefs).

 

[RunningValkyrie]

^ My mother had diabetes and had a nasty temper mixed with evangelical beliefs as well. That wasn’t a good combination.

 

[Amaris]

Yeah, I usually know the sugar's about to hit the fan when I start getting snappy.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

during the early state of Altzheimer and dementia there's also often a highly aggressive phase.
My mom is starting to get dementia and my dad is diabetic - for the last 2 years they've practically been on the brink of murdering each other. I frequently visit them to sort out misunderstandings and counsel both. I can't exactly say I'm looking forward to Christmas *sigh*

 

[TribbleFeeder]

during the early state of Altzheimer and dementia there's also often a highly aggressive phase.
My mom is starting to get dementia and my dad is diabetic - for the last 2 years they've practically been on the brink of murdering each other. I frequently visit them to sort out misunderstandings and counsel both. I can't exactly say I'm looking forward to Christmas *sigh*

I’m so sorry. It’s wonderful that you are there for them in their time of need. They are very lucky to have you in their life, as someone who truly cares and takes interest.

I saw my dad go through it with his parents, they both had dimentia. It can be incredibly difficult at times.

I hope things improve and your holidays go well all things considering. ::hugs::

 

[Peach Wookiee]

during the early state of Altzheimer and dementia there's also often a highly aggressive phase.
My mom is starting to get dementia and my dad is diabetic - for the last 2 years they've practically been on the brink of murdering each other. I frequently visit them to sort out misunderstandings and counsel both. I can't exactly say I'm looking forward to Christmas *sigh*

I’m so sorry. It’s wonderful that you are there for them in their time of need. They are very lucky to have you in their life, as someone who truly cares and takes interest.

I saw my dad go through it with his parents, they both had dimentia. It can be incredibly difficult at times.

I hope things improve and your holidays go well all things considering. ::hugs::

Dementia or something like it is brutal. (((HUGS)))

 

[rhubarbodendron]

thank you being on sick leave for the 5th (and hopefully final) week now, I'm at least well rested
As my great-grandma used to say: there's scarcely a detriment without a use (I have yet to find the use of income tax, though )

 

[Marynator]

My new therapist has diagnosed me with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, from years of domestic abuse. She says that's what's been causing my growing depression, which has been getting worse even as my life has been getting better. I'll be seeing her regularly, and she's having me start on Zoloft to help with my symptoms. I spoke with her for quite a bit this morning, and a lot of what she said to me really made a lot of sense, especially my nightmares and how I react to issues with men.

 

[Sibyl]

My personal experience with Zoloft: it essentially erased my emotions. While I didn't get the lows, I didn't get to feel any highs, either.

I'm sure people experience different meds in different ways.

I hope you're able to find the right medication/therapy to help you through this.

 

[Gryffindorian]

@Marynator, good luck to you on your treatment. Prozac has done wonders for me during the past 13 years. My last bout of anxiety/depression was two years ago, and that's when my doctor upped the dosage of my medication. I've also been practicing mindfulness since then.

@rhubarbodendron, so sorry to hear your parents' struggle with their illnesses. My dad has chronic anxiety for which he refuses treatment, and so he continues to worry and get tense most of the time. My mom has mild dementia, and her memory has been declining for a few years now. Sometimes we family members get frustrated with her because she tends to be very repetitive and inquisitive. What day is it? Why don't you eat dinner yet? What's today's date? When is my next appointment? Despite all this, I love her very much, and I try to be more sympathetic than judgmental.

 

[Sibyl]

I hate complaining. I really do, which is why, IRL, I tend to suffer rather than ask for help or reach out to people.

But at this moment, I'm seriously balancing on a razor's edge.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Complaining and whining can be toxic. I have some work buddies who do just those, but I just literally and figuratively nod and acknowledge what they have to say. Yeah, okay. I would rather not lecture my friends on the virtues of not being so negative. Besides, they do bring up valid points: so and so is a kiss-ass, she's a sycophant, she schmoozes with management, etc.

Complaining, for the sake of venting, can be quite cathartic and therapeutic, especially if done in moderation.

 

[RunningValkyrie]

I hate complaining. I really do, which is why, IRL, I tend to suffer rather than ask for help or reach out to people.

But at this moment, I'm seriously balancing on a razor's edge.

I have been where you are at the moment. I didn’t complain either and kept everything bottled up, which I think was extremely bad in retrospect. It’s important to be able to vent and this thread is the perfect place to do it.
The most important thing is to BELIEVE that it will get better. There is also something called loving kindness meditation that I used to learn how to be kind and forgiving towards myself.

 

[Sibyl]

I have been where you are at the moment. I didn’t complain either and kept everything bottled up, which I think was extremely bad in retrospect. It’s important to be able to vent and this thread is the perfect place to do it.
The most important thing is to BELIEVE that it will get better. There is also something called loving kindness meditation that I used to learn how to be kind and forgiving towards myself.

Thank you. I get it. I've been doing it too long in real life and today it came to a head.

This is not the place for me to discuss my true issues, unfortunately.

I did lose myself in Pink Floyd's The Wall tonight, hoping that it would give me a certain type of courage. It did not.

 

[Butters]

I hate complaining. I really do, which is why, IRL, I tend to suffer rather than ask for help or reach out to people.

But at this moment, I'm seriously balancing on a razor's edge.

This has been my problem too. I don’t like to complain and I hate confrontation.

Especially at work, where I’ve just been pushed and pushed, and when I’ve raised it or asked for help, they’ve just pushed some more. I should have stood my ground more before I got to the stage I couldn’t eat or sleep, but now I’m more mad that they pushed in the first place.

 

[RunningValkyrie]

I feel a lot of pressure to go to my home town 1500 km away for Christmas Eve. But what I really want to do is to stay home and rest. I think I’m gonna stay here.

This has been my problem too. I don’t like to complain and I hate confrontation.

Especially at work, where I’ve just been pushed and pushed, and when I’ve raised it or asked for help, they’ve just pushed some more. I should have stood my ground more before I got to the stage I couldn’t eat or sleep, but now I’m more mad that they pushed in the first place.

I think that the management should help you out but it seems, from your description of the problem, like they don’t take their responsibility! Unfortunately, too many companies don’t know how to deal with bullies in the work place.

 

[Sibyl]

For those that suffer from BPD, depression, ruminations and any number of anxiety issues, how do you explain to others that your requests for advice are sincere and that you're not just being dense?

The fact is, I don't know how to exist in this world, which is why, for the most part, I don't. I live in fantasy land and on the Internet (same thing?). I am incapable of holding a job and have not worked since sometime in 2002. I hate that. I want off of disability and to be able to get back to work and be a productive member of society, whatever that means.

It's just really frustrating when I reach out for help or advice on issues, big or small, and people end up pointing out the flaws in my logic. To me, it feels like their pointing out those flaws without offering suggestions on how to fix them.

How do you explain to people that you really do need help seeing the world as most others seem to see it?

They say that practice makes perfect or that you should try, try again. They also say that you should quit while you're ahead (or behind, as I seem to be).

I used to be a stand-out child that related to adults far more than I did with other children yet somewhere along the line I seem to have gone drastically backward.

I hear that there are therapists and/or psychiatrists that work with low-income people. That's all fine and good, but there is an aspect of my life that I do not wish to mention in Misc for which I would need more of a specialist, and I have not heard of those specialists working with low-income people.

All I know is that I seem to keep getting myself into trouble and have a hell of a time dealing with people, in general.

Certain things are starting to look up for me, and for that I am grateful. I'm trying to concentrate on those positives and any others I see. I'm just having a difficult time with other issues (mostly society).

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Sorry, I'm genuinely frustrated. I do constantly struggle with balancing coming across as narcissistic and just holding everything in so as not to be perceived as such. If I am, it's not my intent. I'm just trying to be honest and maybe, maybe let others know that they're not alone.

 

[Butters]

I think that the management should help you out but it seems, from your description of the problem, like they don’t take their responsibility! Unfortunately, too many companies don’t know how to deal with bullies in the work place.

It’s true, bullying in the work place is rife, but I do follow the rule about not attributing to malice what incompetence can do.

I did speak to Human Resources a while ago. They were really supportive, but it’s my own direct management that pretty much laughs in my face whenever I raised a concern. I’ve had high pressure jobs in the past, but I never hyperventilated over trivia, I’m taking a little break from work right now. I don’t want to go back.

 

[RunningValkyrie]

@Tinsel My roomie is a great listener, I’m happy to have her in my life. But when I talk to others some of them pats me on the head (figuratively) and give me a “Facebook meme” answer. I think that people doesn’t always know how to deal with people with other than average every day problems.

 

[Sibyl]

@Tinsel My roomie is a great listener, I’m happy to have her in my life. But when I talk to others some of them pats me on the head (figuratively) and give me a “Facebook meme” answer. I think that people doesn’t always know how to deal with people with other than average every day problems.

Thank you for providing a non-Facebook-meme response. It helps to know that others might have similar issues and that we're not along, even if we can't solve them for each other.