Man it sucks having female friends...

[Aldo]

All my really good female friends are the ones who are either married or have boyfriends. Why can only married women be really good friends of mine? Because if they weren't married I'd ruin the friendship by trying to hook up with them

All joking aside, I was talking to my best friend tonight and she mentioned she wanted a drink, and then I thought how it would be really cool to go out and have a drink with her. Then we quickly dismissed the idea because her boyfriend knows how she gets when she is intoxicated (spoiler warning: she cheats). So we had to put the kibosh on that idea.

This is ignoring the fact that I consider her such a great friend that I would never give in to any advances she made on me, nor do I really think she would try to put any moves on me (she's mentioned on several occasions I am not her type).

Oh yeah, did I also mention that all my really good female friends are dating insecure men?

 

[Kestra]

If my significant other cheated on me every time he was intoxicated, I'd be pretty insecure too. Or just angry.

 

[od0_ital]

If my significant other cheated on me every time she drank, she wouldn't be my significant other anymore.

 

[Aldo]

Well yeah, I wasn't excusing her behavior or anything, I almost decided to put in an aside that I wasn't sure why he was still with her.

For what it's worth though I think the cheating happened then they broke up for a while and got back together. Again, not defending what she did, just relating it the way I heard it.

 

[Kestra]

I was rereading the original post in order to contribute something of more substance, but it felt like you were just talking to yourself more than anything. I'm not sure I understand why it would suck to have female friends in this context.

 

[Aldo]

Perhaps I could add some more substance now:

I've known this girl for about a year now, I've grown very close with her on a platonic level. I tell her everything and she's helped me through some tough times in my life this last year. So the fact that the most I ever really see her is at work kind of sucks. Granted I know her life is full with her kids (yes, she is a parent, she's raising five kids, three are hers and two are his), so it's not like I expect us to hang out all the time, but in the oft chance I do get to hang out with her it's usually during the day before her kids get home or late at night after her kids are in bed.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

Work probably IS her social time Aldo.

 

[Aldo]

Then why do I get in trouble for trying to have a conversation with her

 

[Pingfah]

You'd have to ask her that.

Anyway, that is just how it goes. It's been the same with all my female friends, when they get a family life that takes priority and you see them less. 5 kids is a hell of a lot to handle, i'm not surprised you don't see her much.

 

[{ Emilia }]

You don't want female friends, you want a date.

 

[MacLeod]

Personally I find it easier to talk to my female friends, than I do my male ones. Well at least in certain areas. But I suspect I'm placed firmly in the friend zone.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

You don't want female friends, you want a date.

:: claps ::

 

[Jetfire]

You don't want female friends, you want a date.

:: claps ::

True story.

 

[Timby]

Perhaps I could add some more substance now:

I've known this girl for about a year now, I've grown very close with her on a platonic level. I tell her everything and she's helped me through some tough times in my life this last year. So the fact that the most I ever really see her is at work kind of sucks. Granted I know her life is full with her kids (yes, she is a parent, she's raising five kids, three are hers and two are his), so it's not like I expect us to hang out all the time, but in the oft chance I do get to hang out with her it's usually during the day before her kids get home or late at night after her kids are in bed.

You're still referring to grown women with kids of their own as "girls?" How old are you?

 

[lurok]

You don't want female friends, you want a date.

:: claps ::

True story.

QFT. Nothing wrong or sucky about female friends unless have unrequited crush on them...

 

[Jax]

All joking aside, I was talking to my best friend tonight and she mentioned she wanted a drink, and then I thought how it would be really cool to go out and have a drink with her. Then we quickly dismissed the idea because her boyfriend knows how she gets when she is intoxicated (spoiler warning: she cheats). So we had to put the kibosh on that idea.

Why dos going for a drink mean getting intoxicated, is she incapable of drinking socially ?

 

[Mr Silver]

Sounds like a big case of what they call 'Oneitis'. It sounds like you may have feelings for this woman and obviously, if you do its going to be pretty complicated. Despite the fact you've mentioned it being Platonic, it might just seem that way. As for jealous boyfriends, thats typical to life, theres a lot of assholes out there who have trust problems. But at the same time, you have some Women who do things, like cheat to warrant the jealousy and insecurities.

 

[RoJoHen]

Perhaps I could add some more substance now:

I've known this girl for about a year now, I've grown very close with her on a platonic level. I tell her everything and she's helped me through some tough times in my life this last year. So the fact that the most I ever really see her is at work kind of sucks. Granted I know her life is full with her kids (yes, she is a parent, she's raising five kids, three are hers and two are his), so it's not like I expect us to hang out all the time, but in the oft chance I do get to hang out with her it's usually during the day before her kids get home or late at night after her kids are in bed.

You're still referring to grown women with kids of their own as "girls?" How old are you?

Oh, that's just nitpicky. I refer to my 89-year old grandma as a "girl," too.

That said, I am friends with a lot of girls, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

 

[Owain Taggart]

Oh, I used to have a female friend who was so insecure she wouldn't even let me talk to other friends. It quickly became highly annoying. Needless to say, I wasn't friends with her very long.

 

[Amaris]

Perhaps I could add some more substance now:

I've known this girl for about a year now, I've grown very close with her on a platonic level. I tell her everything and she's helped me through some tough times in my life this last year. So the fact that the most I ever really see her is at work kind of sucks. Granted I know her life is full with her kids (yes, she is a parent, she's raising five kids, three are hers and two are his), so it's not like I expect us to hang out all the time, but in the oft chance I do get to hang out with her it's usually during the day before her kids get home or late at night after her kids are in bed.

You're still referring to grown women with kids of their own as "girls?" How old are you?

Oh, that's just nitpicky. I refer to my 89-year old grandma as a "girl," too.

That said, I am friends with a lot of girls, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Yep. I refer to a number of women as "girls". I've been referred to as a "boy", as in "all you boys are alike". I'm fine with it either way.