You know..and this is just an observation, but Chakotay is being voted the person who we all would marry the most and yet he's the most criticized in the Voyager forum for being a "plank of wood" or how most people call him.
Frankly I find it..ironic.
Being a "plank of wood" isn't all that bad in a partner, hell it's down right a compliment in one respect!
I'm gonna say, IMO, that maybe the women feel just a wee bit different about old Chuckles than the guys.
I see Chuckles as the guy I'd what to see across the breakfast table after 30 or 40 odd years. I can't say that I'd feel the same for Tom, Riker, Worf, Picard, etc. etc. - even though they are all fine men there is just something missing. Sure Riker and Tom are married but it took Riker YEARS to figure it out and Tom's still too new at it to see if he has staying power.
I certainly couldn't see Kirk sharing a life with someone, can't see him doing the HoneyDo thing at all. Hell I can't even see him sharing the bathroom mirror without setting phasers on stun so he can be first.
I feel the same way about Spock, although I'd give it my best shot at changing his mind. They are men who are more comfortable "out there", you aren't ever going to change them and I think in most of these guys cases their shipmates and the fleet would always be first.
They may think they want home and hearth but I don't think they'll ever be happen without the thrill of the unknown. Even though Spock woudn't admit to such an emotion.
I love Spock, always have always will, maybe something to do with that whole forbidden fruit thing, however I think he'd need to find a "girl just like the girl who married dear old dad" and most women just wouldn't fit the bill.
I got no problem being known as Mrs. Wood when I can wake up next to Mr. Wood, you'll know me by the smile on my face.
