Ladies How Do You Like To Be Treated?

[Jetfire]

I have always wondered why women in my past have either like to be treated as an equal or like sh*t. I have always treated my girlfriends like Goddesses, Queens...etc. and they appreciate it but seem to go back to guys who wronged them or treated them like a buddy.




JF

 

[thestrangequark]

An Equal, of course. I am not a Queen or a Goddess, and don't want to be treated like one. I don't want my lover to be my servant, I want him to be my friend and companion. And I expect him to feel the same way about me.

 

[Kestra]

The thought of being treated like a queen or goddess seems so artificial. Like the guy would be making me out to be something I'm not, and at some point that's got to come crashing down.

I'd want someone to see me for what I am, and appreciate, love, and respect me because of it.

 

[Trippy]

Yes an equal, but I won't vote because of the (...) disclaimer. I want to be loved, appreciated, and treated like an equal. I'm no goddess, and don't want to be put on a pedastal, nor do I want to worship any man either.

 

[Ashu]

I want to be treated with the respect i deserve and not the idolization that is too much. I refuse to be treated like shit, unless i did something to deserve it. Nothing more nor less than I would do for my significant other.

 

[Jetfire]

Maybe I should add, be treated like a Goddess, in spite of your flaws...

I know no one is perfect.


JF

 

[thestrangequark]

^That's the point, though. If we were goddesses we'd expect to be treated like goddesses. But we're real women, with flaws, and we don't want to be treated like something we're not. My lover should recognize my flaws and love me either despite, or because of them (or, more likely, both). If he puts me on a pedestal, and pours adoration on every aspect of my character, he is either deluded, dishonest (to himself and to me), or he doesn't know me that well.

 

[Jan]

Somewhere between the top two choices. Anybody who puts another on a pedestal or worships them is asking to be treated like a doormat, just used. I want a partner, a friend and a lover; somebody who I can appreciate and who'll appreciate me, who'll watch my back as I watch his.

Jan

 

[Jetfire]

^
I must be deluded.

I was told to drop the phrase "I'm looking for something special" out of my vocabulary.

JF

 

[Ashu]

^
I must be deluded.

I was told to drop the phrase "I'm looking for something special" out of my vocabulary.

JF

Theres nothing wrong with looking for someone special. So long as you understand that while your significant other should have some flaws to them. If anything, thats what makes it even more special in a way.

 

[Snow]

Damn right I want to be treated like a Goddess.

 

[RoJoHen]

Damn right I want to be treated like a Goddess.

Not gonna happen.

Now make me a sammich!

 

[Ashu]

Damn right I want to be treated like a Goddess.

Not gonna happen.

Now make me a sammich!

You sound like my boyfriend. Except, it's usually 'make me a sammich, woman!"

 

[Jetfire]

^

Horrible!


JF

 

[Ashu]

He's never serious though, the response is usually me telling him to make his own damned sammich

 

[RoJoHen]

He's never serious though, the response is usually me telling him to make his own damned sammich

That is the correct response.

 

[auntiehill]

Like an equal. Like a person. Like a partner. Imagine that.

If the women you're dating don't want that, then clearly you need to date more intelligent, more mature, women.

 

[WillsBabe]

Like an equal, but different. I can't reach the high shelf, so he reaches up for stuff for me. He's not very good at remembering family birthdays or figuring out what to get his mother for Mother's Day, so I do that. We both do shitty jobs around the house, carry out the rubbish, compliment each other when we look nice. It's a partnership thing. I don't want to be treated like a queen, I think that would feel patronising and disempowering.

 

[pookha]

i think to many of us have seen that at times the whole goddess thing isnt real and dosnt last.
not saying you are that way but to some men it is an act to get what they want.
at worst it is used by wolves in sheep clothing to get women to let down their guard and lull them into trust only to betray it with abuse.

but, yeah i would rather be treated as a loved equal instead of some object put away on a pedestal.

 

[Jetfire]

i think to many of us have seen that at times the whole goddess thing isnt real and dosnt last.
not saying you are that way but to some men it is an act to get what they want.
at worst it is used by wolves in sheep clothing to get women to let down their guard and lull them into trust only to betray it with abuse.

but, yeah i would rather be treated as a loved equal instead of some object put away on a pedestal.

I can understand this. I have been mistreated and would never do that to a woman I love, I think in someway girls like to be spoiled and treated as if everyday is special...other than fighting over the daily headaches of life that are a buzzkill.


JF