Joint Social Media Accounts

[Finn]

I don't get it either

I used to have a facebook friend, who I had known in middle and high school. It seems her partner used her account as well. At first, it seemed allright. They would start their posts with the letter of their first names in parentheses. After a couple of years, I started to suspect that her partner was passing off her posts as that of my old friend. There were periods where it seemed it was only the partner posting.

When I first added her on my facebook...a while ago, I noticed the old friend and I had a few mutual friends, along with a good number of folks we both know on her friends list which I didn't add on. After a while, we had no mutual friends. Then they moved away from New England and I was defriended. By then, I didn't really care though I did feel a bit bad about the old friend. I found it hard to believe the old friend would want to move to where they did. A while ago, I checked her out and scoped the friend list. Nobody I knew. Huge difference after about five years.

Not my problem. Yeah, I think it may imply some kind of trust or other relationship issues. However, it may mean the couple is part of the same tight-knit social/family circle. It happens.

 

[Shanndee]

I can only speak for my friends who use joint accounts, but for them it is because one of them (the guy in all 3 cases) has no interest at all in social media, but they do want their friends to have an idea of the things happening in their lives. Usually family stuff.

They don't want to bother posting pictures themselves, and they only log on sporadically at best, so why have an account? When they do log on they start their posts with, "Hi. John here..." and they get a tremendous response because it is a rarity.

And I think it actually indicates more trust. The husbands have full access to the entire posting history, and the wives don't care because there is nothing to hide. No big deal. To each their own.

 

[Finn]

That's true. But I'm not sure I'd count that as a joint account if only one of them pay attention. Some folks add on friends who actually know their spouses/partners. I'm fb friends with folks through my wife but I don't really know them that well outside of FB. Same goes for my wife with some folks I know.

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[tafkats]

With older people, I usually assume it's because one person (and, yes, it's almost always the husband) doesn't want to bother with an account, but the wife wants him to have some kind of presence, so she just creates an account for both of them. Ditto for couples with joint email addresses who were married long before email was a thing -- it's sort of like the household landline.

With younger people, I always wonder if it indicates a really unhealthy relationship. I once knew a guy in his twenties who used a joint email account with his girlfriend on his professional correspondence. Sorta weird.

 

[USS Triumphant]

I'm obviously not saying this is 100% of the cases, because those of you who have mentioned one half of the couple just not wanting much of a social media presence are right. But for most of the couples I've known with them...

Yeah, it's like that.

 

[jamestyler]

I don't understand them. I have no interest in what my wife talks about with her friends (in the nicest possible way) and I doubt she'd have much interest in the Trek club conversations I have. I'm sure after a day of having access to a joint mailbox would drive both of us mad.

 

[Jedi_Master]

I can only speak for my friends who use joint accounts, but for them it is because one of them (the guy in all 3 cases) has no interest at all in social media, but they do want their friends to have an idea of the things happening in their lives. Usually family stuff.

They don't want to bother posting pictures themselves, and they only log on sporadically at best, so why have an account? When they do log on they start their posts with, "Hi. John here..." and they get a tremendous response because it is a rarity.

And I think it actually indicates more trust. The husbands have full access to the entire posting history, and the wives don't care because there is nothing to hide. No big deal. To each their own.

Well said.

 

[Kor]

I don't really like the joint account thing, either. But whatever floats your boat. Different strokes, and all.

I do think it's laughable when people make accounts for their pets.

Sincerely,
The Kor family