You could think of this as close encounters of the long distance kind. 
Two months ago right around Christmas and New Year's I began corresponding with someone online. Actually I began corresponding with more than one someones online, but it was one in particular that has been preoccupying my attention. Nothing earth shattering in that...except this lady is in Russia.
Throughout this time I've kept eyes and ears peeled for anything that didn't gel, because a lonely man can easily get fooled by someone clever who knows how. Fortunately to this point no warning signs have arisen.
As I said I've been corresponding with three different ladies, who I must say are all very nice, and I've been walking a balancing act because they're also each quite interesting and appealing in each their distinctive ways.
But it is this one lady in particular who's captivated my imagination...and my feelings. If you had asked me several months ago if you could have feelings for someone online I'd have been inclined to be skeptical. But I've spoken to numerous people I know as well as some folks here and they've affirmed that they did indeed experience genuine feelings for the one they were communicating with even before the met them face-to-face. And now that I've experienced it myself I believe it.
Something telegraphs through the words in what they say and how they say it. The closest analogy I can think of is like reading a character in a novel. If the character is well written than the dialogue alone can give you a distinct sense of the personality. And that's what I've experienced.
This went on for about two months where we exchanged more than fifty letters each. I found myself so moved that I said what the hell and sent her a small bouquet of roses that actually arrived at her door on February 14th! And from what she said apparently the flowers were quite fresh and fragrant. Bonus! And she said she was very touched by my gesture.
This morning I finally took the next step...and made a fifteen minute phone call to her in Russia. Her English is quite basic yet even though we had to speak through an interpreter I'm quite sure I could hear a smile and genuine laughter in her voice even though I couldn't understand the words. I could really sense she sounded happy.
For me, I was flying on the freakin' moon! I wasn't nervous, but I was feeling quite emotional. I was happy yet I was also very moved by hearing her voice and knowing that she was now very real and not just a picture on the computer display. I think she heard I felt a little choked because I thought my heart would burst from my chest and I could hardly talk for a moment or two. Later when I got home a message was waiting for me that she was ecstatic about me calling and being able to hear my voice--that put me on the moon again!
At this point I look forward to speaking with her again. I intend to set up Skype on my computer and hopefully a decent translation program and webcam so we can chat and see each other in realtime without an interpreter.
If it continues as it seems to be then I definitely intend to go see her when I'm able.
I observed ruefully to a friend today that I never do it easy. Most everyone else seems to find a sweetie locally, but I have to find mine overseas...hopefully.
All I really know is that the past two months I've been happier than I can ever remember. Her name is Elena, and she's brought so much light and warmth into my once lonely heart that I can't recall if I've ever really felt it quite like this before.
My sweetie Elena with her Valentine's flowers.
Two months ago right around Christmas and New Year's I began corresponding with someone online. Actually I began corresponding with more than one someones online, but it was one in particular that has been preoccupying my attention. Nothing earth shattering in that...except this lady is in Russia.
Throughout this time I've kept eyes and ears peeled for anything that didn't gel, because a lonely man can easily get fooled by someone clever who knows how. Fortunately to this point no warning signs have arisen.
As I said I've been corresponding with three different ladies, who I must say are all very nice, and I've been walking a balancing act because they're also each quite interesting and appealing in each their distinctive ways.
But it is this one lady in particular who's captivated my imagination...and my feelings. If you had asked me several months ago if you could have feelings for someone online I'd have been inclined to be skeptical. But I've spoken to numerous people I know as well as some folks here and they've affirmed that they did indeed experience genuine feelings for the one they were communicating with even before the met them face-to-face. And now that I've experienced it myself I believe it.
Something telegraphs through the words in what they say and how they say it. The closest analogy I can think of is like reading a character in a novel. If the character is well written than the dialogue alone can give you a distinct sense of the personality. And that's what I've experienced.
This went on for about two months where we exchanged more than fifty letters each. I found myself so moved that I said what the hell and sent her a small bouquet of roses that actually arrived at her door on February 14th! And from what she said apparently the flowers were quite fresh and fragrant. Bonus! And she said she was very touched by my gesture.
This morning I finally took the next step...and made a fifteen minute phone call to her in Russia. Her English is quite basic yet even though we had to speak through an interpreter I'm quite sure I could hear a smile and genuine laughter in her voice even though I couldn't understand the words. I could really sense she sounded happy.
For me, I was flying on the freakin' moon! I wasn't nervous, but I was feeling quite emotional. I was happy yet I was also very moved by hearing her voice and knowing that she was now very real and not just a picture on the computer display. I think she heard I felt a little choked because I thought my heart would burst from my chest and I could hardly talk for a moment or two. Later when I got home a message was waiting for me that she was ecstatic about me calling and being able to hear my voice--that put me on the moon again!
At this point I look forward to speaking with her again. I intend to set up Skype on my computer and hopefully a decent translation program and webcam so we can chat and see each other in realtime without an interpreter.
If it continues as it seems to be then I definitely intend to go see her when I'm able.
I observed ruefully to a friend today that I never do it easy. Most everyone else seems to find a sweetie locally, but I have to find mine overseas...hopefully.
All I really know is that the past two months I've been happier than I can ever remember. Her name is Elena, and she's brought so much light and warmth into my once lonely heart that I can't recall if I've ever really felt it quite like this before.
My sweetie Elena with her Valentine's flowers.
because she never mentioned a daughter before. Some days later she admits she wanted to see my reaction because she was really referring to her pet dog which she often calls "her little girl" or "her daughter." Oh yeah, big laugh. How did I spell relief? 
