It was all a misunderstanding....

[Spot's Meow]

It was mixing business and pleasure that got you in trouble I suspect. She was probably nice to you at first because she saw you simply as a canvasser doing your job, she didn't think the encounter actually meant anything beyond that. The fact that you wanted to be her friend and came to her house outside of this professional capacity probably freaked her out because she had not seen your relationship in this way. Just like when you go to a restaurant and may make small talk with a waiter/waitress, but you don't mean anything more by it, it's just pleasantries in a professional relationship. You don't expect to see that person again and you may be a little weirded out if they showed up by your car in the parking lot wanting to be friends on Facebook.

You may have felt like you had a connection, but she just saw you as someone doing a job that she should be polite to. Knocking more than once and going to the back door just made matters worse.

 

[DrCorby]

Around 8:00 pm I dropped by her house. Her front door was locked but the lights were on.

Um, you checked her door to see if it was locked?! That's DEFINITELY inappropriate. And kinda creepy.

I notice the OP hasn't been back to this thread...

 

[ares93]

i'm telling you guys. this american fear of democrats is getting ridiculous...

I think it's more the American fear of some random guy who came to their door returning later, after business hours, and knocking because "the lights were on."

i was kidding. i'm quite sure its not that serious.

frankly i'd be a bit creeped out about that too..

 

[Tora Ziyal]

Samurai, when someone doesn't answer whatever is considered the main door, you don't try another (and you certainly don't test the doorknob!) unless you're their close friend or relative, their parole agent or a police officer.

As a single woman who lives alone, if someone I don't know knocked on my back door after dark, I would call the police, too.

 

[Shatnertage]

Around 8:00 pm I dropped by her house. Her front door was locked but the lights were on.

Um, you checked her door to see if it was locked?! That's DEFINITELY inappropriate. And kinda creepy.

I notice the OP hasn't been back to this thread...

I got a red flag from that, too.

If I heard someone knock at my front door, jiggle the handle, then go around and pound on my back door (stop smiling--I'm being completely serious. Sometimes a back door is just a back door), I'd probably call the cops.

[wrote this just as Tora was posting]

 

[Finn]

So i've been out canvassing for the democratic party since October 8th

On October 13th I was assigned the 33rd,34th,35th,36th streets. On 35th street I met this woman. Her name was Stefanie. She seemed nice but it turns out she was a Republican. I had to knock on the back door to talk to her.



On November 1st I was assigned the University neighborhood. I realized I was close to where Stefanie lived. I thought i'd stop by and say Hi. I was hoping she might accept a facebook friend request too.

Around 8:00 pm I dropped by her house. Her front door was locked but the lights were on. I knocked a few times then tried the back door like last time. When she answered the door she was annoyed "Please don't knock on my door" and told me she still wouldn't vote for the democratic party. I was stunned and couldn't say anything but "Never mind"

I left but wrote a short apology saying "I'm sorry for disturbing you but I was in the neighborhood and just wanted to say hi. I was hoping we could be friends on facebook"



12:15 am I receive a phone call from an officer. He said that Stefanie was a little shaken up by the encounter. The officer said she got my apology and accepted it.

I'm not allowed to contact her by phone or computer now

What did you expect?

I concur with all others.

 

[Owain Taggart]

I know of someone who's a fan of a band. Some would call her a stalker, because I'm pretty sure she is. She's so hardcore that she goes to nearly every show, don't know how she manages it, but she does, and wherever they travel, there she is. This person doesn't even have limits, apparently, as she knows where her favourite singer lives, and I'm not talking just the city, but street address and has been known to hang around his house, even though she knows he's married. Yeah, creepy. Can't even begin to imagine how the woman in the first post feels.

 

[Starbreaker]

That sounds incredibly creepy.

 

[Trekker4747]

Yeah, I can't tell you how many times I've knocked on a girl's back door and ended up with the police coming to my home with a restraining order.

 

[Tora Ziyal]

[wrote this just as Tora was posting]

Brilliant minds, etc., etc.

It's good to see so many males here telling the OP he was out of line.

 

[Shatnertage]

^ Yes, the whole thing was really out of line, by any interpretation.

Although when I saw the thread title, I thought it would be about someone waiting in the rain for hours.

 

[Finn]

^Way beyond that. A biker would call the cops on him.

 

[Brent]

I recommend going over there right now, and bring a musician playing an accordion, and throw rocks at her window.

 

[kes7]

I recommend going over there right now, and bring a musician playing an accordion, and throw rocks at her window.

Nah, boombox held over head. But only if he has Patrick Dempsey hair.

 

[-Brett-]

I was inclined to be sympathetic. I know people can be irrationally paranoid.

But jiggling the doorknob? Skulking around the property? Knocking on the back door? All at the house of someone you barely know and at night? I'm surprised that no one posted that infamous Picard/Riker facepalm meme yet.

 

[Samurai8472]

Thank you for the replies. I meant no harm at all. I realize I was extremely naive and didn't realize that I was probably doing something that I shouldn't have.

There was no malice behind the intentions at all but now I've learned some valuable lessons.

I thought "hey I'm back in the neighborhood why not drop by and say hi?"

The front screen door was locked I didn't know if she heard me(her dog seemed to) so I tried the back door like the first time.

I didn't expect the second time to be so jarring.


I thought a facebook friend request was a smaller step getting to know her instead of just jumping to asking her out.

 

[sojourner]

I think it's pretty disturbing you tried the back door the first time.

 

[RoJoHen]

I just think this is fucking weird. It doesn't sound like she gave you any indication that she was interested in you, other than "she was nice," so why would you assume it's okay to intrude on her home? You already did it once, and she sent you away. You really thought it would be a good idea to do it again?

Home is where you go to be safe and to get away from the outside world. You shouldn't have to worry about the outside world trying to get inside.

 

[Alidar Jarok]

I thought a facebook friend request was a smaller step getting to know her instead of just jumping to asking her out.

Well, I think the problem was you thought to ask her out. You met her once in a very distant, professional way (you were the equivalent of a door to door salesman). People are usually polite to these people (at best), but still distant. They don't ever expect to see them again and, certainly, don't expect them to ever show up in a less than professional capacity.

If you had run into her somewhere besides her house or had known her in some other capacity, this would be different. But her misunderstanding was more than reasonable, to be honest.

 

[sidious618]

Clearly she's just playing hard to get.

Edit: On second thought, this situation is so weird that I'm worried the OP might think I'm serious.