I truly think this is the heart of the matter. Rey does almost everything like either Luke or Anakin. Barely any explanation is given, Luke and Anakin do not appear more fussed than usual after using Force powers. All of this is accepted without blinking an eye.
Enter Rey. She comes from a much harsher background than either Luke or Anakin. She has to live by her instincts, fight to survive, and protect herself. She has no one looking out for her. She is a tried and true survivalist, and we are shown that within the first 5 minutes. Everything demonstrates she has the skills and the know how to be a great Force user because she can already trust her instincts, which Obi-Wan and Yoda had to beat Luke about the head to get him to learn.
Rey is only different because she is female.
It's not virtue signaling to have more inclusion and diversity. The original SW was not diverse. It was mostly white. One female. That's not diversity.
Because there is none.
She has a long history of combat experience.
Also, she looks like she is straining to me lifting the rocks...
All of this comes down to perception. Or, as the liar Obi-Wan would put it, "Our own point of view."