I think I want to be a psychologist because I already feel like some sort of emergency psych line.
Is it really hard to text someone back?
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I think I want to be a psychologist because I already feel like some sort of emergency psych line.
If it weren't for the sex, I'd have left for my home planet ages ago.
Tangentially related, people who want to have text conversations about complicated things (like, say, a pending case) are a little annoying. It takes about ten times as much time and effort as if they just fucking called me.
See I actually like text messages over calls in some ways because you can refer back to them if you need info, and you have some space in terms of when to reply back.
I certainly prefer them to phone calls, I just hate it when people get impatient for a response. I'm busy, dammit!
A valid viewpoint, although I usually keep track of things in my head; which has led some to believe I'm disorganized.
If something's important enough to require an immediate response, perhaps one should go the extra yard and actually do a phonecall rather than texting.
There's really no difference in the annoyance factor between sending a text and calling, as both will trigger the other person's phone. If they don't want to pick up or respond, they won't.
As for how to interpret a non-response...perhaps their phone is in the other room? IMO texts tend to be the lowest-priority form of communication out there; if something is important, put a bit more effort into it.
There's really no difference in the annoyance factor between sending a text and calling, as both will trigger the other person's phone. If they don't want to pick up or respond, they won't.
As for how to interpret a non-response...perhaps their phone is in the other room? IMO texts tend to be the lowest-priority form of communication out there; if something is important, put a bit more effort into it.
There are times I curse Bell for inventing the telephone.
Especially when I get calls from political campaigners/organizations that are conveniently exempt from the "do not call list" phone solicitation regulations.
For most non emergencies I would much prefer e-mail or an instant messenger (with voice chat functions). That has the advantage of the recipient not needing to interupt other activities to respond to an unexpected message. Unfortunately some people I want to be in some way available to have either abandoned their e-mail accounts (when spammed to the point of uselessness or got paranoid about security issues) or don't use computers at all.
Especially when I get calls from political campaigners/organizations that are conveniently exempt from the "do not call list" phone solicitation regulations.
For most non emergencies I would much prefer e-mail or an instant messenger (with voice chat functions). That has the advantage of the recipient not needing to interupt other activities to respond to an unexpected message. Unfortunately some people I want to be in some way available to have either abandoned their e-mail accounts (when spammed to the point of uselessness or got paranoid about security issues) or don't use computers at all.
If I was busy posting on FB from my cell I might ignore texts for the time-being and possibly forget all about them for the time-being...or even accidentally delete them or such.
Really, these days people are way too willing to assume that messages have been received/read. In the world of email/texts/FB posts, the only message you can assume has been read is one that's been acknowledged....and even then...
I would ask the person who was texted, "Hey, did you get my message? If so...er...why didn't you reply?" Why make assumptions?
Yeah, I do my best not to text people for whom it isn't free. I usually ask before I start texting 'em.
I'm the same way, but it just so happens all the people I text with regularly do have free texting. This isn't me assuming, this is knowledge I have because I ask before I start texting people.
And since I did bring up a specific person in my OP, I will use this person as an example. She's told me numerous times she hates talking on the phone; she prefers texting. I know people can be busy, so I don't expect texts right away, but when I text a person a specific question (two or three days ago) you'd think they'd be able to respond eventually.
Right, and something just occured to me. Texts may be late. I sometimes get an text from my fiancee hours after she sent it.... imagine how annoyed she was with meme when she meets up with me asking why the hell I hadn't responded to it...
I had to train my son to text back an acknowledgment. It just didn't occur to him that when I text him (from a meeting or court or someplace I can't talk on the phone): "Tell the babysitter I'm running a bit late and she can leave at 6," he has to text back "ok" so I know he got the message. I don't want a whole conversation, I just want to stop stressing about that one thing.
Most stalkers have the same attitude you have. Perhaps you are demanding too much of others. I do not have text capability on my phone by choice. Who are you to demand that they must stop whatever they are doing and reply immediately to you?! They also have voice mail, do you demand everyone pick up the phone immediately or do you leave a message?
My time is mine to do with as I please. NO ONE tells me when to answer the phone or respond to messages. If they do, I find new acquaintances. I value my private time.
Hell, sometimes I get texts several DAYS after they were originally sent. Technology doesn't always work the way it's supposed to.
I'm a complete hard ass on this topic. I have enough interruptions in my life from people in my actual living space to put up with interruptions and demands about what is 99% just socializing outside of that. A friend of mine even said the other day "oh I know you don't do email.." which is HILARIOUS considering how I pretty much exist online. But I don't do email with her because I know it will be emails, phone calls about whether I got the emails, emails asking if I got the emails.. some huge REPLY NOW pressure.
I don't understand this at all.
Text messages are by their very nature a delayed communication medium. If you need an urgent response, texting seems a poor way to guarantee this outcome.
I don't consider texts or emails high priority communication methods. I actually like them a lot for this. They're "fire and forget" communications that can be answered whenever you like, at your discretion. If I needed an answer to a query right now, I'd call, not text or email. Mind you, I tend to actively minimise demands on my time by call screening or bouncing calls to voicemail if I just don't fancy having a conversation right now. I'm very controlling over my time/access.
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