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@Bluewhale, can you use your talent at bringing things (like this thread) back from the dead, and apply it to the Mets hitting? Because they need it more than this thread does.
Well, I do have a habit of doing so, mostly inadvertently. I seems, as a newcomer I go to the beginning of the threads rather than starting at the new threads. Now, being Australian, I'm not really up to date with your beloved team, and with my record the season will be over by now... But I'll shake out my loincloth, pick up my didgeridoo and do a little dance around the communal hearth. I know a very effective dance for a Bilby or Tawny Frogmouth spear hunting expedition that I may be able to adapt. If it doesn't work please let me know and I'll get a few of the elders together to at least find out what the Aboriginal name for Met is.
 
Thank you, Mr Laser Beam for your little vignette back to the 60s. I really enjoyed it and can see it would be exciting to feel the atmosphere in a sell out crowd. Baseball isn't a sport that's ever taken off here, although I did play for my school on many frosty mornings. I know it's widely played in Newcastle though - think it was brought back through the air-force base. Perhaps it has spread further than I know... Is it a summer or winter sport?

It's the beginning of the day here and I'm about to throw myself into preparation for my Met dance, which I will perform before my audience of myself on Saturday morning (my time). So please let me know,before I strip off and rub charcoal and red ocre onto my body, if they are NOT playing this week.

For the record, I am an Australian aborigine so I can afford to poke fun at myself. Over here we call ourselves 'blackfellas' but that possibly wouldn't be acceptable over there?
 
It's kind of a steady weight in the past couple of years or so. My BMI is 26 or 27 for a guy my age and height, which is just over the ideal 25 and below range (even when I had a gym membership). It could be my metabolism slowing down as I hit my 30s; it could be the medication I've been taking. I still keep pretty active and do cardio exercise five to six days a week.
People dont realize that our bodies change as we get older and for many it is genetically impossible to stay skinny. Ive went through the same type of weight gain as you have even though I watch what I eat, don't smoke, drink little and excercise regularly. People are just ignorant.
 
I know, at 31 my weight gain with age has brought me up to nearly the average weight for a male my age.
 
Clueless.

For the most part humans are too self centred to realize they are being insulting. Humans also have a lovely habit of taking offense when none is given.

To simplify: Never attribute to malice what you can attribute to stupidity.
 
I partner and I have a friend and we love her dearly. Her back gives her agony as she is morbidly obese. She is in her 40s, single, never had a relationship, and suffers from bipolar disorder. She's so happy, seemingly at work, beautiful, but has a problem. Does she need either of us to tell her that? She's not in denial and it seems that people want her to suffer their advice as if she doesn't know her problem. I see her angst when she goes out - the well meant advice, the judgemental looks from stranger. She is the most emotionally intelligent person I know and I hate seeing her lose her confidence by a thousand disapproving pin-pricks. She knows I'm there to help her or coach her should she need support whenever she's ready. Or not.
 
Do you think people say insulting things to their friends on purpose, or are they just clueless?
I think they are perhaps just clumsy in the way they express themselves. I mean, they might try to put things a bit more diplomatically and less insulting.
On the other hand, who qualifies for telling us unpleasant truths if not our friends?
If a stranger remarked on my weight I'd propably be pissed. But If a friend does it, I know that he is genuinely interested in me and my wellbeing.


btw, I see nothing bad in resurrecting old topics as long as they are interesting and spark a lively discussion. And weight, like weather, is a topic that's kinda perpetually modern.
 
Clueless.

For the most part humans are too self centred to realize they are being insulting. Humans also have a lovely habit of taking offense when none is given.

To simplify: Never attribute to malice what you can attribute to stupidity.
I think that's so true, especially in the case of social media. There are so many ways to interpret something in writing - less so in old fashioned letters as the rest of the letter hopefully set the tone. I remember a disatisfied ex- employer who was asked by his previous, rather lazy, worker to give him a reference. He thought long and hard before he wrote, "You will be lucky if you can get him to work for you". Obviously it could be interpreted in two very different ways.
Pretty much the same could be said in Facebook or similar communication sites. I depends how your mood is, whether someone beside you is stirring the pot and when you last communicated. It's in the eye of the beholder as they interpret something as offensive or otherwise, whatever the intention. Even writing how fortunate you are with your family and life can be taken as smugly meant. It's certainly a good reason never to send anything off in anger as once it's in writing it's very hard to retract...
 
I think that's so true, especially in the case of social media. There are so many ways to interpret something in writing - less so in old fashioned letters as the rest of the letter hopefully set the tone. I remember a disatisfied ex- employer who was asked by his previous, rather lazy, worker to give him a reference. He thought long and hard before he wrote, "You will be lucky if you can get him to work for you". Obviously it could be interpreted in two very different ways.
Pretty much the same could be said in Facebook or similar communication sites. I depends how your mood is, whether someone beside you is stirring the pot and when you last communicated. It's in the eye of the beholder as they interpret something as offensive or otherwise, whatever the intention. Even writing how fortunate you are with your family and life can be taken as smugly meant. It's certainly a good reason never to send anything off in anger as once it's in writing it's very hard to retract...

the solution is rather simple: fonts.

Sadly most software is unable to display that most noble of fonts: Sarcastica

http://www.dafont.com/sarcastica.font
 
Oh look, dead thread necromancy. :wtf:

Holy Zombie Apocalypse Thread, Batman. My weight has actually fluctuated during that 8-year-period. Now my only concern is keeping my abs flat!

Having gone through a somewhat chubby phase myself, I can personally attest that being in shape feels much better, and makes for better test results from the doctor's periodic check-ups, and also looks better.

Kor
 
I think they are perhaps just clumsy in the way they express themselves. I mean, they might try to put things a bit more diplomatically and less insulting.
On the other hand, who qualifies for telling us unpleasant truths if not our friends?
If a stranger remarked on my weight I'd propably be pissed. But If a friend does it, I know that he is genuinely interested in me and my wellbeing.


btw, I see nothing bad in resurrecting old topics as long as they are interesting and spark a lively discussion. And weight, like weather, is a topic that's kinda perpetually modern.

Thanks. Weight is, unfortunately as relevant today as it ever was. Yes, there are always two or more sides to any discussion, of course. I'd pretty much take anything from my friends and family, delivered out of concern. I remember when I put on about ten kilos, it was impacting on my health. Because I could still get into the same clothes I thought I disguised it pretty well. That is until I saw a photo of myself. I looked so big in the photo and that gave me a healthy dose of realism. That's what it took to make me lose weight I just cut back on junk food, fat and sugar.... And exercise. It's a bit like smoking really - you have to stop when the time works for you.
 
At the risk of rabbiting on, I have found the attached quote from the
Arthritis Foundation. It's rather negative, but to spin it into a positive, every pound you lose in weight takes 4 pounds of pressure off your knee joints and ankles. Obviously for metric users this means that only losing 3 kilos takes 12 kilos of pressure off these joints. Now that's encouraging, I think!
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Following quote found online at:
http://www.arthritis.org/living-with-arthritis/comorbidities/obesity-arthritis/fat-and-arthritis.php

“Weight plays an important role in joint stress, so when people are very overweight, it puts stress on their joints, especially their weight-bearing joints, like the knees and the hips,” says Eric Matteson, MD, chair of the rheumatology division at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn.

Every pound of excess weight exerts about 4 pounds of extra pressure on the knees. So a person who is 10 pounds overweight has 40 pounds of extra pressure on his knees; if a person is 100 pounds overweight, that is 400 pounds of extra pressure on his knees. “So if you think about all the steps you take in a day, you can see why it would lead to premature damage in weight-bearing joints,” says Dr. Matteson.
 
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