Wait 3-5 days and try contacting her again, she might be in a better mood then. 
I'm an ass and I don't know how to recover from this.
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Her excuse sounds a bit fishy, but, regardless, if she cared as much as you did, she would have found a way to not have this happen. I probably wouldn't have waited two days to find out what happened, but it's also odd she never got back to your texts at all.
That's fucking disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself.
Edit: For those who don't know what a mushroom bruise is- http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=mushroom+bruise
It's in line with his posting record here, that's why I didn't bother looking it up.
Pretty much. Given the stories he's told, ed is the last one who should give advices about women, relationships, and good sense.
So, you had a date fixed to go out with this girl. She slept through the date and so didn't show. She only gave you an explanation of why she didn't show after you'd texted her a couple of days later. This doesn't seem like you being in the wrong, it seems to me that she was in the wrong. I think she should have contacted you after she woke up and realised she'd missed the date. She shouldn't have waited 2 days to do it, either. I think your friend is right. It doesn't seem to me like you acted like a dick at all.
I figured it was something vaguely sexual, but I didn't think it was that bad. Jeezus.
Stay classy, ed.
I'm not sure whether you can fix the damage or not. But, the real question, for your own long term good, is to figure out why you behaved that way in the first place? Try to recognized when you're behaving that way and put a stop to it before any damage is done. That way you're not cleaning up the mess afterwards.
I know that's easier said than done but the first step is to recognize your mind set when you're acting that way. At least recognize when you're in the act of being a dick. Then you can try to decide to change it.
It is good that you apologized. So, you at least recognized the situation at some point. Sounds like a start!
Mr Awe
I predict a bright future for this relationship.
If she had committed to be there, then didn't show up and didn't tell you she wouldn't make it, and didn't even offer an explanation until you asked her, either she's just as childish as you are, or she doesn't really care about you in the first place.
If you want to salvage anything here, you both need to talk and agree to communicate better, otherwise you might as well give it up now.
Or, maybe she just was tired from her shift and slept through his texts as Aldo said?
But, you're right, better communication all around would prevent this. In the end, it's a trivial thing.
Mr Awe
And then never responded to them for the next two days until he texted her again? And then tried to blame him?
I predict a bright future for this relationship.
If she had committed to be there, then didn't show up and didn't tell you she wouldn't make it, and didn't even offer an explanation until you asked her, either she's just as childish as you are, or she doesn't really care about you in the first place.
If you want to salvage anything here, you both need to talk and agree to communicate better, otherwise you might as well give it up now.
Or, maybe she just was tired from her shift and slept through his texts as Aldo said?
But, you're right, better communication all around would prevent this. In the end, it's a trivial thing.
Mr Awe
As soon as she woke up and realized she'd slept through their date (or whatever we're calling it), if she gave even the tiniest little fuck, she'd have texted/called him back. She didn't. I mean, that's just the most basic courtesy. "I'm sorry I accidentally slept through the whole thing."
Is it normal for people to have absolutely no manners or what?
It probably wasn't such a big deal to her as it was to him. Just a gathering of people. We're not even sure if she knew the others? In her mind, she might've been skipping out on a group event where she sort of knew one guy (Aldo) and not the rest. Sure, she could've acted better too. But, Aldo can't control that. He seemed dissappointed with how he behaved, which was a bit childish. He can control and fix that though.
But, in the end, it was just a missed bowling date and she had a good reason. So, it's a fairly trivial thing. No one should be getting bent out of shape over it and assigning blame is too much for something so small. There is a lesson to be learned though and Aldo seems to want to learn it. Maybe? That's always a good thing. And, there are lessons for her too but, as far as I know, she's not posting here!
Mr Awe
She should have contacted you as soon as she realized she had slept through the engagement. You shouldn't have ignored her. It's okay to say that you're crushing on somebody. Did I miss anything?
DAMN! Why are there even any posts after this one? What? 'Cause he didn't put a big purple toothy bow on it?
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