I wish I had a friend. 
I Wish I Had A Friend
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I don't have a real friend. 
I don't have a real friend.
I think that many people here have struggled with social issues of some sort. If you wanted advice on how to meet people with similar interests, or develop lasting friendships, I'm sure people would be able to offer some advice.
My situation limits me from establishing relationships with people. 
@Ashu I appreciate your concern & you Kestra.
@Ashu I appreciate your concern & you Kestra.
Hopeless poverty.
ETA: I have a laptop and internet access I am part of the 1 Percent.
If you want the truth I have jeans, 2 shirts and a pair of underwear/socks + shoes I have had for a few years. The house I live in doesn't have full electricity and no hot water unless it is heated on a stove.
I am sorry but my spirit has been broken for a while now.
-I want out of my life.
ETA: I have a laptop and internet access I am part of the 1 Percent.
If you want the truth I have jeans, 2 shirts and a pair of underwear/socks + shoes I have had for a few years. The house I live in doesn't have full electricity and no hot water unless it is heated on a stove.
I am sorry but my spirit has been broken for a while now.
-I want out of my life.
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I'm really sorry to see this, TayLaLaLa. You seem a sweet person... and I admit I get concerned for people who seem to have no social outlets apart from the Internet. Cyberspace can be a wonderful supplement, but it can't substitute for human contact, and if you're in a situation with no other outlets, the partial and artificial nature of digital "connection" can make loneliness actually worse.
In all honesty, the advice I would most like to give people in this situation is to unplug. If you're spending money on the Internet that you could be spending on joining a choir, or taking a pottery class, or some other activity that involves meeting real people, that could be a worthwhile trade-off however hard it might seem to do in the short term.
But only you can be the best judge of what's for best for you. Like others here, I'm willing to offer a listening ear at the very least.
In all honesty, the advice I would most like to give people in this situation is to unplug. If you're spending money on the Internet that you could be spending on joining a choir, or taking a pottery class, or some other activity that involves meeting real people, that could be a worthwhile trade-off however hard it might seem to do in the short term.
But only you can be the best judge of what's for best for you. Like others here, I'm willing to offer a listening ear at the very least.
I don't spend money on anything because my family pays for stuff except food. I have my laptop because my father got it for me. I just want away from them. I want my own life but from my point of view it seems impossible. I feel like I need a miracle.
ETA: I had friends but when I lost my job I lost them. Ugh. They weren't really friends.
ETA: I had friends but when I lost my job I lost them. Ugh. They weren't really friends.
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When you're down, and troubled, and you need a helping hand, and nothing, oh nothing is going right. Close your eyes and think of me and soon I will be there to brighten up even your darkest nights.
You just call out my name, and you know whereever I am, I'll come running to see you again. Winter, spring, summer, or fall, all you have to do is call and I'll be there, yeah, yeah, you've got a friend.
[hug]
You just call out my name, and you know whereever I am, I'll come running to see you again. Winter, spring, summer, or fall, all you have to do is call and I'll be there, yeah, yeah, you've got a friend.
[hug]
This may or may not be helpful, but I've found that the one trite saying that always seems to hold true is "This too shall pass."
No matter how bad things get (and in my life, I've been pretty low a couple times) just wait it out and things will get better.
The other thing I've found is that there's only so much you can get done while worrying about how bad things are. Trying to find a solution, or if not that, at least trying to move forward, will inevitably get results.
I worry when people say "I want out of my life." If you mean you don't like your situation and want a new one, okay. You can make that happen. If on the other hand you mean you want out of life in general (some kinda suicide fantasy).... well, I hope that's not what you mean. That's a much too permanent solution to a set of temporary problems.
I wish you the best. If it could help, feel free to PM me. Real friends can be scarce, and I don't recommend you lean on the Internet for it, but it can be good stop-gap. Do what you gotta do.
--Alex
No matter how bad things get (and in my life, I've been pretty low a couple times) just wait it out and things will get better.
The other thing I've found is that there's only so much you can get done while worrying about how bad things are. Trying to find a solution, or if not that, at least trying to move forward, will inevitably get results.
I worry when people say "I want out of my life." If you mean you don't like your situation and want a new one, okay. You can make that happen. If on the other hand you mean you want out of life in general (some kinda suicide fantasy).... well, I hope that's not what you mean. That's a much too permanent solution to a set of temporary problems.
I wish you the best. If it could help, feel free to PM me. Real friends can be scarce, and I don't recommend you lean on the Internet for it, but it can be good stop-gap. Do what you gotta do.
--Alex
Loneliness is terrible. As is losing your job. It makes people feel powerless. Noone can make you feel powerfull, only you can. It's important to remember that you can do thing, you can keep a job, you do have talents and you can have your own life. It's also importnat to find friends who have the same interests as you. Simply having friends from uni, work, school isn't always enough because you might not have anything in common with these people. Findig people is difficult, but is most easily done by finding out who you are and what you like to do.
Remeber that you're useful, awesome and worthy of friendship. And don't wait for old friends to contact you, some times it's better to contact people. Reach out. Don't shut yourself in.
If you spend too much time listening to yourself, everything seems impossible.
Remeber that you're useful, awesome and worthy of friendship. And don't wait for old friends to contact you, some times it's better to contact people. Reach out. Don't shut yourself in.
If you spend too much time listening to yourself, everything seems impossible.
Well, this might sound a bit weird, but...
Friends can be hard. Hard to find, hard to sync with, hard to stay on the right side of, and so on. At any given time, I usually only have one close friend and a couple of 'associates', and right now not even a close friend. I'm fine with that, but that's me. My life has complications. But enough of that.
If you can't find real friends, get some virtual friends for the interim.
Anyone here would be pleased to correspond with you, because, to be honest, most of us have been there, when the nights are a little too cold and quiet, and the days sere and empty.
I've been out of work, sometimes for long stretches. And raising a family on that, even in a country with safety nets, can be very tough. You just have to keep spending down and focus on necessities. It makes life incredibly dull, and puts it in a holding pattern, but sometimes it's what you've gotta do.
Drop any of us a line. Drop ALL of us a line. We have things we can share, or laugh at, or virtual hug over.
I'm guessing you're not so old, early twenties? It's such a cliche, but cliches are true for a reason: hang in there, it does get better.
Friends can be hard. Hard to find, hard to sync with, hard to stay on the right side of, and so on. At any given time, I usually only have one close friend and a couple of 'associates', and right now not even a close friend. I'm fine with that, but that's me. My life has complications. But enough of that.
If you can't find real friends, get some virtual friends for the interim.
Anyone here would be pleased to correspond with you, because, to be honest, most of us have been there, when the nights are a little too cold and quiet, and the days sere and empty.I've been out of work, sometimes for long stretches. And raising a family on that, even in a country with safety nets, can be very tough. You just have to keep spending down and focus on necessities. It makes life incredibly dull, and puts it in a holding pattern, but sometimes it's what you've gotta do.
Drop any of us a line. Drop ALL of us a line. We have things we can share, or laugh at, or virtual hug over.
I'm guessing you're not so old, early twenties? It's such a cliche, but cliches are true for a reason: hang in there, it does get better.
^ Mid 30's which makes this more tragic.
I appreciate all the kind words/thoughts.
I appreciate all the kind words/thoughts.
I've lived alone pretty much for the last 36 years following a divorce in my late 20s. I moved a lot, and never developed any long lasting friendships or relationships during those productive years. Most of my friends were work associates, and a little over ten years ago, health problems caused me stop working entirely. Loneliness was never much of an issue for me, but I can understand where you're coming from. A lot of it has to do with whether you're at peace with yourself. There's a difference between being alone, and being lonely.
^ I'm sorry. I just want to be happy.
Happy isn't a place you go, it's a place that you make. Make happiness and you'll know. Smile, it's a state of mind!
Smile, it's a state of mind!
TaLalaLa...it is funny, sometimes, what our minds can conjure...I left everything and everyone to come teach in this place on the other side of the world...I HAD to come here or I would have lost what little was left of me...we all have our stories...our reasons...our pasts...wallowing is good...for a day or two, at most...you have wallowed...you know what you need to do and though I do not know you from Luaxana, I am betting you have some idea and resource for how to do it...you do have friends...follow the precepts of this thing we are all here for...Reach Out...not for the stars, this time, but to us...I know you have friends here...take one of their hands and let them help you take the first step...it is easier than you think...Qapla'!
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