I Want to Get Married
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Both pairs of my glasses are rimless -- one w/ black frames, one w/ purple. I love them. But don't worry, I'm not recommending purple for you, BA. 
I'm following this with fascination. Can we do the same thing for a woman looking to get married next? 
Anywho . . . one thing I wanted to address . . .
Any woman interested in getting married (versus a hookup) should not be looking for Fabio (ew) or . . . whoever's fashionable now. She should be looking for Single, Solvent, Straight, Sober (as in not a drunk) and Sane. Those women are probably not looking in bars. If they're like me, they work a lot and stay in at night and poke around on the internet, so they need to be approached while they're out running errands. Hit on the lady with the Lean Cuisines in her cart.
Anywho . . . one thing I wanted to address . . .
Any woman interested in getting married (versus a hookup) should not be looking for Fabio (ew) or . . . whoever's fashionable now. She should be looking for Single, Solvent, Straight, Sober (as in not a drunk) and Sane. Those women are probably not looking in bars. If they're like me, they work a lot and stay in at night and poke around on the internet, so they need to be approached while they're out running errands. Hit on the lady with the Lean Cuisines in her cart.
While it doesn't look dirty or ragged, it's also definitively not attractive. In fact, I'm afraid I would say it's rather sad, and sensationally bland. Like you made a run through a sporting goods store with the lights off and went out wearing what got caught on you. I can see dressing like that at home, or when having a jog in the park or work, but little else. Remember, if it doesn't have a collar, it's not suitable to wear at work or on a date.
Also, your room looks like the place where you put the stuffed animals from your old Aunt's inheritance...
You mean, when meeting actual, living human beings?
There is no way that would work out.Hit on the lady with the Lean Cuisines in her cart.
Guy "So getting Lean Cuisine huh. Are they tastey?"
Girl "What, are you calling me fat? You think I have to eat this or what!"
As for glasses, this is what I wear now (different brand, same style). You can't go wrong with geek chic, but be sure they look good with your facial features.
Yes! I have ones somewhat like this and they're the first pair I haven't completely hated on myself.
I don't know about that. When mr. teacake told me that he only wore t-shirts ever I found that very attractive.
I decided once that if I was a man I would only dress in hawaiian shirts and jeans. I would have a fabulous collection of hawaiian shirts, both vintage and modern, and several old faithful pairs of levis.
To me wearing only baseball themed clothes (if that is what mr. laser beam has chosen) is appealingly eccentric. He chose that stuff because of his interests. This is not the same thing as dressing in the cheapest utilitarian stuff you can find in Walmart.
However jeans are much more appealing (well, appealing in the first place) than sweat pants. As Jerry told George Costanza sweat pants are how you tell the world you have given up.
My glasses look a bit like the first frames iguana posted, but they're metal and the frames are thinner. They look nice.
Really depends on the person. By themselves in the picture they look clunky and bad, but I know a girl that wears frames like that and they make her look irresistible.
Those aren't sweat pants I have on, BTW. They're black Dockers. I hate jeans, they are uncomfortable as hell, I never wear them.
Ha bloody ha. That's my office. What, is THAT not decorated enough either?
Ha bloody ha. That's my office. What, is THAT not decorated enough either?
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Let's try to keep it friendly here.
I will look into a second pair of glasses, and will keep you posted regarding that.
I went to dinner with my friend tonight, and we had an attractive waitress. While I didn't want to try anything there and then, I did decide to use the opportunity to work on my eye contact with her, and I wasn't as afraid as I thought, so that helped me a bit.
I think in the morning, I'll shower, put something nice on, and try to go to the library or Borders, and see if I can approach someone, and see how it goes. The desire to meet a woman is overpowering the fear of making an ass of myself, so I guess there's that, lol, plus the fact that I want to meet someone before I turn 34, which is in April. That's not to say I want to get married by then, but it'd be nice to at least have started on a relationship.
Let's try to keep it friendly here.
I will look into a second pair of glasses, and will keep you posted regarding that.I went to dinner with my friend tonight, and we had an attractive waitress. While I didn't want to try anything there and then, I did decide to use the opportunity to work on my eye contact with her, and I wasn't as afraid as I thought, so that helped me a bit.
I think in the morning, I'll shower, put something nice on, and try to go to the library or Borders, and see if I can approach someone, and see how it goes. The desire to meet a woman is overpowering the fear of making an ass of myself, so I guess there's that, lol, plus the fact that I want to meet someone before I turn 34, which is in April. That's not to say I want to get married by then, but it'd be nice to at least have started on a relationship.
Do people actually meet each other and exchange phone numbers in stores? I would never give a man my phone number I met in a store. Ever. I might give him some untraceable unused email address that I would then check to see if he wrote but we would have had to have had a REALLY great discussion first.
I don't think I could ASK for a phone number in a store either. It just sounds creepy.
I'd give out my number if we seemed to hit it off. Like you said, a good discussion would be important but it wouldn't be like telling him where I live or anything.
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I think the key would be not to ASK, but tell... and not in a demanding way, but casually working it into the afterthought of a conversation, for instance, I think the approach I would use, is to actually end a conversation early, as a safety mechanism AND open door... like, I could say "Well, I have to get going, but I really enjoyed our chat... I'd like to pick up where we left off... if you give me your number, I can call you, and we can have coffee or something".
At least, that's how I'd write it, if I were writing dialogue for such a situation, lol.
I think the key would be not to ASK, but tell... and not in a demanding way, but casually working it into the afterthought of a conversation, for instance, I think the approach I would use, is to actually end a conversation early, as a safety mechanism AND open door... like, I could say "Well, I have to get going, but I really enjoyed our chat... I'd like to pick up where we left off... if you give me your number, I can call you, and we can have coffee or something".
At least, that's how I'd write it, if I were writing dialogue for such a situation, lol.
No no say.. "here's my number if you want to continue the chat". That way you are giving, not asking for.
BUT I personally would go with email. I don't like talking on the phone but I do like email and it's so completely non threatening. This would be good for you BA since you like writing. You can send links or pics relating to whatever you were talking about in the store.
My glasses are similar to the black rimmed ones above, I'm not a big fan of rimless, they always feel on the verge if structural collapse, like a badly made bigmac.
In regards to hair, make sure if you go for a trim you tell the hairdresser exactly what you want otherwise they will ruin your hair. I say this as I had a bad experience at the weekend. My only instruction was 'make sure I still have a ponytail when your finished', I do, but it's no longer attached to the back of my head **weeps**
In regards to hair, make sure if you go for a trim you tell the hairdresser exactly what you want otherwise they will ruin your hair. I say this as I had a bad experience at the weekend. My only instruction was 'make sure I still have a ponytail when your finished', I do, but it's no longer attached to the back of my head **weeps**
Depending on the store - if it's at Borders or Barnes and Noble, you could always ask her if she'd like to meet there for coffee and continue the chat at another time. That way, you've already set up a "date" with a time and place and from there, it's less of a creepy place to ask for or give a phone number.
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