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I Need Some Dating Advice

Trekker4747 said:
Thing is, for me, just doing it IS a big deal. Saying to just do it is like telling someone to write with their other hand, "Other people write with that hand, why can't you?" I just don't have the power or confidence to do that after being conditioned that I'm not worthy over a long time. As for "the worst she can is 'no'." Exactly that's the whole of the other half of it.
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You do realize that you are the one doing the conditioning, right?
 
Trekker4747 said:
Thing is, for me, just doing it IS a big deal. Saying to just do it is like telling someone to write with their other hand, "Other people write with that hand, why can't you?" I just don't have the power or confidence to do that after being conditioned that I'm not worthy over a long time. As for "the worst she can is 'no'." Exactly that's the whole of the other half of it.
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Trekker4747 said:
Thing is, for me, just doing it IS a big deal. Saying to just do it is like telling someone to write with their other hand, "Other people write with that hand, why can't you?" I just don't have the power or confidence to do that after being conditioned that I'm not worthy over a long time. As for "the worst she can is 'no'." Exactly that's the whole of the other half of it.
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I feel for you. It's hard to get past something like that. You really just have to force yourself, even though it's uncomfortable. Maybe you will be disappointed... but maybe it will work out really well.

I wish you luck.
 
Suppose putting up a wall of excuses IS easier than actually having to do anything. Dumb, but easier.

I mean, what could happen? You're wrong, and she says yes, or you're right, and she says no. Isn't worst case exactly what you're already settling for, except you get to pat yourself on the back for having the balls to try?

You've chosen the course of action that's slightly worse than getting rejected, and told yourself you played it safe.


Congrats...?
 
Well, I sent her a text today asking if she wanted to meet for coffee or something similar. Just have to wait to see what happens.
 
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Trekker4747 said:
Thing is, for me, just doing it IS a big deal. Saying to just do it is like telling someone to write with their other hand, "Other people write with that hand, why can't you?"
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I can write with my other hand. It takes longer, it's awkward, I'm not as comfortable with it, it's messier, and it's somewhat ugly. But you know? It gets the job done. You don't have to be perfect at a skill to accomplish a task.
 
GemHaters said:
Once again, no offense to anyone here, but, uhm, Trekkie doesn't usually equal ladies man(Unless you're James T. Kirk). Let's be honest people...

Girl: "I'm a Libra"
Guy: "I'm a Trekkie!"
*chirp chirp*
-date OVER-

:lol:
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That's a faded stereotype. A huge amount of us on this forum are married. Search for past polls and you'll see.

And Admiral Shran just wanted to say that I bet you couldn't even imagine sending that text in the past so you have SUCCEEDED in taking a step forward :bolian:
 
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