I Need Some Dating Advice
- Thread starter Admiral Shran
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How did it go?
My two cents would be: meeting for coffee sometime around 4/4:30. If things go well, it will naturally segue into dinner. If not, you haven't committed to something with a set time frame.
My two cents would be: meeting for coffee sometime around 4/4:30. If things go well, it will naturally segue into dinner. If not, you haven't committed to something with a set time frame.
Not well, I presume.
Or it's true: If you have it, you don't talk about it.
Or it's true: If you have it, you don't talk about it.
doubleohfive
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^Seriously, dude, who peed in your Cheerios? Last thing the guy needs is people piling on the negativity.
You resurrected a two-week old thread just to piss on someone? What a life you lead.
You resurrected a two-week old thread just to piss on someone? What a life you lead.
Did anyone else not read this as JR being deliberately rude? The second sentence suggests to me that JR is saying it went well and the OP isn't of the "kiss and tell" mode. To translate JRs post, the way I read it:
Your lack of report indicates the date went either not well or it went well.
doubleohfive
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There are better ways to say it.
You resurrected a two-week old thread just to piss on someone? What a life you lead.
I ressurected this thread because I also want to know how it went. I responded to Shatnertage's "How did it go?"
I didn't take it as JR being rude.
Well, I wasn't going to say anything, because it hasn't gone well (believe me, if it had gone well, I would be shouting about from the rooftops
), but since you asked, I'll tell.
I got her number on New Year's Day. She said not to call for about a week because she was having problems with her phone. Well, it's now the 18th, and I still haven't called her.
If anybody read the initial post in my "I Hate Myself" thread that was linked to in this thread's first post, you know I have extreme problems interacting with women to begin with. Well, now I realize that those problems are even more deep seated than I thought. Even when a woman shows an interest in me, I'm still incapable of doing anything about it.
I've literally sat in front the phone every day for about the last week and a half trying my damnedest to work up the courage to call her. I simply can't do it, try as I might.
I've talked to my psychologist about this and we've come to the conclusion that my extremely low self-esteem is what's keeping me from calling. In other words, even though she's shown an interest, I can't shake the feeling that I'm not good enough for her (even if this is just a phone call) because I have such a low opinion of myself.
I'm, of course, going to do two things. 1.) I'm going keep trying to call and 2.) I'm going to keep trying to flirt with other women. I'm not giving up. But, at this point, it's been almost three weeks. Not sure what will happen with this woman.
Well, I wasn't going to say anything, because it hasn't gone well (believe me, if it had gone well, I would be shouting about from the rooftops
), but since you asked, I'll tell.I got her number on New Year's Day. She said not to call for about a week because she was having problems with her phone. Well, it's now the 18th, and I still haven't called her.
If anybody read the initial post in my "I Hate Myself" thread that was linked to in this thread's first post, you know I have extreme problems interacting with women to begin with. Well, now I realize that those problems are even more deep seated than I thought. Even when a woman shows an interest in me, I'm still incapable of doing anything about it.
I've literally sat in front the phone every day for about the last week and a half trying my damnedest to work up the courage to call her. I simply can't do it, try as I might.
I've talked to my psychologist about this and we've come to the conclusion that my extremely low self-esteem is what's keeping me from calling. In other words, even though she's shown an interest, I can't shake the feeling that I'm not good enough for her (even if this is just a phone call) because I have such a low opinion of myself.
I'm, of course, going to do two things. 1.) I'm going keep trying to call and 2.) I'm going to keep trying to flirt with other women. I'm not giving up. But, at this point, it's been almost three weeks. Not sure what will happen with this woman.
Because nothing deals with problems better than substance abuse.... ? 
Sorry things didn't go well for you, Shran. I can certainly understand and sympathize with being shy and unlucky when it comes to dating.
Sorry things didn't go well for you, Shran. I can certainly understand and sympathize with being shy and unlucky when it comes to dating.
The fact that she gave you her number shows that she thinks that you are good enough. I really hope that you give her a call.
Go on, man, pick up the phone and give her a call. Nothing stressful, afternoon coffee on the weekend at a bookstore is a great start.
Don't quite get the mindset, personally. If you call, you MIGHT fail. If you don't call, you DEFINITELY fail. Isn't it better to try and fail than to never try?
Honestly, what's the worst that could happen? She rejects you, but that's where you're at right now, so really nothing to lose.
Honestly, what's the worst that could happen? She rejects you, but that's where you're at right now, so really nothing to lose.
Do you know anybody she knows? Once you can isolate her interests and food source you can appeal to a common interest - money - Mo nee - more kids. Mullah - moo la. Moo! Cats and dogs. Are you interested in her interests? She + it =. Her + it = hurt.
Home - my ho and me. House - a ho and a mouse. Men and women are very different. While you're obsessing with I love her, I love her, she is thinking I love ice cream and potatos. So break the ice and just remember that you're a savage hairy descendant of Ghengis Khan and that is what she likes, or better.
Home - my ho and me. House - a ho and a mouse. Men and women are very different. While you're obsessing with I love her, I love her, she is thinking I love ice cream and potatos. So break the ice and just remember that you're a savage hairy descendant of Ghengis Khan and that is what she likes, or better.
I'd say call her. Seriously, there is nothing bad that can happen. She can say No, but that's the same thing as when you never call her. And if she says Yes, it's a huge success. And believe me, if you're successful, the next call will be a lot easier.
If you literally can't get yourself to call her, then do the following (and I'm not joking): ask a good friend to dial the number and give you the phone. That actually works. It's that artificial little push you need.
