It's been four years since I've been with a women in anything more than a friendly capacity, and even longer since I've been in a real relationship. Both times I was not the initiator.
So pardon me for being just a tad bit hesitant.
I need advice on what to do next regarding a female.
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It's been four years since I've been with a women in anything more than a friendly capacity, and even longer since I've been in a real relationship. Both times I was not the initiator.
So pardon me for being just a tad bit hesitant.
What did she say?!
Yeah, what did she say?
Aldo, I did the dating site thing for a couple of years. If you go through with it (and she too) at least a afternoon coffee date, so you can see each other face to face is a fine beginning. A traditional dinner date is even better, low key and not too romantic, meet her there, conversation. Find out if she is a veggie or a carnivore first.
Personally I think movies are poor first dates, you can't talk. Have a after dinner plan like a club if you gather she into such. After dinner walks are no fun in the freezing cold.
How old are the two of you?
Personally I think movies are poor first dates, you can't talk. Have a after dinner plan like a club if you gather she into such. After dinner walks are no fun in the freezing cold.
How old are the two of you?
Yes, indeed. If you have access to a police computer, don't forget to do a background check as well. Coppers tend to have juicy tidbits of information you might find helpful.
End of bullshit.
Jesus! Are you for real? Mate, I knew you weren't firing on all cylinders, but damn. That's too much, even for you.
Sure checking out her FB/twitter page for, say movies she likes, is fine. But "It's best to learn everything you can about her" is bordering on stalker-ish.
I see threads on here all the time asking for advice regarding members of the opposite sex. How was my query any different?
Ok, so I had to be pushed into asking her out, but when I'm actually out with a person I'm very outgoing and sociable. What I'm saying is, you're never going to see a thread from me called "When is a good time to stick it in?"
As for the people asking me what she said, well I literally sent her a message asking her out twenty minutes ago, I just took a look, and it appears she has read the message, so the balls in her court. If she says yes, she says yes, if not, oh well.
For your sake I hope it's a yes. But remember...just be confident about yourself and show good body language. And if she says no, well at least you stuck your neck out and tried so kudos.
Some people just have problems taking the initiative, Chem. I didn't initiate any of the relationships I've taken part in, but after getting over that hill I never had a problem.
Yep... it doesn't always have to be the man that initiates. I was the initiator in both of the serious relationships I've been in. There was no way either of them would have been able to step up and do it, and I knew it.
Yay! I'm proud of you. I think a lot of people want to get to know more about the person before asking them out, trying to gauge what their chances are and whatnot. Which I understand, but the important thing to keep in mind is that the whole point of dating is to get to know one another. It's okay to ask someone out and have it not work out.
Good job on asking her out!
I usually grow tired of dating advice threads (I clicked on this by accident, actually) but I actually get where Aldo is coming from here. I've used dating sites before and it's an odd way to talk to someone, especially someone you want to date, so figuring out the right way to initiate a meetup can be tricky. Some women on there are more hesitant, too, (and understandably so) and get a little cautious when it comes to meeting up.
My best advice is to ask but not come across as desperately wanting to meet up ASAP.
My best advice is to ask but not come across as desperately wanting to meet up ASAP.
Awesome! I'm happy for ya. Now just take things really slow and be very careful. And remember to show a confident air and positive body language. I recommend a cafe or restaurant, preferably of her choice if she'd like to go to one.
Again, avoid the MadBaggins Method. It's one step removed from the Buffalo Bill Method and won't get you anywhere but in the middle of a restraining order battle.
Again, avoid the MadBaggins Method. It's one step removed from the Buffalo Bill Method and won't get you anywhere but in the middle of a restraining order battle.
THE FEMALES!
Also...don't shout like Spock from "The Cage" when you're on your date. Most ladies don't appreciate every sentence ending in three or four exclamation points.
Aldo my male companion in the mysterious highway of love and romance I wish you the best of luck.
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