You'd be surprised. I've gone through 17 keyboards that way.
And to DB, kindly move your bigotry to TNZ or something. That's just not cool.
I have a dilemma.
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You'd be surprised. I've gone through 17 keyboards that way.
And to DB, kindly move your bigotry to TNZ or something. That's just not cool.
If you're gonna get in between all this maybe you could do the right thing and try and set each of these girls up with 2 nice straight christian guys. Or Jewish, it doesnt matter. Just not someone who is going to he!!.
This is way out of line. I'm letting it go with a friendly for now because this seems to be the first time you've said anything troublesome, but don't post this kind of bigoted nonsense here again or it will result in an infraction for trolling. Comments to PM if you want to discuss this further. Don't derail the topic any more, however.
You mentioned they live a hundred miles apart...but do they live near you? You can invite them over to someplace in between, if indeed there is anything in between to do. Once they get together and all three of you have a few drinks to loosen yourselves up, perhaps you will end up like Burt Reynolds' character in "Boogie Nights", sitting off to the side while Rollergirl goes to town on the fresh meat.
Be sure to have set up a few hidden cameras in the interim. This will be gold, and in your later years you will regret that you didn't immortalize this on video when you had the opportunity.
In all seriousness, however, I believe the first approach is the sensible one. Message them individually, saying you believe they may both benefit by talking to each other. The "out" one will appreciate you looking out for her, and the worst that the "not-so-out" one will think is, "She's not my type"...but she will still appreciate your discretion.
Who knows?...they might be so grateful for your discretion that they invite you to be the filling in their sandwich...
Yeah I'd go with the "nudge them along without breaking their trust" approach.
Personally though I'd rather be told that the person I was intrested in was intrested in me in return, even if that meant breaking a bit of trust. But then again I am terrible at reading signals and has had quite the poor love life.
Personally though I'd rather be told that the person I was intrested in was intrested in me in return, even if that meant breaking a bit of trust. But then again I am terrible at reading signals and has had quite the poor love life.
You guys are helpful. 
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I can put the ball in her court and if she doesn't act on it, I guess that's her problem. I can't do everything.
Sneaky!! Tempting, I just hope it wouldn't backfire.
Yeah, if they lived near me, that would be a possibility. I could ask them individually to come over and not let them know who else would be there, and then let nature take its course.
Yeah, I know there's no guarantee of a happy ending, I just happen to think they would be good for each other if they got past the things standing in their way.
I'm more concerned with how the "curious girl" would react if I told anyone else. Again, it's not public knowledge, and she's really paranoid about anyone else finding out. I think she very much needs to explore who she is and might need a little prodding to really do it.
I don't understand the reference, but I assume that was a joke.
It does seem like it would be easier to move things along if they lived near me, and I could do it more subtly. When all I've got to work with are words on a screen, it's not easy to get the point across without being blunt.
I think I'll hint to the curious girl that the other girl has spoken about her favorably and then give her a nudge in that direction. That's probably the least risky way to go about it. I haven't seen any better suggestions so far, other than the ones that aren't possible.
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I can put the ball in her court and if she doesn't act on it, I guess that's her problem. I can't do everything.
Sneaky!! Tempting, I just hope it wouldn't backfire.Yeah, if they lived near me, that would be a possibility. I could ask them individually to come over and not let them know who else would be there, and then let nature take its course.
Yeah, I know there's no guarantee of a happy ending, I just happen to think they would be good for each other if they got past the things standing in their way.
I'm more concerned with how the "curious girl" would react if I told anyone else. Again, it's not public knowledge, and she's really paranoid about anyone else finding out. I think she very much needs to explore who she is and might need a little prodding to really do it.
I don't understand the reference, but I assume that was a joke.
It does seem like it would be easier to move things along if they lived near me, and I could do it more subtly. When all I've got to work with are words on a screen, it's not easy to get the point across without being blunt.
I think I'll hint to the curious girl that the other girl has spoken about her favorably and then give her a nudge in that direction. That's probably the least risky way to go about it. I haven't seen any better suggestions so far, other than the ones that aren't possible.
I'm waiting for Adm_Hawthorne to chime in at some point.
I agree. Of course you would be taking a risk by acting at all, but for all the right reasons I think.
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To quote Mass Effect 2's Jeff "Joker" Moreau: "Take pictures!"
Bowa-chicka-wow-wow!
Oh, that. I just didn't make the connection.
Ani Difranco lesbian music melts men's brains.
Ani Difranco lesbian music melts men's brains.
I'll wear earplugs. Or just set up a webcam and sell tickets. Only I'm not that much of a bastard.
I'm a woman, and I agree with you. IMO, it is really dangerous to get involved in this.
This is not high school. They are presumably big kids and should be capable of working this out for themselves. If they are interested in each other, it will come out one way or the other, more than likely in interactions between them. And if it goes well after that, good for them.
But if the OP gets involved in this too much and someone eventually gets hurt, it could be very uncomfortable for them in their future relationships with one or both of these women.
Given that at least one of these women is still rather conflicted/confused about what they want and therefore needs a whole lot of space to work that out on her own without anyone pushing her toward a relationship, I'd stay far away from this one, in terms of getting personally involved. If they hook up on their own, show your support...but don't put them together yourself.
^^ Well, that's why they can't work it out for themselves-- Curious Girl is still incognito.
The best thing I can think of is to subtly steer Curious Girl toward Out Girl by saying positive things about her, in context of Curious Girl's curiosity whenever possible.
Or set up an alias on gmail and tip them off anonymously.
The best thing I can think of is to subtly steer Curious Girl toward Out Girl by saying positive things about her, in context of Curious Girl's curiosity whenever possible.
Or set up an alias on gmail and tip them off anonymously.
Same here. Deckerd and PKTrekGirl speak wisely. It's tempting to become involved but if anything backfires the bad feelings will be widespread and will fall back on you, despite your good intentions. If it's meant to be it will happen on its own eventually.
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