I feel lost....

[Jetfire]

No one is "lost". They just need to follow their passion...do what makes them happy...do what you want! It is hard when you have bills and obligations...but don't focus on what you don't want...focus on what you truly want.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

Like other people said, get off your ass and do something. Mix up your life a bit. Don't worry so much about having a destination. In fiction, the journey is more important than the destination, and the same holds for life.

 

[Kira's Mom]

Stop defining yourself by what you don't have, and start defining yourself by what you do have (a roof over your head, stable full-time employment, family, etc.).

If you're unhappy with your lot in life, do something about it. Get involved (you're still young enough to become part of your local Jaycees chapter), do community service, join a club, whatever. If your anti-depressant isn't working, ask your doctor to switch it. If your doctor won't, get a new one. You can't change anything unless you're proactive about doing so, just as I can't get myself another mug of coffee right now unless I actually get up and pour one.

You post a thread like this about once a year, it feels like. Quit feeling sorry for yourself. If you don't like your life, improve it. No one can do that but you.

Beautifully put.

 

[sidious618]

You win the gag war on detail, but a lack of links made my one-liner punchier.

I think it's time for you to see a therapist, dude. I'm being serious here.

No, he's right. Brevity is the soul of wit.

I was being serious. I take it you're anti-therapy...

 

[RJDiogenes]

No, I was being witty. You see, I was responding as if your Post were a response to Holdfast because it followed right after; that's why I quoted him, too.

 

[sidious618]

Doh! Should've realized that.

 

[T'Baio]

Hookers.

Hookers until you believe they love you.

 

[Holdfast]

Hookers until you believe they love you.

Cocaine speeds up that process.

Always happy to help.

 

[T'Baio]

You really can't go wrong with hookers and blow.

 

[Tora Ziyal]

I think it's time for you to see a therapist, dude.

I don't know a thing about the OP beyond what I'm reading in this thread, but this does sound like the best advice. Well, second only to this:

Sat-nav, or a map and compass, depending on your level of interest in the arcana of orienteering and comfort with technology.

 

[Holdfast]

You really can't go wrong with hookers and blow.

One of life's classic combinations, and with the potential to evolve into chlamydia and cokenose, another perennial favourite.

 

[Rincewiend]

 

[JarodRussell]

You really can't go wrong with hookers and blow.

One of life's classic combinations, and with the potential to evolve into chlamydia and cokenose, another perennial favourite.

If one stays in the price range of a DVD, like most idiots do, then yes.

 

[Tulin]

Stop defining yourself by what you don't have, and start defining yourself by what you do have

Indeed.

From reading many of the OP's posts I know he has a love of buying DVDs and new technology(Blue-Ray and 3D tellys). I have a couple of friends like that - it's like a drug that makes them happy for a short while but then leaves them feeling empty later.

Oh but WAIT! There's a new eight disk BR edition of Avatar coming out - "That'll tell us what to do!!!!"

It's futile and leaves one feeling empty, as well as denuding one of money.

One of my friends recently broke down with me and cried(and he's 49!)and said he hated his life and was SO sad.

I on the other hand went through a period seven years ago of no employment, hardly any friends and near poverty and used the time to sort myself out mentally and emotionally, working out what I have, what I need and so on. Ironically I did not have much but further rid my life of material albatrosses by purging my house(and thus my life)of excess possessions. It left me feeling unencumbered and FREE!

I now work in a job I love(performing physio with older people)with people I respect, making a difference daily in the lives of others(that's a BIG part of happiness!)and being paid very well for it. I am careful what I buy and WHY I BUY IT. THAT is the KEY!!!

I don't just get the latest tech that some marketing guru wants me to have - I leave that for the wannabes and try hards to spend their hard earned cash on and I get it three years later for a tenth of the price and with all the bugs ironed out. I have a partner I ADORE and who LOVES me and we holiday twice a year(New Zealand, Tasmania and off to the Gold Coast next May, with a cruise planned for September 2011, a US trip planned for 2012 plus we are already in the early planning stages of doing Red Carpet Tours Hobbit Part 2 premiere jaunt in December 2013!!!).

Stop salving your life's problems with new shiny BR disks and thinking the latest CGI wankfest will make you happy. Go out and help somebody and make a difference in THEIR LIFE instead of sitting and feeling sorry for yourself.

Therein lies true happiness!

 

[Tulin]

Sorry to sound so harsh - as I said I have a couple of friends who have this problem and rather than sitting down and working out what's wrong and FIXING the damned problem they just want to whine and complain to me about it. The 49 year old I mentioned is a REAL complainer. I have known him for fifteen years and that is basically the basis for out friendship - he comes over and just whinges, for the whole damned night.

It gets old and tiresome when he should be addressing the problems and doing something about it.

 

[T'Baio]

Some people like new technology because...you know...they just like new technology. There's nothing wrong with that. Some people are whiners, others are too judgmental.

 

[sidious618]

Yeah, I don't see what buying DVDs has to do with being depressed.

 

[Trekker4747]

I like collecting DVDs it doesn't make me feel good or... anything really. I just like collecting them.

 

[Tulin]

Yeah, I don't see what buying DVDs has to do with being depressed.

I was trying to make a link and using the example of some friends of mine who, in middle age have found their lives to be empty and are suffering depression because they think acquisitions will make them happy.

Since I knew the OP has quite a large DVD collection and likes getting new tech all the time I was just trying to find a common link to maybe point out a change that could help.


And I was never a judgemental person until I got a partner who is a psych major and has helped me realize some of the leeching, using "friends" in my life are using my good nature to get some serious "whinge time"(fifteen years in one case)away from their partners, which is a COMPLETE waste of my time and life energy.

 

[SicOne]

Where you are is Point A. Where you want to be is Point B. What you have to do is get yourself from Point A to Point B. So the first question is: Where do you want to be?

On a beach somewhere warm, with a drink in my hand and beautiful women playing topless volleyball in front of me.