I feel emotionally and physically exhausted

[RJDiogenes]

^^ Good idea! The part about not derailing the Thread, I mean.

sidious, you are doing all the right things; much more than should be expected of you, in fact. You can't save the world by yourself. This is a tough time for your parents, and they're Human; they'll react according to their own strengths and weaknesses. It sounds like it may not be possible given the circumstances, but if you could get everybody into some counseling together it might help.

Otherwise, know that you are doing good.

 

[sidious618]

Thanks, RJD!

 

[Lookingglassman]

Man, that sounds tough. I really feel for you and your family. How is your dad handling your mom's blow up? I know he must have felt low and that wasnt right at all.

I know this may sound stupid, but just pray. It is free and it don't hurt anything. Pray and see what happens.

I really wish you and your family luck.

 

[sidious618]

Thanks, LGM.

 

[TheBrew]

Sometimes have to let people deal with the situation. They'll come around. If your mother is still like this in a week, then I would consider (if I was you) telling her to either shit or get off the pot. Stewing does nothing to help whatever problems your family faces and being a constant source of negativity will actually hurt the rest of your family. I guess in a nicer way, you could suggest counseling in she keeps this up. Having a private third party to use as a sounding board can do wonders for increasing emotional stability and mental clarity.

 

[Chess Piece Face]

Don,

First let me say good luck. Secondly you are at a critical point in your life - being in your second year in college it is very easy to get distracted and to sway into other areas that are not in your best interest. My advice is to concentrate on yourself. It is not your job, nor was it ever your job, to take care of your parents in any way. YOU are THEIR kid. Your mom is acting like a child. I believe from your post that your pops is doing what he can to find work, and that's all you can hope for in that area.

Whatever happens know that it is NOT your job to hold together SHIT. You should be concentrating on college. Period.

 

[The Grim Ghost]

Make sure that you have some "me time" every day. Even if it is only 10 minutes, half an hour..whatever you can get. Do something that you find relaxing and enjoyable during that time and make it clear to your family that you WILL NOT be available during this short period.

I understand that it is important to help your family, but you need to take some time for yourself to stay sane. Also remember that things will get better eventually, even if they have to get worse first.

If you feel like you can talk to your parents about this, do it. Maybe they don't realize how much stress you are under. If not, just try and hold on and wait for things to stabilize a bit so you can get out of there. You need your own space.

 

[sidious618]

Thanks, guys. It helps a lot to hear the various viewpoints, it really does. My me time has been the trekbbs a bit lately as it provides quite the easy distraction because it's accessible all the time!

 

[JAG]

Glad we can be of help!

You can't fix your parents problems, only they can. You need to protect yourself so that you don't feel this way. Do what you can to help your family, but do something for yourself as well.