'I Caught Myself Looking'

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

I don't care who the women are dressing for, be it men, other women, or themselves. There are just certain things that I think look stupid and I don't understand why they would want to ever appear that way in public.

I just think my biggest issue is that women always end up dressing THE SAME. Again, maybe this is just something I notice more because I'm a bartender and I see groups of girls all the time. They're all dressed more or less the same, and they all come up to the bar and order "something fruity" because apparently none of them actually know how to order anything specific.

And just how different are you?

 

[Gary Mitchell]

1) The hair bump -- Why do you want me to think you have a conehead?

I'm definitely with you on the hair bumps. Luckily I'm seeing less of them lately except for Flo, the Progressive insurance spokesperson.

 

[Kestra]

I just like my women to look as natural as possible.

What you call "natural", is actually accurately staged and painstakingly created with clothes, make-up, and other uncountable little tortures women endure dayly. No woman is "natually" hairless, with perfect skin, combed hair, and smells like vanilla. So you should at least recognize their efforts to look their best, while appearing to have done nothing.

Yes!

1) The hair bump -- Why do you want me to think you have a conehead?

I'm definitely with you on the hair bumps. Luckily I'm seeing less of them lately except for Flo, the Progressive insurance spokesperson.

It might have something to do with a lot of women wanting more volume to their hair.

 

[Gryffindorian]

I don't mind the Amy Winehouse hairdo at all. I think it's sensational.

 

[Thestral]

Smokey eyes make girls look like evil clowns.

They look redundant?

 

[Nerys Myk]

I'm old and married now. I'm pretty sure no one checks me out. In my younger days I had a girlfriend ask me why I never seem to be checking out other girls. Going the honesty route, I told her I did, but in way that wasn't obvious because I was with her.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I had a girlfriend ask me why I never seem to be checking out other girls.

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[Nerys Myk]

I had a girlfriend ask me why I never seem to be checking out other girls.

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Well I thought it was an odd question, too. Then again she was an odd person. That's probably why I liked her.

 

[RoJoHen]

I don't care who the women are dressing for, be it men, other women, or themselves. There are just certain things that I think look stupid and I don't understand why they would want to ever appear that way in public.

I just think my biggest issue is that women always end up dressing THE SAME. Again, maybe this is just something I notice more because I'm a bartender and I see groups of girls all the time. They're all dressed more or less the same, and they all come up to the bar and order "something fruity" because apparently none of them actually know how to order anything specific.

And just how different are you?

The difference is: when I go out with my guys friends, none of us give a shit what we wear. We throw on jeans or shorts or t-shirts or whatever. We don't spend an hour "getting ready" only to look exactly the same as all of our friends.

When I see a group of girls out at the bar, they are all wearing skinny jeans, black sparkly shirts, high heels, and they have their hair done is such a fashion that it no longer moves.

 

[Mr Silver]

When I see a group of girls out at the bar, they are all wearing skinny jeans, black sparkly shirts, high heels, and they have their hair done is such a fashion that it no longer moves.

But that's the fashion though...

A lot of women are quick to pick up on the current styles (if you can call some of the horrendous things about at the moment as "style") and will dress with those in mind. As a result, you get a bar full of similarly dressed women.

IMHO, a lot of men are just as bad, although some of them will just let their girlfriends/wives style them and are completely indifferent to what they are wearing.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I had a girlfriend ask me why I never seem to be checking out other girls.

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Well I thought it was an odd question, too. Then again she was an odd person. That's probably why I liked her.

She sounds like the Mirror Universe version of my last girlfriend, who openly bitched at me for making eye contact with the waitress while we were ordering lunch.

 

[Nerys Myk]

You have much to learn young Padawan.

 

[Kestra]

I don't care who the women are dressing for, be it men, other women, or themselves. There are just certain things that I think look stupid and I don't understand why they would want to ever appear that way in public.

I just think my biggest issue is that women always end up dressing THE SAME. Again, maybe this is just something I notice more because I'm a bartender and I see groups of girls all the time. They're all dressed more or less the same, and they all come up to the bar and order "something fruity" because apparently none of them actually know how to order anything specific.

And just how different are you?

The difference is: when I go out with my guys friends, none of us give a shit what we wear. We throw on jeans or shorts or t-shirts or whatever. We don't spend an hour "getting ready" only to look exactly the same as all of our friends.

When I see a group of girls out at the bar, they are all wearing skinny jeans, black sparkly shirts, high heels, and they have their hair done is such a fashion that it no longer moves.

So ... people who aren't precisely as apathetic as you are something to complain about? Seriously, you're starting to gripe about just about everything. If anyone, male or female, likes to take time getting ready and follow current trends, who cares? You don't get why people are that way, great. There are plenty of things that I don't get but I don't go around griping about them all the time.

 

[TorontoTrekker]

I will occasionally look when I pass a cute guy on the street, but I almost immediately chastise myself for it. Like PopBoy, I have self-esteem issues, so the conversation with myself will go something like this: "Ooh, he's cute -- no, stop looking. He'd never be interested in you. Why bother?"

I can only think of three times when I've noticed a guy checking me out. One was on the subway about eight months ago, when I got up to stand near the door as the train was leaving the stop before mine. That was actually an all-out staring contest - when I got up, he looked right at me, which caught my attention, and we spent the two minutes between stations looking right into each other's eyes from about a foot away. I didn't know whether to be creeped out or invite him back to my place (as it transpired, neither happened).

The second one was a few months later. I'd stopped to pick up some groceries, and on my way out of the supermarket, this guy who had been on his way in did a 180 and followed me out the door and to the corner. After crossing the street, I had to stop at a convenience store that was about a block north of the intersection. He was going east, and he stood at the corner and clearly wanted me to follow him.

What got to me about both of these was this -- why, if they were interested, didn't they just say "hello"? So I figure they weren't so much interested, as being creepy. (There's that low self-esteem thing again, I guess.)

The third one I remember was when I was about 12 or 13 - I was on my way home from school when a guy who was about 14 or 15 walked past me in the opposite direction. I turned to check him out (not really understanding why, at the time), and caught him checking me out, then we both looked up and smiled at each other.

Sometimes, when I've been out with ChrinFinity, she's told me that someone was checking me out, but by the time I've figured out who it is, the moment has long passed. Coincidentally, the last time we were out together and someone checked me out (that I know of), it was the guy from the supermarket. What are the odds of that?

 

[RoJoHen]

And just how different are you?

The difference is: when I go out with my guys friends, none of us give a shit what we wear. We throw on jeans or shorts or t-shirts or whatever. We don't spend an hour "getting ready" only to look exactly the same as all of our friends.

When I see a group of girls out at the bar, they are all wearing skinny jeans, black sparkly shirts, high heels, and they have their hair done is such a fashion that it no longer moves.

So ... people who aren't precisely as apathetic as you are something to complain about? Seriously, you're starting to gripe about just about everything. If anyone, male or female, likes to take time getting ready and follow current trends, who cares? You don't get why people are that way, great. There are plenty of things that I don't get but I don't go around griping about them all the time.

There's a reason it's called a "rant" and not a serious critique on modern fashion.

I'm also drunk on margaritas. Don't take me too seriously.

 

[Gryffindorian]

I will occasionally look when I pass a cute guy on the street, but I almost immediately chastise myself for it. Like PopBoy, I have self-esteem issues, so the conversation with myself will go something like this: "Ooh, he's cute -- no, stop looking. He'd never be interested in you. Why bother?"

I can only think of three times when I've noticed a guy checking me out. One was on the subway about eight months ago, when I got up to stand near the door as the train was leaving the stop before mine. That was actually an all-out staring contest - when I got up, he looked right at me, which caught my attention, and we spent the two minutes between stations looking right into each other's eyes from about a foot away. I didn't know whether to be creeped out or invite him back to my place (as it transpired, neither happened).

The second one was a few months later. I'd stopped to pick up some groceries, and on my way out of the supermarket, this guy who had been on his way in did a 180 and followed me out the door and to the corner. After crossing the street, I had to stop at a convenience store that was about a block north of the intersection. He was going east, and he stood at the corner and clearly wanted me to follow him.

What got to me about both of these was this -- why, if they were interested, didn't they just say "hello"? So I figure they weren't so much interested, as being creepy. (There's that low self-esteem thing again, I guess.)

?

Recalling all agents. Abort mission! I repeat! Abort mission! We've been compromised! Just kidding ...

It sounded to me almost like the supermarket guy was stalking. Hell, I'd be suspicious if a stranger started following me around. That's just me, but be careful.

 

[TorontoTrekker]

I will occasionally look when I pass a cute guy on the street, but I almost immediately chastise myself for it. Like PopBoy, I have self-esteem issues, so the conversation with myself will go something like this: "Ooh, he's cute -- no, stop looking. He'd never be interested in you. Why bother?"

I can only think of three times when I've noticed a guy checking me out. One was on the subway about eight months ago, when I got up to stand near the door as the train was leaving the stop before mine. That was actually an all-out staring contest - when I got up, he looked right at me, which caught my attention, and we spent the two minutes between stations looking right into each other's eyes from about a foot away. I didn't know whether to be creeped out or invite him back to my place (as it transpired, neither happened).

The second one was a few months later. I'd stopped to pick up some groceries, and on my way out of the supermarket, this guy who had been on his way in did a 180 and followed me out the door and to the corner. After crossing the street, I had to stop at a convenience store that was about a block north of the intersection. He was going east, and he stood at the corner and clearly wanted me to follow him.

What got to me about both of these was this -- why, if they were interested, didn't they just say "hello"? So I figure they weren't so much interested, as being creepy. (There's that low self-esteem thing again, I guess.)

?

Recalling all agents. Abort mission! I repeat! Abort mission! We've been compromised! Just kidding ...

It sounded to me almost like the supermarket guy was stalking. Hell, I'd be suspicious if a stranger started following me around. That's just me, but be careful.

Well, several months had elapsed between the two sightings - and in the meantime, I'd moved halfway across the city.

Come to think of it, there was another incident about six weeks ago when someone followed me home from the subway. It was very clear that it wasn't just a case of us both going in the same direction - at one point, he stopped and turned as if to go into a building as we passed, and when I didn't stop, he made an effort to catch up. When I got to the door of my building, he turned around and walked back the way he'd come. That was definitely creepy.

(The really odd thing about this, to me, is that every single one of these guys was Asian. I don't know if that's just a coincidence - three or four is not a particularly large sample to extrapolate from - or if there's some cultural thing I'm not aware of.)

 

[Gryffindorian]

Just be careful and remember all the safety rules. (If you suspect someone following you in an aggressive and unwelcome way, go to a public area where it's crowded and easy to get help.) Since I work in Oakland, CA, where crime rate is high, I've been to a few safety briefings provided by my employer.

 

[Gil T.Azell]

I'm a guy Of course I looked, she caught me handed me a card with her name and Number, I still cant afford her
but they were nice.

 

[Tiberius]

I've looked, (who hasn't) but I keep it to a glance, not an extended ooglin'

You must let her see the fire in your eyes!