Congrats and good for you!
I came out. Yay me.
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Well dude, that's great for you! I've told some friends IRL, and they've all been supportive of me so yay that it went well for you.
Now that that's out of the way ...
How you doin'?
Now that that's out of the way ...
How you doin'?
I have a very close friend that I'm waiting for to have the same conversation with me. I hope I'm half as supportive as your friend. He's either a closeted gay or asexual. The man's 27 years old and has only ever shown interest in one or two unattainable celebrity women.
I'll come at you like a ... well how about we jsut leave it at that?
Got the leash?
But seriously, this is wonderful. When i came out to one of my friends, she totally cornered me really and left me with no option but to come out. She knew i was gay for a very long time, but she just had to get it out of me. Afterwards, i felt better, even though i cried like a little girl.
But seriously, this is wonderful. When i came out to one of my friends, she totally cornered me really and left me with no option but to come out. She knew i was gay for a very long time, but she just had to get it out of me. Afterwards, i felt better, even though i cried like a little girl.
I told you never to mention that again.
On the serious note, I somehow managed to avoid becoming extremely emotional, which is odd for me. It probably helped that I had been drinking for six straight hours beforehand. (Coming out to my friends at a big party one was throwing made sense in context.)
On the serious note, I somehow managed to avoid becoming extremely emotional, which is odd for me. It probably helped that I had been drinking for six straight hours beforehand. (Coming out to my friends at a big party one was throwing made sense in context.)
That is wonderful! A true friend accepts you for who you really are.
My brother is gay, but it wasn't until I broached the subject (after a friend had told me) that he acknowledged it to me. I told him it changed nothing as far as I was concerned.
I'm also related to a few lesbians.
My brother is gay, but it wasn't until I broached the subject (after a friend had told me) that he acknowledged it to me. I told him it changed nothing as far as I was concerned.
I'm also related to a few lesbians.
When my friend pretty much cornered me, i had been drinking too. I tend to say just about anything when i'm drunk, but i still put up a wall about that. She was able to finally tear it down.
And i was a blubbering mess.
Great story. Good for you
While I'm of course pleased you have stopped hiding, I must say I'm concerned and upset you felt the need to hide it, and that you should feel worried about telling someone- and your best friend of all people! It's your sexuality, my friend, it should be no more a deal than your hair colour or whether you're left or right handed. When people in my community at age 16 or so said "I'm gay" it was something completely casual. I'm worried that you seem to think it's normal or natural to be concerned, even about telling your best friend. 
And I'm worried that every other response seems to also accept this terrible nervousness as well, as though it's a massive hurdle.
And I'm worried that every other response seems to also accept this terrible nervousness as well, as though it's a massive hurdle.
It IS a big hurdle though. No matter how well you know someone, you don't know how they are going to react to such information. You hope that they don't care but there are too many people out there that do and would end friendships because of that. I'm glad it all worked out for the OP; it doesn't always.
The reason why i didn't come out in HS was because i heard all the talk that the other guys would say and yeah, i didn't want any part of that.
The reason why i didn't come out in HS was because i heard all the talk that the other guys would say and yeah, i didn't want any part of that.
Well, I think it's probably a huge hurdle to even admit it to yourself.
Most people probably go through life expecting to be straight (it's like the default sexual preference), and unfortunately the whole of society hasn't quite accepted homosexuality as much as we might like it to.
Again, I'm saddenned that your communities were so intolerant as to put you in such a dilemma. I'm not denying it is, sadly, often a huge thing. But I'm sure we'd agree it shouldn't be.
Well, sadly, there are still a lot of people who think it's wrong.
Indeed. You're quite right. I just had to post a disturbed reaction because, having several homosexual friends, it worried me how accepting everyone was of the very real possibility of rejection.
^^It took me forever to admit it to myself. I went through high school assuming i was just bi and what have you. It wasn't until late in HS that i realized exactly what i am.
And it shouldn't be. Too bad we're not that advanced yet where it won't matter at all.
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