But you could say that about any annoying habit of any person you care about. Does this mean that you never complain about anything that anyone you care about does? Should I have not ever complained about my sons' smelly shoes or about their choice in music? Is it wrong for me to tell a son off if he wakes me up when he stumbles in drunk in the wee hours of the morning? Should I be happy when my eldest son phone me up far too late in the evening, or should I quite entitled to tell him to only phone after 10pm if it is a real emergency?