Then you're fine for coffee. Absolutely fine.
Actually, dude is at a university, and if you read the posts up thread, he hasn't exactly taken well to some of the more, shall we say, fornicatory suggestions.
How young is too young?
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That's not my point. I'm at college (or university it's all the same to me) and let me assure you, you hear some heinous shit at times. The idea of fondling someone's breast is hardly a shock. At this point if you described anal sex I'd describe it as "mildly crass."
Ah, society. You gotta love it.
Just be sure that the people who have influence over you know this. Sometimes the appearance of impropriety can be just as damaging as the real thing.
"Actually, dude is at a university, and if you read the posts up thread, he hasn't exactly taken well to some of the more, shall we say, fornicatory suggestions. "
I just don't want to give the impression that I would "take advantage" of this young woman. That leads into a whole other mess that I would like very much to avoid at this point in my life.
I just don't want to give the impression that I would "take advantage" of this young woman. That leads into a whole other mess that I would like very much to avoid at this point in my life.
You sound kinda stressed. Let this girl take you out and get yourself laid brutha!
I know, I know. You don't want to take advantage. Don't worry, you aren't. She wants it too.
DISCLAIMER: Before you jump into bed with her, find out that she does indeed want to sleep with you as well. This post is meant for entertainment purposes only and should not be construed as actual advice.
I know, I know. You don't want to take advantage. Don't worry, you aren't. She wants it too.
DISCLAIMER: Before you jump into bed with her, find out that she does indeed want to sleep with you as well. This post is meant for entertainment purposes only and should not be construed as actual advice.
you should go for it. Relationships shouldn't be bounded by age at all. My girlfriend is 26 (I'm 21) and we've been dating a year and a half and plan on moving in together later this year. Also common to your story, at one point in time she one of my professers. When she was my professor, our feelings largely were hidden from one another, and I think maintaining distance in that situation is best. Once that semester was over things quickly heated up. As a TA, it seems you have no direct impact over her grades and so forth, so I don't think there's a need to wait.
She could be trying to take advantage of you. Make sure she doesn't want you to buy beer for her.
Guartho;2581445 She could be trying to take advantage of you. Make sure she doesn't want you to buy beer for her.[/quote said:
She is an adult and you have no authority over her in terms of grades etc. In what sense would you be taking advantage of her? She is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions. Frankly, your attitude is a little condescending.
I think you should shag the poor girl to make it up to her.
Keep that suspicion in the back of your mind so you're protected, but don't let it get in the way of having a good time if you hit it off. Nagging doubt/worry is something I tend to struggle with, and if you don't keep it in check, you'll drive yourself nuts.
For example, I was on the phone with the lady that repeatedly agrees to eat meals with me to plan something this weekend for our sixth date. She mentioned that she wasn't free this weekend, and after talking for a while, she got another call and put me on hold. After a few minutes of hold, the call was dropped with no further reply. Logically, I realize that there's nothing sinister going on here (she has a couple of jobs, call waiting can mess up for no reason), but I now have this gnawing dread that (a) she might have gotten some bad news from friends or family or (b) I somehow messed things up and she wants to dump me (even though our last date went really well). Now I'll probably be all gloomy until I get a call or text from her. Still, I'm working hard to contain the obsessive worry, and don't let a similar problem get in the way of having a nice time.
Hmph...I think that's the most I've ever expounded on my personal life in my four years on TrekBBS.
Time for bed.
I'll just chime in with the folks who have said that so long as your university doesn't forbid it, there's nothing wrong with going for coffee and getting to know her a little better. If she turns out to be more immature than you care for, then you can decline any future requests for dates - but don't assume that she's immature just because she's 8 years or so younger than you.
Looking over this thread, I'm wondering if I've got the relationship with the widest age difference - I'm 18 years older than my boyfriend. It worried me a little at first, but he's not concerned at all, and his parents, brother and sister-in-law don't seem to have any issues with it either (I "met" them over Skype when he was at his parents' for Christmas). We manage to find plenty in common - we chat about four times a week, for an average of three hours or so each time - so I don't buy into the opinion that two people of wildly disparate ages can't have anything to talk about.
Looking over this thread, I'm wondering if I've got the relationship with the widest age difference - I'm 18 years older than my boyfriend. It worried me a little at first, but he's not concerned at all, and his parents, brother and sister-in-law don't seem to have any issues with it either (I "met" them over Skype when he was at his parents' for Christmas). We manage to find plenty in common - we chat about four times a week, for an average of three hours or so each time - so I don't buy into the opinion that two people of wildly disparate ages can't have anything to talk about.
