That's because you're trying to paint rational human motives and thought processes on an irrational, homicidal alien.I think you’re putting too much emphasis on the Kelvin as a motive. The story works just as well (as far as Nero’s motives are concerned) if it’s a comet that nails the Narada, so you don’t have to accept the idea of the Kelvin as a contributor to Nero’s Federphobia.
If a comet hits the Narada, it's not his fault unless he went flying into its path. He put himself in the trouble he ends up in. That's the kind of behavior I can't really grasp.
It's an ontological requirement that Nero ISN'T a rational person and doesn't have alot of rational motivations, probably even by Romulan standards. If he was, then he wouldn't have chased Spock through the black hole and none of the events of STXI would have taken place to begin with.
You're confusing your terms here. We understand perfectly well how WE feel about Muslims and why we feel that way. The question is why do THEY feel the way they do? Most westerners have only a vague idea at best, and the rest of us don't really care. There's some history there that bears examination some of which is legitimately our fault, most of which is just accidental, and understanding Jihadist hatred towards the west is futile without knowing the backgrounds of the Muslim Brotherhood and the respective chess games between the CIA and the KGB that helped bring it to fruition.To an extent, I can understand wanting to rid of people who are so contrary, even though I wouldn't want to do so, especially considering collateral. However, there's a big history with how we feel about Muslims and others, and we can't really be certain why Nero feels the way he does about humans.
OTOH, most Jihadists don't actually know why they hate the west either, at least not to an extent they could put into words. For many of them the conflict is actually older than they are and they hate simply because they're used to hating (kinda like many Americans still hate communists despite the fact that the Cold War has been over for twenty years).
Since STXI is not an historical documentary I wouldn't expect it to give an in-depth analysis of Romulan enmity towards the Federation. It's enough to know that Nero is psychotic alien warlord addicted to rage and hell-bent on destroying Vulcan, Earth, and all other Federation worlds. He's just evil; why don't really know why, and it doesn't really matter.
Nero is the antagonist. You're not supposed to identify with him. You're supposed to identify with Kirk and Spock.Again, it's hard for me to identify with someone who has a problem, is given the keys to fix it, yet decides to basically make the problem worse. And I think this hardly sums up the ridiculous circumstances surrounding Nero.
FYI, not that it matters, but it is this very same irrational self-destructive behavior that causes me not to identify with my dad and many parents not to identify with their children. You have the solution right there in front of you and yet for some deeply emotional/personal reason you do the one thing in the world that is guaranteed to make it worse.
And people wonder why the Vulcans turned to logic.