Probably about once a month.
Do the math.
Do the math.
How often do you cry?
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Just got done with great, heaving sobs. I felt pretty awful, but feel the better for it now. Seems like I cry all the time these days. I have also been through periods when I hardly ever cried. Somewhere in the middle is best, I think. 
I cry a lot. It probably averages out to once every two weeks or so. The number goes way up if I've had a drink or two - I get really sensitive then. One night this summer I had had a couple of beers and was watching an old episode of The Nanny, and started bawling during one of Fran and Mr. Sheffield's almost-but-not-quite moments.
....then again, maybe I was just crying because I realised I was at home, drinking and watching reruns of The Nanny by myself on a Saturday night.
....then again, maybe I was just crying because I realised I was at home, drinking and watching reruns of The Nanny by myself on a Saturday night.
Nobody told me there'd be math involved!
The Liebestod from Tristan und Isolde gets me every time.
Other than that I never cry. Well, hardly ever. Well, quite a lot actually.
Well, let me put it this way: Every day I speak to people who have cancer or some other illness, or have a sick or injured child, or are otherwise suffering through some kind of tragedy. So, a lot.
I used to cry very often, mostly at night before going to sleep when thinking about this and that. I rarely cry when other people are around (only in extreme situations).
Since about a year or so I do not cry as much as I used too, which is bad, because with trying to shut down those feelings I lost a lot creativity and profoundness. I feel I grew colder and harder, less complex and less complete, though I feel unable to go back yet and let myself be vulnerable again to those feelings and thoughts.
TerokNor
Since about a year or so I do not cry as much as I used too, which is bad, because with trying to shut down those feelings I lost a lot creativity and profoundness. I feel I grew colder and harder, less complex and less complete, though I feel unable to go back yet and let myself be vulnerable again to those feelings and thoughts.
TerokNor
Typically about once a day. But not for personal reasons (99.9% of the time -- though my life is a big black hole of suck, topped off with sick and dying family).
The tears are usually from writing; plotted out sad events, writing sad scenes in my stories, etc.
The tears are usually from writing; plotted out sad events, writing sad scenes in my stories, etc.
I understand your concerns, my friend. I've had to make sense of similar feelings myself, having also found myself far more stoic than I used to be. Sometimes I really regret my apparent inability to reach the extent of emotional sensitivity I once did.
I probably cry on average once a month. The last time was while watching "The Inner Light" the other day.
I am a total sucker for sentimental moments in film.
I am a total sucker for sentimental moments in film.
You think it will return one day?
I remember a time someone just gave me a sentences I could make up at least 10 story plot bunnies in a short time, now I struggle to get even one story written, though in the beginning, when I stopped crying often, I also stopped writing at all...so I guess at least struggling with one story is an improvement.
But since that one day its like a blockade in my brain, that prevents intense pain and sadness...but also the opposite, intense joy and love.
Its like I lost something of myself, or at least hid away so good, that I cannot reach it anylonger. Strange. And the more I try to find it again, the more pressure I put on myself, the further away it slips.
TerokNor
I'm pathetic. I've always cried a lot and have never outrgrown it. I internalise a lot and have an overactive imagination, which doesn't help. Also, once I start it's hard for me to stop. Oddly, if someone else is breaking down and confiding in me I'm pretty good at staying strong, though I usually break down afterwards about it when I'm alone.
aww bless ya, i do cry when i feel sad or when i feel lonely sometimes, i cry always at a sad film or series i am sucker for them .
and what makes me sad and upset is people who mess you about and treat people mean and who seem to get pleasure on hurting others feelings ,just a cryer baby in general!
and what makes me sad and upset is people who mess you about and treat people mean and who seem to get pleasure on hurting others feelings ,just a cryer baby in general!
Nowhere Man
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I cried about two months ago when I rewatched BSG. I cry when I watch "Daybreak" when Laura Rosylin dies. My mom died of breast cancer in july of 09, her name was Laura. Rosylin and my mom were freekisly alike in many ways. It's like Ron Moore based the character off my mom. Other than that, I don't really cry much unless I think about shit too much. I try not to do that, so I stay busy or pre-occupied. Ok, TMI in that last sentence, sorry.
I hope so. I think it's wise to remember that your complexity, your ability to respond emotionally, your imagination, are all still there. They haven't been removed, they're simply harder to reach or experiencing increased difficulty in manifesting. There are barriers which prevent an easy exchange between your surroundings and your internalized self; what those barriers are or how and why they've established themselves I can't know of course, but you have not been diminished...it's just ability to express yourself that has. And that might well change again as your life unfolds. Different situations and experiences might cause the barriers to "drop" and the flow of creativity and emotion to manifest again.
One thing I've learned is that the mind is good at knowing what needs to be done. It can be difficult, when it's manipulations act against your current desires, but I really do believe - and I think my experiences have shown me- that ultimately it will instinctively do its best to guide you.
Sometimes, the mind is wary of too much sensitivity, depending on your circumstances.So, yes, I think it's entirely possible that both you and I will again become more emotional, and reachieve that "vanished" sensitivity - only perhaps in a more stable circumstance, when our sensitivity and imagination is clearly a strength not a potential liability. I think people like you and I, in being very flexible, find it difficult to accept that achieving a stoic state of being "walled-in" is, ironically, an important part of that flexibility.
I suspect the answer I've highlighted - it's still in there, you haven't suddenly changed and become less of a creative or emotionally sensitive person. Your capacity to be so is as strong as it ever was. It's just that your mind at present perhaps sees more immediate use for other qualities and is "storing" that potential for sensitivity away for now. It'll manifest again when needed.
How old are you again, TerokNor? Are you close to my age? Because the whole experience of "going out into the world" as a young man (or woman) might well have the mind triggering a state where it prefers the virtues of strength and stability over the virtues of flexible emotion and heightened sensitivity. It might just be a "defensive" reflex in response to life changes- when you find your feet, it might "relax" again and resume its previous sensitive status?
I don't cry terribly often. I think the last time was around the end of September, more than a week after I buried my Dad. I hadn't had much emotional response in the time period following his death, probably because I was trying to keep my Mom and sisters on an even keel, but one night, while I was eating dinner with my wife, I suddenly had a massive breakdown and wailed like a newborn baby for a good half-hour.
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